Ginny pigs prove the options are of limited quality - Dating thread 28

[lubeybooby]

New one - chit chat all dating stuff here.

Off you go! :o

[Yogagirl17]

LOL (see!) Mercury, I think I'm just about getting used to you!

So who here was on GS with a paid subscription?? (Cause I've spotted a cute man but I cannae message him)

[KirstyWirsty]

Meant to put the message ..
Hi KW
You mistook my wanting to communicate as being too demanding. I am not.
I'm sure if we met over a coffee and a chat you would see that we could get on well and that I have no problems with you being unavailable.
Can we meet and see?
Xxx
Thesurgeon

Silly little me with my misunderstandings eh?

[Yogagirl17]

Morning Kirsty! Urgh re the surgeon, you should block him. When's your next date with the Auditor?

[StellaBrillante]

Hi all,
May I join in? Nothing to report since I last made an appearance...no dates whatsoever and only a handful of creepy messages from married dads (wtf?) and ex-colleagues ("you used to brighten up my day..." - eeew!!!).
So I've taken the brave step of creating yet another profile on pof and okc. Last time I lasted 48 hrs before the sleazy messages put me off. However, I've put all sorts of blocks on it this time which means that I am getting no messages at all! The situation is not helped by the fact that I don't live in a big city so options will be rather limited but how I get a good balance?

In the meantime, I am keeping myself busy obsessing over an incredibly hot male teacher who is just sooooooo out of my league. Somebody else here touched upon how you can really talk yourself down. I do wonder how other women who went from being a single parent to being in a relationship with a decent man (not just settle because you think that is as good as it's going to get!) did it. It must be the confidence / self-esteem factor?

[Milkandlotsandlotsofwine]

snape What do you mean you decline my proposal? I'm lovely, have all my own hair & teeth, a nice flat in Camden & 3 bloody horses! Frankly I just think you're a little too picky.

scatty That conversation really does not bode well for a RL meet. Are you sure you want to bother? There really is nothing more soul destroying than spending time with a guy who just wants to tell you how fantastic he is. I agree that body building in itself is a bad sign. I have a cousin whose very beautiful wife divorced him because he got so obsessed with it he spent every night in the gym & pretty much forgot she existed.

Bant Oh dear, as if attending a wedding isn't torture enough on it's own? Reminds me of the tarot card reader I went to last month. She just kept asking me leading questions & as I refused to bite she basically couldn't come up with anything to say to me. Charlatan.

[lubeybooby]

Kirsty I agree with Yoga, block the surgeon!

[Pixiebelle123]

Mercury, you crack me up. I wish I could have your attitude and stop falling for the nobheads I have sex with!

[KirstyWirsty]

Well yes I can block him on POF but he also has my email and phone no .. ( I was in my first week of OD I've learned now)

[Milkandlotsandlotsofwine]

Stella Yes I think confidence has a lot to do with it. In more than one way though. You have to be confident enough to feel that nobody is out of your league and also to have the confidence to drop anyone like a hot potato who exhibits less than great behaviour. It really isn't easy.

Kirsty I would just ignore if he emails or calls/texts. He sounds like an oddball of the oddest type. Avoid, avoid, avoid.

[Milkandlotsandlotsofwine]

Going to link to the profile of a man who has just checked me out on OKC.

www.okcupid.com/profile/BangTidy

Please form an orderly line ladies. No pushing or shoving at the back!

[StellaBrillante]

milk - the not tolerating great behaviour should be a given! More difficult though is to believe that you deserve (and can find) better. I have a tendency to sell myself short and then resent it.
all around! good luck to those with dates lined up and have a great weekend everyone

[snapespeare]

milk I know this is devastating for you, but I still can't quite get to grips with torrid sapphism. Clearly as my options regarding flaky, unsuitable men dwindle further, I will have to contemplate lesbianism, but as it is I will probably stick to cock for a little longer.

Please don't wait for me! Be free!

[snapespeare]

Clicked on bang tidy.

I don't feel very well.

[Milkandlotsandlotsofwine]

Not even a little holiday to the isle of Lesbos snape? It's all inclusive for the fortnight & you don't have to stay if you don't like it!

Bang Tidy should be enough on his own to make you turn to the booby side. Why would any man think a picture of them lying on a bed with a sheet over their bits is a winning look? I think they get confused between what looks sexy on them and what looks sexy on us.

[Yogagirl17]

Snape "Clicked on bang tidy....I don't feel very well."

