Huffy, illiterate men, scared of peas, it's a weird, weird dating world (No22)

[ChaoticismyLife]

Oh, watch...you mentioned flowers

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Only just realised there was a new thread .

Is raining too much. And school run time. And I cant find any umbrellas and live so close to school that people park further away than here in cars so I have to walk/run/do that thing they did in Rentaghost to move themselves.....

The only bloke I like on OKC hasn't responded to my message from last night although he keeps looking at my profile . . .

The rest of them are potatoes or outright weirdos.

I have decided to cancel my MA subscription as I am utterly fed up of the miniature potatoes and illiterates and charisma-free zones.
Am grinning cos just spent 40 minutes on the phone to a lovely woman at my credit card company, who told me that after rebuffing his advances for years and generally being a stroppy cow to him she got together with a good mate (they'd dated at school) at 26 and they are settling down.

It was SO heartening to hear. He'd seen her in all states - including a disastrous one-night stand with next-morning panda eyes and fake eylashes stuck to her chin "smelling like a brewers armpit" and he though she looked great.

She was a tomboy, hung out with blokes hated PDA's, now she's a soppy caaah and all over him

I took it as a good omen for us all.

I have a second date!

Cinema on Friday you say? I'm sure between us we can come up with a cunning plan...

Welcome Bochead.

Western If he keeps looking at your profile he's interested. He's just trying to grow some balls to reply. Give him time, he will be in touch, he's just nervous.

Mr Mutual and I messaged today. He has a couple of other options on OKC but hasn't met them and says he's not sure he will.
Shadow boxing a bit, with him using the "not serious" stuff and him mentioning "freedom".

Now head says what I need is to have the transition shag or several. Heart is imagining a nice FWB situation and fact that I like his mind as well as his snogs
Any ideas of how to gauge whether you are likely to get hurt seriously, don't want to be sobbing into pillow over someone I hardly know. I am messaging man I'm not sure I will ever see and have one earlier date who is definitely friend material.
My fantasies revolve around a long weekend where the sex bit was mixed with plenty of talking and enjoying adult company with our clothes on.
He asked whether I was jealous about him messaging other women. WTF. My response was to ask which of the three he'd rather be talking to. I guess if he isn't concentrating on me, then he isn't worth much effort.
Interpretations, advice?
I want a shag but want to be respected afterwards .

stru Nope. Nope. Nope. I know exactly what sort of fantasy you mean, but it doesn't look like he can provide it.
Damn straight if he's not concentrating on you then he isn't worth it, esp as it sounds like you are getting a wee bit emotionally invested here (correct me if I'm wrong )

Finger is still bloody sore!

Day has been totally wasted lying on the sofa in an antihistamine induced haze. Tried to get some sympathy out of coffee man and the best he could come up with was "that's a shame, have some chocolate"

Still don't know what to do about my Irish/American friend.

stru - doesn't sound good - reckon he's trying to keep the lines open in case he gets a shag but isn't in it for more than that. I know exactly what you mean about wanting the sex but with some conversation, good company, respect thrown in the mix - not sure that's what you'd get in this case.

snape um...yay you?

Tried to get some sympathy out of coffee man and the best he could come up with was "that's a shame, have some chocolate"

At the very least he should have offered to suck your finger.

I got stung once, and the local pharmacy gave me some amonia stuff that caused a huge blister. Grrr.

My mum usually uses cold spray (the type used by footballers on injuries) when my dad gets stung. But it must be used straight away.

Keep the finger cold.

"at the very least he should have offered to suck your finger"

LOL!

Am keeping it cold - feels ok as long as I keep ice on it and agony as soon as I take the ice off. It's been 6 hours already and getting really fed up already.

Yay me. I like sex. Sex is great!!

Point taken. Urgh men ... want them but don't need them. I guess that's true the other way round.
Lucky snape. Sex is great but so hard to have without emotion.

Yes it is. I am actually terrified at the thought of it.

I am in a weird frame of mind, not really wanting so much as a kiss unless I feel emotionally safe. I guess I'm going to have to be honest and if he doesn't like it, tough.

Wish I could channel snape's chutzpah.

I have oodles! OoooOoOooOooOodles! . Plenty to share!

Why has there been no more posts??? Don't you all want to find out what's going on????
Spill Snape, you have a captive audience!

Marks place on thread. I lost you all :(

Nothing happening on OKC for me but I really must find a decent pic.

Yay for sex for snape :) yay for pm cinema.

Off to catch up with everyone else's gossip.

She's shagging PM

:o

Hey everyone just marking my place

marking place... I can't keep up with you all!!

Shit - Irish/American guy is desperate to phone me!

I am an idiot. I text Saturday man today, stupid, stupid me and asked if I'd be seeing him next weekend (as he has his daughter this one) he said yes of course...but I don't believe him. I won't contact him again.

Managed not to cry in any of my meetings today, which was something I suppose, but generally feel awful. Am so sick and tired of never having anyone to support me, of no-one ever being on my side :(

Have deleted all my dating profiles now, next step is to buy 5 cats and embrace what is clearly my destiny in life, as men clearly aren't interested in me (well not beyond a few hours anyway).

Stru him using the "not serious" stuff and him mentioning "freedom"

What he's saying is he's after a no strings shag. That's all. If you want that then fair enough, but if you want a relationship or FWB then it ain't him.

Come along Snape, do tell.

Sponge, we're all on your side here. You know that. My personal opinion is you are too negative about yourself. You're really lovely, especially for the support you give people on these threads.

sponge you are not an idiot, you are strong to to have to look after yourself for so long. I think deleting your profiles may be a good idea - not because you are destined to end up with 5 cats but because once you focus more on yourself I believe you will just attract what you need. Do you remember that day you felt fab and got loads of attention? That will happen again. xx

Right, have arranged to meet quarryman for a date Saturday night if I can sort baby sitter. He's definitely keen, it's the third time he's asked so we will see . . . Also got another one e-mailing but still nothing from Mr OKCupid with the nice garden. We shall see . . .

Struwel - go for it so long as you know what you are getting into . . . That way, no false expectations on either side and possibly a good way of getting back into things

Yoga - what are you doing about the Irish guy?

Sponge - I have four cats already!! Plus seven hens, two fish and two children. Maybe a break from dating would be good, even if just for a couple of weeks, longer if you feel like it. I have not been doing it very long and you can feel quite jaded and worn down by it. I know what you mean about not having people on your side, I feel that myself, but we are all here for you to moan at whenever you want.