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Is this normal/should I be concerned - DW polishing the pearl regularly, but sex is once a month at most?

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Matt77 · 07/12/2012 16:02

We're both in our mid-thirties, married ten years, one DD (aged 3). My wife is masterbating on average once a week, but we're having sex once a month on average (13 times this year!) ... my advances (once or twice a week) are pushed away. I need advice ... should I just accept this as normal / should I be doing something to differently?

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bradyismyfavouritewiseman · 07/12/2012 16:12

If you speak to her the way you have phrased your titled for us to read, you are lucky its once a month.

DuelingFanjHoHoHo · 07/12/2012 16:13

she's not that into you.

BlameItOnTheChoirOfAngels · 07/12/2012 16:14

I would think she no longer fancies you.

sorry.

Xmas Hmm
NotSuchASmugMarriedNow · 07/12/2012 16:14

Perhaps your not a very good or attentive lover.

bulletwithbutterflywings · 07/12/2012 16:15

Have you asked her why she only wants sex once a month? How do you know she is masturbating once a week? Maybe sex isn't very enjoyable for her?

BlameItOnTheChoirOfAngels · 07/12/2012 16:15

I'm about to make some mincepies, should I make stollen too?

TheDoctrineOfSnatch · 07/12/2012 16:16

Yes, stollen would be lovely.

BlameItOnTheChoirOfAngels · 07/12/2012 16:17

I love stollen.

NotAnotherPackedLunch · 07/12/2012 16:19

I'll bring the mulled wine.

usualsuspect3 · 07/12/2012 16:20

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hf128219 · 07/12/2012 16:20

Maybe she wants a pearl necklace?

SugaricePlumFairy · 07/12/2012 16:20

polishing the pearl Hmm

ElectricSoftParade · 07/12/2012 16:20

I have just had some stollen and a cup of tea. Mind you, I could manage a mince pie or two.

ElectricSoftParade · 07/12/2012 16:21

And a Baileys!

vintageviolets · 07/12/2012 16:23

The pearl polishing is rather like frozen yorkshire puddings.

A lot quicker
A lot less messy
A lot less hassle
A better end result
And no waiting around to see if it rises

Its not her, its you!

Original poster
Matt77 · 07/12/2012 16:23

bullet - that's a good point. I haven't asked ... but maybe I'm afraid of the answer. it's pretty easy to tell ... I'll send you a PM if you want help covering your own tracks Wink

all the other signs are that she enjoys it ... but maybe i'm reading them wrong Sad

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usualsuspect3 · 07/12/2012 16:24

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Original poster
Matt77 · 07/12/2012 16:24

OKAY OKAY (polishing the pearl) .... I was trying to be polite ... nobody needs to see masterbation in the a thread title!

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Original poster
Matt77 · 07/12/2012 16:25

I'd love a baileys

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botandhothered · 07/12/2012 16:25

Maybe if you polished it properly, she wouldn't have to do it herself. Get a book and learn.
Make mine a Baileys.

Original poster
Matt77 · 07/12/2012 16:25

And mix it with coffee

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SantaIAmSoFuckingRock · 07/12/2012 16:26

flip this over and the responses would have been very different.

TwoFacedCows · 07/12/2012 16:26

either, you talk like a knob in RL and she is sick of it, or you are a crap lover, or she no longer fancies you.

BlameItOnTheChoirOfAngels · 07/12/2012 16:27

Ooooh, the faileys from home bargains is gorgeous. Tastes better than the real stuff and is less than a fiver.

BlameItOnTheChoirOfAngels · 07/12/2012 16:28

Santa, there is a reason the responses are like this. Hth