Huffy, illiterate men, scared of peas, it's a weird, weird dating world (No22)

[ChaoticismyLife]

Oh, watch...you mentioned flowers

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Fucking tosser of the year is more like it.

Ha..'Two and a half snogs' nice new title
:)

Hmmm interesting experiment! I was thinking of having a couple of different profiles to see how they reacted to different approaches too (maybe a honey-trap one to try and lure MGB back in a few months too!)

In fairness though, we're all after sex too, so if these men say they are looking for a relationship but will settle for someone offering no-strings sex they're probably just like us, hoping for something 'proper' (i.e. sex on tap without any of the effort of dating!) but in the meantime, making hay while the sun shines.

Doingit I've had much better responses from profiles that are To The Point. Stating clearly what I want and do not want, no 'airy fairyness' but with a bit of added humour. The kind of profiles I write when I am most pissed off with OD I'm on the sofa at the moment, but I'm a bit bored, so thinking of slapping up a profile, just to see what happens. AGAIN!

Snape, I'm loving the book, I think it deserves a book gift box and presenting properly. Or you could leave it on his pillow?

Hi everyone else

I changed mine to a list of likes & dislikes (dislikes including 'rude people who don't reply to messages'!) which I think helps the poor little lambs to process all that pesky information. Says at the top "I know you're probably just looking at the photos, but if you like what you see here's a bit about me".

I like that. I might pinch it

Written in mine was 'please refrain from sending me pictures of your trouser department', that went down well and got a lot of comments. Not from anyone worth dating but it got me a lot of comments.

Sponge I have just seen your recent FB pic, with your son, it's gorgeous!! I think, if you decide to create a new OD profile, you should crop that pic and use it! You will be inundated

Snape Your notebook is truly swoonsome.

The date I really liked kindly messaged me - just as I had accepted there would be no second date despite the fact he said he'd "love" to see me again and then fannied about to say that things were going well with another Soulmate and he was going to say "Cheerio".
Er, I kind of figured by the lack of texts and second date, thanks.
I said that was great and said I really hoped it works out for him, and then deleted all his messages.
I can cope with no interest, no chemistry, what I dislike intensely is people like that who fanny about, or change their minds or cancel the second date because they've found someone who'll put out quickerafter initially seeming keen.

Then I saw this and felt a whole lot better.

I think I had a lucky escape. He was too flakey. And I have a date on Sunday with the Geeky Scientist.

You've just reminded me that I have unseen episodes of Dr Who to catch up on. Whoop!

what do you think of this dress for the cocktail bar?

with tights, I'm not sure about think shiny tights. or barley there tights?

with these shoes

I am thinking about getting them. They look better in real life as I saw them today.

I already bought the dress....

Moving that is a stunning combination. I think barely there tights would be better.

Wow, Moving - you will be stunning!

I think my problem with OD is that I'm mostly just doing it as a distraction. I've not found anyone remotely interesting since Mr60, I'm not desperate for a man, quite happy in my own company...but when other shit starts to get me down, like now, I'm tempted to go back online just to make myself feel better. The Frenchman was a great distraction last week, and fun while it lasted but because I wasn't really into it, I lost interest as soon as we actually met. Meh.

Why is it that in the shop I convinced myself the top I tried on was so flattering that I bought it in 4 different colours, then when I tried it on at home it looked shite and I now have to not eat for the next 24 hours in the vain hope it might look better by tomorrow evening?!

Shops have magic mirrors

Moving love the dress and shoes.

snape beautiful work as always.

