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Original poster

POLL : Infidelity

166 replies

monkeytrousers · 10/04/2006 13:22

Women only please - Please help me with a bit of research. Think about the question and answer A or B - no inbetweens please.

Consider this question – what would upset or anger you more:

A)imagining your romantic partner having sexual intercourse with another person,

or

B)imagining your romantic partner becoming
emotionally involved with another person?

Thanks!

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schneebly · 10/04/2006 13:23

B - definitely although both would upset me!

FioFio · 10/04/2006 13:24

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secur · 10/04/2006 13:24

A - do you want to know why or just the answer?

motherinferior · 10/04/2006 13:25

I think B.

(Do you need to qualify A with 'unpaid' sexual intercourse, though? Because if my partner was paying for it, it would be A.)

hulababy · 10/04/2006 13:25

I can't choose between them. I would be upset and angry about both situations.

SomethingAboutMary · 10/04/2006 13:25

B - but again both would break my heart!

CountessDracula · 10/04/2006 13:25

B defo

GDG · 10/04/2006 13:25

Are the two exclusive? So B is with no physical aspect? What do you mean then by emotionally involved? A is just sex and no emotional involvement (e.g. drunk at a party, big mistake)?

amber5 · 10/04/2006 13:27

B.
i think, it's easy to say when it hasn't happened (oh god, i hope it hasn't happened)

Original poster
monkeytrousers · 10/04/2006 13:28

I don't need to know why - it's a statistical study [smsile]

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welshboris · 10/04/2006 13:29

I think it means

a) having a shag with someone

b) opening his heart to someone else

Original poster
monkeytrousers · 10/04/2006 13:29

And it's a given that they would of course both be distressing. Picking one isn't saying you aren't bothered by the other. But which one do you think would hurt you more - please try to be honest!

OP posts:
Original poster
monkeytrousers · 10/04/2006 13:30

Yes, WB - a sexual infidelity or an emotional infidelity.

OP posts:
Original poster
monkeytrousers · 10/04/2006 13:33

I'll tell you all about it in a few days!

OP posts:
secur · 10/04/2006 13:35

but I want to tell you why Grin

Original poster
monkeytrousers · 10/04/2006 13:37

Please, do! It just isn't necessary for the data on the whole. But go girl..spill!

OP posts:
sanchpanch · 10/04/2006 13:37

definately B for me.................

spidermama · 10/04/2006 13:37

B)

LillyPink · 10/04/2006 13:39

b

pepperpots · 10/04/2006 13:39

B for me

pepperpots · 10/04/2006 13:39

B for me

Tinker · 10/04/2006 13:39

I'm sure I'm meant to think B but think it's actually A

Prufrock · 10/04/2006 13:40

B - if it's similar to, and to the detriment of the emotional attachment he has to me. I think it's normal for even men to become emotionally attached to others in a completely platonic way - I know dh is to his best friend he has known for 32 years

BullyingLondonLegalBods · 10/04/2006 13:40

B

secur · 10/04/2006 13:41

LOL!

Oh if you insist Wink

I just think that, if your partner "falls in love" or words to that effect, with someone else, then that is part of a life process, sad yes but at least the person you love is trying to be happy - if that is without you then what can you do about it?

However, if they just go out for a shag cause they can't keep their greasy little mitts off other people then that is a betrayal of what they profess to feel for you - making it IMO the greater evil.

Feel free to disagree Wink