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This is.. the dating chat thread, number 38

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lubeybooby Fri 25-Jan-13 15:38:49

All dating related chit chat, as usual... in here

off we go! grin

lubeybooby Fri 25-Jan-13 15:39:54

another new one already shock god we can't half yap... so that's 38,000 words so far, pretty much a novel grin

lubeybooby Fri 25-Jan-13 15:40:11

I mean messages not words... the words would be waaaaaaaaaay more

KirstyWirsty Fri 25-Jan-13 15:50:13

Just marking my spot .. out tonight (10 mins til Coffee time) so no doubt I'll have 20 pages to catch up on tomorrow!

OhWesternWind Fri 25-Jan-13 16:15:41

Ooh you lucky thing Kirsty - enjoy yourselves!

KirstyWirsty Fri 25-Jan-13 16:19:10

He's stuck on the motorway .. snowing here now! sad

mercury7 Fri 25-Jan-13 16:25:48

Domestic

'We could have a drink somewhere to make sure neither of us is some kind of monster. Though I'm willing to forgo that. If you fancy coming up to Seven Sisters sometime you can come to my house. How's that for an offer?'

I find that a bit alarming!
Of course he's willing to forgo it..women have far more reason to be wary of men they've never met before than vice versa.
And suggesting that you're go to his house when you've never met before is some kind of favour to you??

Surely any rational man would realise you need to meet him in a neutral place first to make sure you feel safe & comfortable with him?

I'm not over reacting am I??

lubeybooby Fri 25-Jan-13 16:26:26

Oh no kirsty! Hope he makes it soon!

AndLibbyMakesThree Fri 25-Jan-13 16:43:20

Totally agree mercury. Hope Mr Cheeky isn't delayed too long kirsty. I'm on way to meal and cocktails with Mr C, excited but still get bit nervous.

NicholasTeakozy Fri 25-Jan-13 16:44:04

That's not an over-reaction Mercury, it's common sense. First meeting should be a public place.

Snapespeare Fri 25-Jan-13 16:55:15

Already? A new thread? Good grief.

Place mark with nothing of interest to say, happy date-night those who are dating tonight! smile

Scrazy Fri 25-Jan-13 17:09:20

Place marking. EVERY first meeting should be in a public place, it's basic common sense. I would ignore any man who tried to get me to his house, personally.

Epilator on the not so sensitive bits then razor. I only do the full bit when I am seeing someone, currently not so don't give a damn.

Happy Friday everyone, we are snowed in, we missed that last lot.

I'm not feeling great atm, missing someone so much. I thought I would be feeling better now.

MsCellophane Fri 25-Jan-13 17:48:20

Always meet in public, anyone that asks you to do otherwise is not to be trusted.

I had a foul message today - I need a wet pussy - from the oldest potato I have ever seen

So I told him good luck with that as cats don't usually like to be around water but maybe Cat's Protection League could help him

His answer? Ok thanks

Why do these men do it? Do women give them a serious answer?

Not sure about 2nd date yet, he's going to let me know after work. I know he is going through some personal stuff so don't mind if it doesn't happen (too much) as I'll be quite happy in the warm with Big Brother - sad middle aged person that I am

mercury7 Fri 25-Jan-13 17:52:28

aww big hug Scrazy...do you feel a bit better..even if not as much as you hoped?
You know it will fade eventually smile

ya took the wind outta his sails MsC !

48howdidthathappen Fri 25-Jan-13 18:06:14

Hoping Kirsty is outta here grin

OWW Pleased Lunch, undies etc went down well!

Some men are just YUK!!! Well done Cello and Domestic Rightly binned.

Scrazy Fri 25-Jan-13 18:07:16

aww thanks Mercury, I needed that. grin

I think it's getting worse rather than better, hope I'm on the way up soon.

Mrs C, wonder why he thought you would be OK with a such a first message. He was lucky you bothered replying.

Yogagirl17 Fri 25-Jan-13 18:41:40

Fair fa' your honest, sonsie face, Great chieftain o the puddin'-race! Happy Burns Day. Just place marking. Work still going well, got paid and managed to pay another chunk of my lawyers bill so all in all, a great week! smile

(and the snow has stopped so hopefully Kirsty is enjoying her Coffee!!!)

Yogagirl17 Fri 25-Jan-13 18:45:25

Oh and Snape if you find (or start) a thread on support with CAMHS please let me know. Ta x

watchoutforthatsnail Fri 25-Jan-13 19:26:14

This post requires no reply nor do I want one but I would like to inform all of you who piled in on me in support of bant on the previous thread, MNHQ have deleted his personal attack on me ,for breaching talk guidelines, and cyberbullying.

While this has been a very supportive thread, it really isnt now, to stand by and endorse bullying is just as bad as the act itself as far as i am concerned.

I will be de registering from MN now, it isnt the place it once was, people have knives out for each other, and mock and laugh at those when they really shouldnt be.

I wish you all well. or actually, i dont.

Scrazy Fri 25-Jan-13 19:38:50

Sorry Watch, but I am replying. I wasn't involved as was on a night out for a change. I could see exactly what you meant when you said the about the dire date.

It's a shame you want to leave mnet over it. Hope you are OK. Hugs x

FlorentinePogen Fri 25-Jan-13 19:38:51

Ms. Snail, that's the second time you've gone running to MN Towers when someone dares to either disagree with you or point out your shortcomings. (which we all have, BTW.)
You did exactly the same when I pointed out a few home truths to you a few weeks back.

As my old mum used to say "She's more to be pitied than scolded."

MsCellophane Fri 25-Jan-13 19:43:46

Watch, why would you leave over one person?

I didn't get involved last night, I was asleep - but no one laughed or mocked you. Some agreed with you, some didn't and some were in the middle

I think you and Bant both wind each other up. Not sure he can say anything without you jumping and you can't say anything without him jumping.

It's unfortunate but shouldn't be enough to drive you away from the thread and certainly not from MN

I have said things on the thread that others haven't liked and I have recently lived up to my username by being invisible on the threads and ignored some of the time - still post though even though I expect to be ignored and have been seen today

By all means leave the thread but you will be missed as you have interesting things to say and I like your posts

Scrazy Fri 25-Jan-13 19:46:14

Flo, it's OK to point out that someone's behaviour might not be the right way to go but personal attacks aren't allowed.

watchoutforthatsnail Fri 25-Jan-13 19:48:50

It was the post where he said he will have a go at me, when if anyone else said the same thing, he wouldnt.

thats bullying.

i am going. its not acceptable and i dont want to keep company with people who think that it is.

flo - do fuck off, who are to post ' home truths' on me, you dont know me, i have no idea who the hell you are, or why you seem to think its your duty to rip people to shreds. Its not nice, and im sure ' your old mum' would have said the same.

watchoutforthatsnail Fri 25-Jan-13 19:50:23

personnal attacks and deliberate trolling/ attcking/ shit stiring, which bant has ADMITTED to, is not on.

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