Clearly all part of milk's evil plot to get you to give up cock reconsider her proposal

Kirsty I think you're just going to have to tell him straight out you are just not interested.

Going to DD's swim club awards night & disco tonight. All the kids have to be accompanied by parents so wondering if there might be any single dads there. I'm so sad.

[fayster]

Does anyone else have 'local slags' popping up (or rather just get taken to that page - if it was a pop up I could block them) from OKC? It's a bit off putting.

Stella, he is not out of your league! Milk is right. One of my best friends said that he knew I wasn't ready for dating some months ago when I said that I wasn't sure how to judge whether someone was in my league or not.

Hello everyone else!

Am hidden on pof and getting checked out by gorgeous Americans and British potatoes on OKC. Do we just not build them as pretty?

[Milkandlotsandlotsofwine]

Yoga You've rumbled me goddammit!

What Really quite horrible. I'm sure they are stock photos that he's stolen off the net as well.

Although I'm having a dark day today so a tiny part of me is wondering if what he's saying isn't true. Am I only on OKC because I can't find anyone in RL?

Just heard from my friend who met her BF of 5 months on POF. He's just dumped her. Bastard. She's such an amazing girl as well.

[snapespeare]

is it wrong to find yogas evil plan quite alluring?

Is it also wrong to chortle quietly to myself that mutual friend of voldie and I has liked my link to the Xmas doctor who minisode, so voldie will see it, including comments about broken hearts.

One day this will mean sod-all, but not quite yet.

[snapespeare]

milks plan.... yogas interpretation. (Duh!)

[StellaBrillante]

Argh!!! Just read that profile and that's how I think a lot of people view OD, including a lot of them on the sites - how contradictory! And to some extent (referring briefly to my first post), how a lot of men seem to view single mums in general.

fayster I am pretty sure I am ready for dating but it's incredibly hard not to think little of yourself when the few 'offers' you get are from real no-hopers (and that includes the married ones - yuk!). Imho, it has made a dent on my confidence and self-esteem as I read it as though "get real, as a single mum this is as good as you are going to get". And hence the 'out of my league' thoughts... plus the fact that he is the sort of guy that I WANT to go out with as opposed to somebody who just happened to come along - if that makes sense?

milk I can't seem to meet anyone in RL either. But then I've seriously overlooked my social life over the years and there aren't many opportunities to meet new people around here. Hope your day gets better though!

[Milkandlotsandlotsofwine]

Stella I know what you mean. It's very hard to keep any sort of confidence in yourself when you are constantly getting kicked in the teeth. Don't put so much emphasis on having children as a barrier though. It really shouldn't matter to the right man!

Well I do meet men in RL but sadly they always seem to be emotionally unavailable and after a leg over or in love with somebody else. No wonder I'm on the bloody couch eating chocolate and feeling miserable. I almost feel like giving up entirely!

[fayster]

Milk, sorry you're having a dark day.

I'm quite happy to admit that I'm on dating sites because I haven't met anyone in real life! It's not because I'm a complete moose or overweight, or have any kind of dodgy personality trait, though. And if I'm on there, being normal ol' me, then I'm sure other people are too. People that put up profiles like that are just bullies, choosing to point and laugh at people for no real reason.

Why do people say 'no players or cheats' though? Do they actually think the players and cheats are going to read that and think 'oh, ok, as I'm a player, I won't message her'? I suppose it's a bit like saying you're genuine. I mean, I don't write that, so do other people assume I'm not?

[lubeybooby]

Ugh, that guy is talking utter bollocks. He's just a wanker, seriously - bitter and misogynist! Bitter because even though he thinks he's so damn wonderful, he's still having to work at getting laid because of us naughty picky women. His attempt to put women in their place is ridiculous and pukeworthy.

I have honestly never worried for one second about being a single mum. My last LTR and indeed in my marriage we were not something to take on or a hurdle or a burden or any negative word whatsoever... but a brilliant addition and enhancement to someones life. And anyone who doesn't see it that way can fuck right off!

I do have a male friend being used to death by a complete leech of a single mum, but she would be a leech mum or not, and her type are very very rare. Unless you recognise yourself in the word 'leech' and like to use and abuse people, (female version of an entitled and abusive cocklodger) then you have nothing to worry about and shouldn't feel bad or less worthy because of it. And I'm sure none of you are like that, don't want a replacement daddy for your kids and are all lovely. So there!

[SweetSeraphim]

Oh my god, that profile! What an utter cunt. And as if they're his photos! Ugh. I wouldn't go near his scabby cock if you paid me.