My mini profile...I'm still 40 just very just 5ft 6in, with two now adult dc I feel old I've been OD for about 3 years now, on and off, with varying degrees of sucess. I haven't had a date for months now, most of my success was with paid sites and I haven't been able to afford them for ages. POF was a complete and utter disaster with the only person who could string more than a couple of non txtspeak words together sending me an 'indecent proposal'. I've recently had a drastic drop in income so am currently sofa surfing, although with the weather as it is I'm not coming off the sofa until next year, even if I win the lottery

Ah, bummer. Work Contact Man is an arse. Read back through texts and emails and yes, he was definately flirting. And he was instigating all of it. Had said he would text later to arrange where to meet up. Doesn't text. Emails me mid way through the afternoon, to my work email, to cancel, with a very random excuse. Which would have been ok, except he knew I was in a meeting at his flipping offices all afternoon, not in my office at work, and I didn't see the email until I eventually gave up hanging around town near his building like some crazy stalker, and went back to my offices instead. He actually seemed like a nice man. I give up.

Thank you I'm glad I have the approval! So we think barley there black tights will be better?

Well I was just talking to fwb about Fridays date and he tried to tell me that it was a setup that the guy was working there knowing single desperate women would be there so it would be easy for him to sleep with someone!

I made the mistake of saying the guy is calling me a lot and what does he think of that? Then he said, see your being negative and your already have doubts! Cancel your date, I will take you out properly and at the end of the night drop you home and give you a kiss on the cheek!

I would much rather go out with the Friday guy!!

I won't be sleeping with fwb anymore! An told him tonight that I don't want to right now. So it's a good start!

I think I need a name for Fridays guy! Hmm someone else mentioned mr keen, he is also pristinely dressed and we have great conversations! Not sure what to name him

Jam - what an arse how rude! These guys really are rude!!

Barely there for a date yes. Opaques would look good at other times though :)

Jam an arse and a waste of your valuable time

One day, I want a partner who makes me a book like Snape's.

My mini-profile: Female, 42, single, no kids (joined MN last year when in a relationship and pregnant, but MC), small dog, seeks romantic man to create amazing personal gifts. Obsession with The Dr acceptable < wonders if Snape has a twin brother >

I know that after even 1 alcoholic drink I behave differently, and have a history of making really bad relationship decisions when drunk, so (as i would actually like a relationship now) I made a decision not to drink on a first date. There has therefore been no snogging on any of my 4 first dates, daytime or evening. This is no mean feat, as I haven't had sex in over a year and have a years worth of sex hormones stored up. This is my longest drought ever, and I'm a bit worried it will have healed over by the time I get to use it again.

Right, wrote post before I went out and posted when I got in, so missed a few!

Moving, that dress and shoes combo is gorgeous. I might go for a really sheer nude tight for a date (or rather that would be my plan, and I'd then change them for opaques for the sake of warmth).

Jam, lucky escape. He sounds like he's all about the chase.

Aw Jam, sorry! Another one bites the dust.

I'm wondering if we should be naming the men before they past the 1st date scrutiny?? (And speaking of names, no one has commented on my name change yet )

I missed him SO MUCH. Everything seems a bit better after evening in gym with PM. :) He kind of invited me to tag along 'some' time he goes to visit his married friend 'up north', next visit is scheduled for early November. Also to white mischief at Halloween... And to meet a colleague who might be able to help in my new job ('plus she'd really like you!') Shame we won't be talking by then due to notebook of dooooom.

Mentioned the school problems with DS1, volunteered what I said a day or two ago, that he was exactly the same at that age....

He hid his OKC as he got fed up with no one replying to his messages. These women are idiots maybe not, maybe they sense I'd have to hunt them down and kill them (Internet joke, would not kill anyone)

Sorry Yoga I have a tendency not to read names properly not at all on most threads so hadn't noticed

snape where's 'up north'?

snape - I can't wait, the suspense is killing me! So glad you are feeling better.

Thanks for the intro Fayster. I'm thinking I might have a sneaky half tomorrow night to steady the nerves, but then onto the fizzy water so I don't make an arse of myself! Its my first evening date, others have been coffee or a random 3pm dinner with coffee in the park afterwards (lovely!) so will be interesting to see how it differs. I chose the restaurant which is cosy and a bit dark - may have been a mistake!

Yogapeas

Jam What an arse. Shame as it sounded promising.

Snap "Shame we won't be talking by then due to notebook of dooooom" think positive!