got a date tonight and I'm getting nervous!

[CrispyHedgehog]

help!!!!

[kinkyfuckery]

Of fucking hell you poor girl.

You have to speak to someone. Do you have a friend/family member who can be with you just now?

[CrispyHedgehog]

Thanks everyone, I'll be back later.

Ive got to put a normal face on and go see to my elderly mum.

[paulapantsdown]

oh no crispy - i am sooooo upset for you

please speak to someone in rl who can help you with this

[DreamingofSummer]

Of fuck crispy Sorry to have been flippant earlier.

Call the police and get the bastard off the streets

[Lueji]

I agree.

Do go to the police.
And A&E for a rape kit. STD check in order?

Loads of hugs.

[Doha]

Oh Crispy
Please go to police love-you were raped. Gather your thoughts together-is there anyone in RL you can confide in.

You do need an STI check, please look after yourself

[tzella]

What the hell :o I feel sick for you :o

[tzella]

OH GOD! Those were went to be , not grin! Oh god

[swooosh]

Crispy you NEED to go to the police. As a person who works in a similar career as him it's VERY serious, imagine if he was working alone in a fast response. What if it happens to somebody else?

[AnyFucker]

Crispy just needs to get her head together for now. Right at this minute her only responsibility is to herself, (and her old mum).

Hope you are ok, crispy. Come back when you can x

[CrispyHedgehog]

I'm okish. Seeing gp in the morning. Thanks all of you xxx

[AnyFucker]

Take care, crispy x

[izzyizin]

Aw, jeez, Crispy Inadequate but sincerely meant (((hugs))).

Given his employment, he's got a constant and ever-changing pool of women to hone in on and I suspect he's done this before and it's probable that the vast majority of his victims haven't complained to the police for fear they wouldn't be believed - after all, he's a 'paramedic' and a man who spends his working life helping others and saving lives couldn't possibly be a rapist, could he?

I hope you know, and believe with every fibre of your being, that nothing you could have said or done last night would have changed the outcome and, no matter what you may have said or done, you are not responsible in any way for what he did to you.

My heart goes out to you, honey. Your world has been turned upside down and you've now got to concern yourself with doctors and health checks and other matters that you certainly didn't bargain on having to deal with this week.

Take care of yourself and know that you'll always find rock solid support here.

[ScrambledSmegs]

Glad you're going to talk to someone. Take care of yourself, Crispy x

[OrangeImperialGoldBlether]

Oh my god, you poor thing. Here I was all jealous of you with your lovely clothes and your date and then that fucker ruined everything. What a bastard. I hope you're alright and I hope you report him.

[aleene]

Crispy, I'm so sorry. And very angry on your behalf.

I think the 'nice as pie' behaviour means he comes under the term 'gentleman rapist' (disclaimer; I don't know much more than that, just reading on MN).

I hope you get medical and police help. Wishing you lots of strength.

[HotDAMNlifeisgood]

I'm so sorry Crispy. What he did was wrong.

Well done on booking a GP appointment tomorrow.

[izzyizin]

I was so horrified to learn how your evening ended that I didn't properly read your earlier response and have only done so now.

very full on and intense.. too much so. Hugging and touching me like we'd been together for years

This is extremely cunning behaviour designed to show, if he were to be brought to account by the law, that he was out with the victim not long before he allegedly raped her and, as no doubt numerous bar/restaurant staff can testify, the victim was laughing and joking with him and was clearly not objecting to his physical attentions to her before they left the venue(s).

I don't suspect any longer. I know that this man is well-practised and he's raped women on numerous occasions. In short, he's serial rapist and he's not going to stop anytime soon.

If you can't bring yourself to report him, Crispy, maybe we can find a way to warn others.

[tiredofwaitingforitalltochange]

I know that this man is well-practised and he's raped women on numerous occasions.

Er, how the fuck do you know? You don't and none of us do.

So sorry for you OP. Your date sounds like a nightmare. If you had sex forced on you that you didn't want, you need to get professional help asap. Don't waste your time on MN, much as there are lots of lovely helpful people on here you are better off getting some support from Rape Crisis and going to the police right now.

All the best.x

[izzyizin]

I do not intend to reveal my credentials here, Tired but if you want to believe that this man is anything other than an habitual rapist that's entirely up to you and you can go proclaim his innocence from the rooftops.

[tiredofwaitingforitalltochange]

I have no idea whether this man habitually rapes women and nor do you. I do not 'believe' anything either way, because I have no information. I wouldn't proclaim someone's innocence from the rooftops without any information any more than I would proclaim their guilt.

You'd be well advised to follow my example. And I think you are wise keeping schtum about your 'credentials' ;)

[izzyizin]

Follow your example, Tired? Do you mean that I should continually stalk take issue with other responders if their views do not accord with my own?

This is the second time in little more than 24 hours that you have seen fit to decry and deride responses I have given to OPs and it is the last time that I will engage with with on the subject of your tendency to shout others down in order to big yourself up.

Although it appears to have escaped your notice, this thread contains a wealth of information about the man who raped the OP last night but, presumably, you've also missed the part where he perpetrated a sexual assault on her in a manner which suggests this was not his first offence.