Hey, it's the Dating thread... number 37

[lubeybooby]

Of we got - all dating chit chat here!

I've put up with a lot of rubbish sex in my earlier years, now I do talk about it but agree with mercury that tact is important.

Anything I actively dislike, I say so in a 'sorry but no, not for me' way. Anything I'm 'meh' about I tend to ignore and stick with being very positive, appreciative, vocal about that which I really like. If that proved to be too subtle, I might mention the 'meh' stuff ... but always, always during not dropped into conversation later, as that feels horribly cold blooded and critical.

Agree with 48, sexting is a good way to establish positives (and negatives) for you both ...

Thanks 48 and Joyless. I feel a bit silly asking about this kind of stuff, so really appreciate your advice.

Just read yesterday's posts

I have slightly over exuberant pubic hair. Think it needs Veeting although have told Mr Nice it is in its winter season. His pubic hair is just there - there's just the right amount I think. Would be alarmed if he shaved his balls .

On Valentines Day I am going to have a working lunch with XH to discuss our divorce in more detail. He "hasn't got enough money" to use a solicitor. I think we can sort things out between us (no house to sell etc) but I am slightly concerned that we will end up with something not legally binding. Would rather go through a resolution solicitor and us all discuss things together just with a solicitor there. Need to find out more about costs.

Then on 15th going away for a break with Mr Nice which will be Nice. Am managing to not tell him where we are going .

voice it would depend on why it wasn't good. If he was just clueless, is tactfully provide clues, or if missing something, I'd ask for it. If he was a formula man, the type who despite being told what works for me, insists on doing it one way and thinks that should work because it did for the last gf or in porn films then dump. Also some men just don't like doing it/think its dirty/doing you a favour/duty then that is an attitude problem and I want to feel treasured so dump.

Ike are you back yet? How did it go? (Never had it done myself so admire your bravery!)

Libby sometimes it's easier to dhow them, by example or by making it clear when they are doing something you really like.

Voice, I happily give instructions. Lick, don't suck. More gently, this isn't a porn film... up a bit... ahhhhhhhhhhhh there we go :o

Definitely be vocal on what is good, prob would be barking instructions too

TMI but hotbut is an absolute master - main reason for going back lots - it's all he wants to do

A (male) friend says he was given clear & firm instructions by a women who he dated for a while. Apparently it felt rather like being on 'The Golden Shot'

MsCello just ... lots of

he admitted to finding me sexually intimidating hmm

I suppose your rubber catsuit, prediliction for CBT and your huge collection of sounds would intimidate most men. [bgrin]

BTW, Happy Burns Nicht to one and all......

Wow that was an interesting experience. The lady (very lovely, very professional) was really good, used tea tree wax on the outside bits, chocolate wax on the flappage. The front bit hurt the most, bum bits and sides almos enjoyable. Gave it all a good coating of tea tree lotion afterwards. I look like a pluckage chicken at the mo tho.

Ike, will you be updating your various profile pix now ?

[bshock]

plucked

Soz flo although you now know more about my bum hole than you would ever want to ....you just dont need visuals to go with the verbals (I leave that to your imagination...)

She told me about a very interesting experience of waxing a bloke's legs who she then discovered was wearing a nappy under his towel....he then popped a dummy in his mouth half way through (put her right off doing blokes again)

Ike, 'twas a rhetorical post ! [bgrin]

Richt, off to get the haggis for tonight !

(Feckin' snowing here again........Ugh.)

It is much easier if you have a partner that expresses a desire to please you, asks what turns you on rather than waiting to be asked. Listens, learns and responds to your body. Aint I the lucky one Of course it is equally important to return the favour.

Giving pleasure is a huge turn on.

Enjoy the Haggis flo!

Ike Don't sound too bad. I might give it a go. How often does it need doing?

Every 4-6 weeks 48 ...apparently..then a bit less...

Sounds good ike Gonna book myself in

Try and choose somewhere that looks like they know what they might be doing...ask about the waxes...chocolate is for the really sensitive bits apparently...

I apparently have WILD, virgin hair (proud).