Bizarroville!! PoshBoys, Muppets, Surgeons, nurses, coffee addicts and RL - dating thread 27!

[lubeybooby]

Roll up roll up get yer dating chat here... all kinds of dating...

Online, RL, established, new, join in and blether away!

No, haven't been on here since my pregnancies with DC with the whole sleepless nights, health issues, etc etc and since becoming a lone parent and getting back into dating, I've been lurking on here. People not helping themselves and not being proactive just piss me off and it's got to the pint that something harsh has to be said.

Western. Im so sorry. I dont quite know what to say.
Just know you can be supported here whenever you need it.

Having a cry in the bathroom, dd still up and if course knows nothing of any of this. Find it difficult to talk to friends about, don't really want to say it. (typings ok for some reason)!

Pint?
Now theres a good idea :)

twois, there's a difference between being dishonest and being tactful. The only difference between us and you here is that you lack the tact, you aren't being any more honest.

OWW

Oh Western, not sure what to offer other than hugs & hand holding. Hard enough knowing how to deal with something like this when it's family or a long term partner. Will think lots of positive thoughts for you. x

I know, it's so difficult to know what to do, how to pitch it, what to say. We are still so early in our relationship, only a couple of months, so there's all the new relationship stuff going on, or trying to go on, as well as this shit

Lubey, tact isn't getting anywhere though. How many times have people suggested giving dating a break, focusing on herself, finding other hobbies/ways to meet people, counselling and so forth. It hasn't got through has it. And time and time again you have all been riding the emotional roller coaster while there is gloom and doom predicted by her.

What's the saying about loving yourself before others can love you and all the other clichés?

two that's the point of this thread though - it's here to support people. There's no need to attack sponge.

Western. Sorry. Really sorry :(

Two- people offer advice it does not mean someone has to take it. Please dont attack someone for that.
We have all known sponge for a few years. When things go crap, as her friends we will try to both help and support her, its what friends do.
No one is under any obligation to follow anyones advice.

two - we are here fto support each other. no one has or will speak the way you have because we LIKE sponge, lots.

go back to lurking

Yes the thread is to support people but then you have to look how many times you've said something then tried to soften the blow. Then you have to look at Snape's situation and wonder at the balance if things...

And yes I'm on a phone with ridiculously small keys and predictive text.

It's a boy sized tena lady, no need for catheter, discrete and practical (that's how I like my Stormtroopers)

Jeez, I need a date so I stop thinking about how Storm troopers pee/pooh....

Two why don't you just fuck off? Harsh, but someone had to say it.

Western, I am so sorry things are rough for you and your man right now. I hope the op goes well when it comes around and there is nothing wrong with a bit of self indulgence.

Nicely put Fate

Thanks fate! Op should be fine, it's getting the all clear about this sodding "lump" afterwards that's the biggie. No idea how long that takes either

it must be a lot to cope with, a new relationship having something potentially serious going on, no wonder you are feeling up and down. Fingers crossed the lump is nothing, there are so many lumps and bumps that scare the shit out of people and turn out to be okay.

Western - got my fingers crossed for you. If there's anything we can do

In other news, I have a date tomorrow! Eeeek! We are going for drinks with the possibility of food as well.

what the actual fuck am I supposed to wear

Okay - I'll be brave and attempt to change the direction of the conversation.

I live on a fairly small island, so online dating has additional perils. It is without doubt that any attempt at online dating will result in the other person knowing/being related to/having heard of one or many people that you know. Or working in a related area. Or having their entire family living in neighbouring houses. Every. Sodding. Time. No secrets permitted on this island! Or your ex will be friends with them. Or work with them. Or slept with their sister...I could go on and on and on

So, I can't have an open profile. There's no way that I can be brave enough to do that. My profile is hidden unless I contact anyone directly on POF. So I need to pluck up the courage to approach people myself.

I'm nearly an OD virgin. Had a very few dates a couple of years ago, then met previously mentioned ex on POF and was seeing him for quite a while. I've now been single and date free for a few months.

I was chatted up recently by a man that I met through work. We were chatting by text and he asked if I was a good cook. I explained that I could make the best damn ready meal that anyone could ever hope for, but usually settled for premium breakfast cereal (I have main course and sweet desert cereals in at all times - what more could anyone ask for?!) and I asked if he cooked. When we met for coffee (very, very small c!) he explained that he had been very shocked that I had asked him if he cooked, and had come to the conclusion that either I was joking or a very modern woman...

Sigh.

NEXT!

Oh go on Mac, tell all ...

Oh Wolf sounds like a bugger of a situation! Love the bit about cereal ...

All I can think about is the woman that posted under relationships excited and nervous about her first date to only get raped so really some people should be grateful that wasn't them despite years of only first dates... And if I remember correctly there is someone on here that posted in support of that poor soul and yet hasn't had the guts to say 'you think your dating life is bad, have and look at this and be grateful' because at the end of the day there are alway people who are worse off than you at so be thankfully for that and screw the disappearing acts!