Ginny pigs prove the options are of limited quality - Dating thread 28

[lubeybooby]

New one - chit chat all dating stuff here.

Off you go! :o

Oh good. The man I was totally falling for over the last 3 months has just put a post on FB saying how in love he is with his new girlfriend.

The girlfriend who he kept secret for 2 months & who I only discovered existed after telling him how I felt about him

Sorry Milk. Is it time to use the Facebook de-friend button to spare you further? What a wankbadger (sorry - looked at the sweary thread today).

Well it's a bit akward smoothie as we have a social group in common & to be fair he claims he had no idea that I had feelings for him. We've agreed to be friends & he isn't responsible for my feelings at the end of the day.

That's what my rational mind tells me anyway. My irrational mind is thinking, "You tactless fucker. You KNOW how I feel about you & that I'm going to read it. You could spare my feelings & not plaster it all over fucking FB" Especially considering all the times you were round my house, sinking my JD and getting your ego stroked. You utterly heartless c**t!

If he were 24 i could understand. Hes 34, divorced with 2 children!!!

Thats just a fake profile used for looking for sex. Or horses. Or cowboys.

Oh milk
Thats shitty. Sorry :(

I draw some small comfort from the fact that none of our friendship group have 'liked' it watch

Seriously though, they make you sick. He loves to think he is this nice, sensitive caring man when actually he's just a thoughtless twat! Plus is there really any need at 27 to be declaring your love all over FB? I am so furious. May need to go to the shops for some Ben & Jerry Cookie Dough & eat away my pain.

Oh and that is not good behaviour from a 34 year old watch In fact I wouldn't tolerate it from a 24 year old!

Bantam sorry about the job situation

Milk oh all a bit crap.

Indeed. Hence why im not going.

And yeah, declarations like that are a bit pukesome arent they. Go eat ice cream :)

sorry so many of you are having a hard time just now. Bant, awful to hear about your job. I know it doesn't help in the interim but you will find something else sooner or later and who knows what sort of opportunities that will bring Milk I would be floored too but he has done you a favour really, clearly he is a twat and its better you found that out now rather than later.

I have had a weird sort of day, had the coil fitted yesterday after finally accepting my gp won't put me forward for sterilisation and I am putting my weird day down to hormone stuff going on but five years of infertility makes me very happy indeed

NL went to meet his mum for lunch after college and myself and a friend went shopping for a few bits...who should I end up bumping into? NL and his mum I was in a massive rush because I had lost track of time and had to pick up dd's from school so it was a bizarre moment of eek crap, meet the parent, hi, sorry got to go felt really rude having to dash off but I apologised for it so hopefully I didn't make too bad a first impression

Fate sometimes the first meeting being unplanned and so unanticipated can be a good thing.

It must be lovely that NL is local.

over enthusiastic young man who thinks I'm his 'yummy princess' has just sent me a message which reads:
':((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((( xx'

I guess thats online dating speak for 'I am totally looping avoid me at all costs' :o

Or maybe he's trying to give the impression he's a packet of pringles?

It is warm I couldn't do another LDR again one of the things that I like about us though is that despite being local, we don't live in each others pockets. He maybe spends two/three nights a week with me, and I see him in college half the week, rest of the time we both have friends to visit or family or in his case, work.

All feels a bit real now as such, done the fb relationship thing, he's met my parents, his parents know about me and I have met both albeit briefly. It's all good he asked me if I wanted to go paint balling in December. It sounds fun but a) I smoke far too much and will probably die and b) I have seen the bruises it leaves! Painful looking. Think I will go though you only live once right?

LOL at bant pringles.

lol @ pringles :o

Bant Lol at Pringles!

Fate Yes I suppose there is that way of looking at it. I'm just fed up with every man I start to think is half decent turning out to be a twat. In fact when I say twat what I mean is, "Doesn't return my feelings" Which is pretty much the same thing in my book.

