Ginny pigs prove the options are of limited quality - Dating thread 28

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New one - chit chat all dating stuff here.

Off you go! :o

enough with the 3rd division felines Bant I'm a jaguar:o

Yoga absolutely :) another one here whose life hasn't gone at all as I'd hoped/expected, the fact I am hugely competitive means I feel compelled to draw comparisons with my peers, most of whom are in a much better position than me, hence I don't (in my own mind) come off favourably...but it is as it is. For me, the biggest thing would be knowing what my parents would have thought of how my life's turned out. I just hope they wouldn't have been disappointed.

Milk, I am similar but a bit younger at 28. I have my sister in law who is two years older and my best friend who is the same age, then my other friends are all between 17 and 25. I find I get on better with early twenties than older to be honest. NL is five years younger than me and I am finding I feel more his equal as such to the older men I have had dealings with in the past. Just you do what suits you and shrug off the judgements, it's your life

I also didn't mean to make it sound like an 'my life has been harder than yours' type post. Just wanted to try pick you up a bit

When I was 19 I spent nearly a year in a relationship with a woman whose daughter was only 4 years younger than me. She was 37.

Then, after that ended my next gf, and the first one I lived with, was only ten years older.

I can live with puma Bant I quite like it in fact!

Dammit, that message was to Milk

Fate I didn't think you were trying to say your life has been harder than mine at all! I really appreciate your kind words & it's interesting to hear that NL is 5 years younger than you. My ex fiancée was 6 years my junior. I was 27 when I met him & he was 21. I remember even then freaking out about the age gap. Now here I am 6 years later & still freaking out about 21 years old's.

Nicholas How did other people react to your relationships? Do you think the age gap was a factor in them not working out?

Hooray, I just squeeze into 'cougar' classification!

bant sorry to heat about Sg and job. Bit of a pisser of a couple of days, good for you for applying for job straight away. :). Wishing you the best with it.

Thread is so fast moving that any comments I make are dredging up the thread. :)quest wheelchair guy, creepy. milk don't kill self at idiot one and loved up gf, delete him from your fb.

Thanks for lovely hugs etc. got smashing email from ds1s school councillor today. Very supportive, has sent support for referral to GP, agreed DS1 can sit in student support until he feels more able to cope.

Told current boss I am applying for job and she has been supportive (yet, clearly devastated...) last boss has written glowing if somewhat overdue appraisal for year ending April 11, so that will go with application and I've started completing application. Are you sitting down? Worked out salary if I get this and it's almost £20k more than I'm getting just now. Wow. That would solve a lot of worries...and it's only mat leave cover, but excellent for cv and possible proper promotion.

Three weeks since voldie contact. I am resolute.

will catch up properly later. Off to collect DS2 from the bosom of his harem (his 2 BFs are girls) and to buy chappie chips because it's Friday and I am slovenly.

My dp is 5 years younger than me, and I'm 42. I LOVE that that makes me a cougar! Grrrrr.

Sorry to hear about your job Bant. I'm facing redundancy too, but I want it, so obviously I won't get it

Some of you have had some proper shit first dates lately! It's about time someone was swept off their feet now please

If it's any consolation, one of my first ODs involved him showing me a picture of his cock when I came back from the loo in the pub. So that was nice.

Snape, you have done so well with the non contact! Resolute indeed.

Well it hurts. It really fucking hurts, but no less than being dishonest about how I felt & sitting on the sidelines while he goes out with someone else...& it hurts that he clearly isn't who I thought he was... but it will get less & less important & I've had the best hand-holders there is. :)

& there is a bunch more to life than him. There's my wonderful DCs & work & being me & doing what i want to do...

...& maybe at some point there might be a smashing, brave, kind, Goddamn sexy, funny bloke who tumbles into my universe (preferably in a tardis ) but so what... I already have an abundance of love some cock would be nice though

Fuck, have just totally lost my shit at DD. I know it's no excuse but damned hormonal pre-teen gets right in my face and WILL NOT GO AWAY. I threaten to take her phone away but she's bigger than me now and grabs it off me. All I want to do is smack her so I walk away, she follows. I go to my room and shut the door, she stands there pounding on my door. She has a lot more bloody patience and energy than I do...so then I lose my shit, scream my head off at her and leave us both feeling totally utterly crap.

Sorry, just had to get that off my chest. As you were.

Oh yoga they are revolting, I'm so sorry.
DD2 is a teen and has her horrible moments too. If it's any consolation it does pass. DD1 is a proper human being now
Until then I suggest medicinal

God, I do sympathise Yoga, I have a 15 year old dd, and they can be vile. It does get better though, I promise.

Milk 10 years is nothing. If people are commenting to you on it and didn't comment on the 38 yr old when you were 21 then it is their mistake. I also get most attention from younger men and have gradually worked my way up to a limit of up to 10 years younger. I recently had a bf only 3 years younger who was the closest to my age yet so I'm getting there. Cougar my arse!

Hello all.

I seem to have completely missed almost a whole thread. Not sure I can catch up so will just dive in but my sympathies to everyone who is having a miserable time at the moment.

The kids and me have been doing a sickness bug - one after the other - so my messaging has been seriously curtailed and the whole OD thing has seemed hopeless. Now I've perked up a bit but to be honest I still feel hopeless. I have a couple of seemingly nice blokes to talk to but my child free time is seriously limited so when will I actually manage a date? How do you engineer it?

On the upside I finally got a message on OKC - from someone in the USA. What's the point of that?

Milk, most of my male friends were "lucky bastard" etc, my female friends were fine with it.

And no, the age thing didn't play a part in the break ups. The first one just came to an end really, just fizzled out. The second because she got relocated for work and I chose to stay put where I was.

Snape, keep strong and good luck with your DS.

Your friends thought you were lucky? Nicholas That is interesting. Having said that I was telling my gay pal at work about my 21 year old today & his reply was, "You lucky bitch"

Just to add to the fun I have been messaging somebody on OKC who seemed nice. Then he says he's an artist and gives me a link to his site. It turns out his "art" consists only of people having sex or masturbating. The worse bit being that they aren't even especially good drawings. Now, I'm pretty open minded but the whole thing just screams, "I never get any" to me!

Milk I think unless anyone has actual sold pieces, then describing themselves as being an artist just means 'unemployed with delusions of talent'

He actually has sold some stuff though Bant It mentions it on his site & he was bragging about it to me in his emails.

Either way it seriously put me off. He clearly thinks he's some libertine, dandy in the underworld type. In reality he's just a fairly short man with a silly beard!

Oh dear. I decided to actually try looking on POF to see what things are like there.

".hi people im a 32 year old lady lokkin 4 a nice carin fun attrative male . love music love meals out n love meetin up wit mates 4 good old gossip lol . would love to meet someone genuwin carin but also funny n sensual .can be very serious n lovin , can also be very funny n playfuul . been single 4 9 months n would love to share my life wit some one i connect wit x x UPDATE NO PLAYERS CHEETS OR WANKAS"

Marry me.

What is a cheet? I wish to become one!

UPDATE NO PLAYERS CHEETS OR WANKAS

Bantam, this goddess is clearly a considerate, caring person given that she has taken the time to update her profile in order to be uber-specific regarding her paramour requirements.

LMAO bant @ 'Marry me' :o

The annoying thing is she must be completely spoilt for choice because all the 'hi' and 'hi sexxi' 'hay bbz' type messages will thrill, not irk her.

Bantam - she sound like a POF intellectual. She has written more than one sentence in the same message. I'd snap her up.

My DS has a Tonka truck. Is that like a WANKA?