Ginny pigs prove the options are of limited quality - Dating thread 28

[lubeybooby]

New one - chit chat all dating stuff here.

Off you go! :o

Yes! my first gsm perv. Excellent.

Must admit I didn't see that one coming, no pun intended. Not a cock pic but trying to talk dirty, it is the Guardian after all.

Wow. A liberal pervert. You should get a prize for finding him.

yoga and juliette going to a fairly well known Glasgow pub .. Meeting at 8 so I am going to go to the gym first and then drive back into the city. He has to pick his daughter up at 10 (meeting at 8) so I assume he will be driving too

Yes he was the one with the list of questions .. I quite liked that .. Cuts to the chase and I answered honestly not caring whether they were his 'right' answers - my attitude was if he didnt like my responses then we wouldnt get on - and got him to answer them back before I'd agree to meet him... so it wasn't just that he decided that I was 'acceptable'

I've just woken up and can't get back to sleep (too excited!) I wasn't bothered one way or t'other for last week's dates

mr 1964 admitted that he's 10 years older than his profile says, he says he made a mistake filling in his profile..he's a tool and is now offering to send me pictures of his tool blueghh

so top signs that he (or she) is (majorly) lying about age:
pics in shades only
face pics that have been heavily photo edited, made to look like a painting etc
refusal to come on skype

does the team have any more...?

Dated hairstyles
Slip up on the musical likes
Going on about how everyone says they look young for their age
Stating they are in good working order

Bantam yes I have inspired a whole new level of perv
Kirsty good call of the making him answer his own list. I shall be more list open from now on.

Looking like the pub landlord's Dad already. My prospects specialise in this.

Western tell him tell him tell him. I told DP on second date
Watch fingers crossed for lovely house
Snape meh to SB. Send me those details please lovey. Hope your DS is ok.
Sorry to everyone else I've missed but must get some sleep!

Some of us genuinely DO look young for our ages though, so I wouldn't necessarily treat that one as suspicious. In my case it's a family thing (hurrah) as my dad turned 60 last year and looks a good 10 years younger and no one ever believes him when he says he has a son nearing 39. And nearly everyone on meeting me usually assume/think I am around 32.

Good morning, Daters!

Watch, hope you hear about the house, it sounds perfect.

Kirsty, have fun, glad you're so excited about your date.

Juliette, that is not a good chat up line!

Why why why with the lying about their age? Or saying they want a relationship when they're only after a quick shag or dirty phone call? Why can't they just be honest? What? There aren't hoards of women queueing up to be wank fodder for dirty old men? Who'd have thought it....

Yeugh.

Has anyone else noticed more traffic on the sites recently? Is it a seasonal effect?

This thread moves so fast - 24 hours busy in RL and loads to catch up with.

Yoga glad yesterday went well.

Kirsty good luck with today's date!

Bantam my super Sunday included a nice afternoon of massage and then the DC returned from XH and my BF stayed for Sunday dinner and it was all relaxed and lovely.

Anything from SurreyGirl Bant? She might have been asleep in bed you know!

fayster when I was dating it would happen every year - I reckon it's folk trying to find someone, anyone to be with to get them an xmas present :o

Always the time of year I would find myself getting more annoyed than ever and then make a swift exit until after valentines day...

mercury - yeuch. That's < me.

Haha lubey could be that, could also be that everyone is moaning about the cold and needing a cuddle buddy. I've had several offers I'm thinking of making up an application form.

Bant - don't sweat it. Breathe. She could just be busy.

Fingers crossed today Kirsty

Was supposed to have a training day today with my new job. Got a call yesterday saying that it's their mega week so training is cancelled, would I still be able to come in? great. Can't actually do anything so I'll just be wafting around like an oversized bat until 5pm. Get me.

I shall return later!

voice I know some people look good for their age, but once past mid 40's certain lines form in the face, and you can usually tell a persons age, incidentally this guy didnt look young, I could see from his skin in the photo that he was nearly 50, not nearly 40.

I've read that woman tend to be better than men at guessing a persons true age from their appearance?