Just had a very tense phone conversation with my mother, mainly about the fact I am going out with my man boy again next week. I told her that if she can find me a decent man my own age to go out with then I will take her hand off. In the meantime should I join a sodding nunnery?

Joking aside I'm starting to get quite depressed about the fact I only ever seem to attract men at least 10 years my junior. I feel like some awful, old, Jimmy Saville like child catcher. It is not how I imagined my life turning out.

Hello!!!

Bant Thank you for the pringles comment - that is by far the best thing I've heard today! (which also means date was not a roaring success but more on that in a minute) Bugger about the job.

Secret & Kirsty LOL, not sure which of your dates was worse! Kirsty - when he asked you to give him a twirl, you should have replied "you first".

Watch Ugh, at least you didn't waste time meeting him. What's the story with the house?

Well my date certainly wasn't awful...but it wasn't exactly brilliant either. We had a lovely walk round local country park, then went into the cafe for a bite to eat. Chatted the whole time. All in all should have been a really lovely morning as it's exactly the kind of thing I like to do. Except I might has well have been with my brother for all the spark there was. No, actually, I would have had more fun with my brother as he's a pretty funny guy and the Engineer was just....boring. He talked and talked and talked, in that slightly nasal voice, and I just found myself zoning out after a while. Which means now I have to do that, "You're really nice but there's no chemistry" thing.

(Leftover spaghetti, chicken kievs & assorted veg)

I don't think many people have the life they imagined Milk. I went through a really miserable time in the last few years of my marriage, I don't even recognise the person I was back then now. I used to listen a lot to a song by powder finger called these days, the chorus says: these days turned out nothing like I had planned. I definitely didn't imagine I would be divorcing at 28 and raising four kids...but I am and it's how my life has turned out best thing I can think of to do is to embrace it, see the good in it and be happy.

For example, some people may look at my situation and think, lone parent four kids living in a bad area...and judge me on it. I can think I made my choices, gave my marriage my all, walked away with a clean conscience and got myself out which is more than many women do, knowing I would somehow have to raise my kids as the main carer. I am proud of myself it might not be the life I imagined I would have by now, but it's the life I have got and its given me experiences and achievements in ways I wouldn't have had my life gone differently. And there is always opportunity for improvement

It's all about self perspective, never mind other people's thoughts and opinions. No point wasting time and energy wishing or imagining different things, time is much better spent realising the good in where you are now and what you want to achieve in the future.

Hope that didn't come across as patronising in any way, just life changes so bloody quickly, I personally try not to let myself get down about situations that will pass and end up being distant memories one way or another

Fate I like what you say about life not turning out the way you planned. I reckon most of us on here can related one way or another.

Fate Thank you for your kind reply. Your story puts mine in perspective and no mistake! You sound like such a brave & strong woman. I am a little bit in awe of you now.

You're right, it is all about how you look at things. I think my main frustration is with myself. I'm nearly 34 but honestly feel about 10 years younger. Most of my friends are in their mid twenties & constantly remark on how they forget I'm any older than them. Yet I still end up getting branded a "cougar" which makes me rather I would love to meet a man my own age who doesn't say things to me like "I'm past all that clubbing & going out drinking stuff, I'd rather stay in with a bottle of wine" Not that there's anything wrong with that but it just isn't for me. I think I'm just feeling really down in general at the minute. I've convinced myself I'm never going to get married/have children now & usually I persuade myself I don't mind but sometimes it breaks through to the surface & I start to panic!

Ironically if I was a 33 year old man going out with a 21 year old nobody would even comment. I had a 38 year old live in boyfriend when I was 21 and I swear not a single person even batted an eyelid!

Yoga In the words of the great John Lennon, "Life is what happens when you're busy making other plans"

re 'plans'
The best laid schemes o' Mice an' Men,
Gang aft agley,
An' lea'e us nought but grief an' pain,
For promis'd joy!

Milk - Cougars are 35 -45 apparently. You, my dear, are a puma :)

never had a plan, certainly never had any expectations, a few vague idea's of what I'd do if this or that happened mostly I just make it up as I go along