POLL : Infidelity

[monkeytrousers]

Women only please - Please help me with a bit of research. Think about the question and answer A or B - no inbetweens please.

Consider this question – what would upset or anger you more:

A)imagining your romantic partner having sexual intercourse with another person,

or

B)imagining your romantic partner becoming
emotionally involved with another person?

Thanks!

A & B equally damaging. Both represent a betrayal of trust and lack of respect imo

B would upset me more

B

b

Anymore lurkers?

B

a

b without a doubt

Both would break my heart completely, but I think B just pips A. Just.

I changed my mind - B oh they both bloody hurt!!

Actually I've changed my mind, I reckon A.

(I'd suspect A even if it wasn't happening in a B scenario, in any case.)

I don't actually think you could separate the two tbh

Okay, any statisticians about?

B - would feel more of a betrayal!

A

It is easy to become infatuated with somebody but it will pass IF you don't act on it.

give us the answer then Monkey trousers

Okay, it’s from a piece called Vital Attraction about sex differences in jealousy (one of the areas of divergence between the sexes) by David Buss in evolutionary psychology which predicted that on average 85% of women would favour B while men, on average would choose A. According to the theory the difference has evolved because, “Each sex possesses mechanisms designed to deal with its own adaptive challenges – some similar and some different.”

These particular adaptations stem from the fact that men (in evolutionary terms) have much more to loose than women from their mates infidelity – that being surety of paternity. Women on the other hand can always be sure of their maternity and have more to loose (again in evolutionary terms) from a man investing resources, be they time, money or something else, away from the family home.

I'm not a statistician but I'd say the majority here have chosen as predicted.

I'd go along with A for the same reasons as MI.
I was (am) very emotionally involved with another man but have never shagged him.

What does that make me?

So that puts me in the 15% but then i dont need dps money!

I never got into sociobiology

That is soooo very interesting MT.

Sociobiology is a very misrepresented term Milquetoast

Both for me too. One shows that they have no respect for you when you are supposed to be in a loving relationship. The other one is just heart-breaking.

And TBH, as a science it isn't really something you can get into unless you devote a few years to it. Hence much of the misunderstanding.

I would like to get into it, do you have to be really brainy or can you study it at college?