Pretty common, men who try and trick me into meeting them before I've seen enough to get a good idea of whether I'm likely to find them attractive.
It's creepy, makes me feel like he's trying to 'groom' me...he's gotta be a bit naive if he thinks I'm that naive

Thanks Mme - hope things are still going well for you. I did actually bite the bullet and tell him the bare bones about ex a while ago as he was asking when the children were at their dad's and I had to say, erm, well they don't see him, and it followed on from there. So he does know some of it but not all by a long chalk, and I'm not sure if he realises how it's affected/affecting me. It's difficult if you've not been there yourself, isn't it?

I am absolutely determined that twatty ex will not spoil things for me with this new relationship. He's just not going to. I know there is no guarantee that things will work out in the long run, but if they don't it's not going to be because I'm scared to open up and make myself a bit vulnerable. I am more scared about cocking things up because of this, so I'm going to use this to conquer the other fear if that makes sense!

I'm really hoping that he will understand and it will set his mind at rest a bit. I do think he thinks I'm not that bothered about him, and I have given him that impression and said some things that I'd find hurtful if someone said them to me. So, it's all going to stop as of now. I'm not going to go overboard, though - that would be just as bad! It's finding the balance, isn't i

mercury - possibly. two years ago, a mate and I were out for a drink and happened to meet up with someone we knew slightly and his female friend. at some point 'guess the age' came up. she looked at me and said 28 (when I was 37) and then looked at my mate and said 37 (which he was). He still goes on about it....

bantam - any news yet?

I definitely think there is a seasonal effect on sites and not a good one...hence I am steering well clear until 2013

Voice some people have faces that are 'childlike' big eyes, cute little nose, etc in a man especially that can make you look younger than you are?

Nothing yet. Focus on work. Focus. Focus.

Western, are you actually comfortable opening up to him yet? I think you are putting a lot of pressure on yourself. The relationship is really new and add in his upcoming op plus feeling you need to change the way you are behaving with him, it all sounds like a lot of work to be honest.

It took me about six months to realise/accept I wasn't letting my last partner in, emotionally. Looking back though, I always felt something wasn't right between us and I do wish I had listened to my instincts then for his sake and mine. Having got together with NL I am finally seeing what people mean by the first few months being easy and fun. I haven't told NL about my life horror stories or talked much about my ex husband etc, there is plenty of time for all that in the future should we get that far along. I guess what I am trying to say is just be careful and take things/do things at a pace you feel comfortable with.

Morning all on the age discussion I am regularly met with shocked face when i say I am 28. Most people put me at 21 - 23 and I still get iDed all over the place considering I am a relatively heavy smoker and can drink like a fish should the opportunity prevent itself, not to mention having had four kids, I count myself very lucky. Sure that will change in the next couple of years when I start resembling whistlers mum I actually have a fair bit of grey hair too however it tends to be underneath my hair as opposed to the top of it. I suppose I don't really act my age a fair bit of the time too, I generally act like an idiot most of the time, but in my defence I was in a very miserable and depressing marriage for eight years!

Bant - hope you hear from surreygirl soon, try not to stress.

Aw Bantam, when was the last time you heard from her? Was it Sunday?

mercury - I think with men, hair also makes a difference. I reckon a man in his late 40s who still has a full head of hair could easily shave 5 years or so off without being called out on it if the rest of him is in ok shape (was just thinking the engineer is 49 but def looks nearer 44/45).

Kirsty have fun tonight - hope he doesn't bring another checklist with him!

Juliette - actually, come to think of it, both my GSM men liked to talk dirty! However, they were also the only two so far I've ended up seeing more than once. At least they are literate pervs.

I'm not at all surprised the sites are busier this time of year - a lot of people don't want to be alone at Christmas.

a literate perv doesn't send cockshots, he sends genital portraits.

LOL Bantam - I have decided, on balance, I am extremely grateful to have never received a "genital portrait"!!

I think I'd rather be alone than with the wrong person...my worst ever Xmas was the last one with the Evil Ex, when he screamed and shouted at me on Xmas Day and made me cry, all because I got a text from a (male) friend who he was jealous of

Bantam

sponge couldn't agree more. Last xmas & new year was the worst ever, would far rather be on my own. But there are a lot of very lonely, unhappy people out there who just want to be with anyone rather than be on their own.