Honey traps leading to kinky fuckery and other dating adventures (No 21)

[KirstyWirsty]

I want to know what Nicholas's tip was ... and the last thread was full!

Fayster, hi :)
Nice to know we have somehow, with all our complaining, persuaded someone else to join the madness of online dating!

Yes, if someone has a hidden Profile and needs an excuse to be out of the house, then It's highly likey he's married. Block and delete.

Time and Chaotic have approved Sat's date, who shall now be known as mr dish! ( thanks for that Time)

Chaotic has also seen ywk..... Who has today text to say he cant stop thinking about me

Mrl has text that he misses me and how excited he is to see me on the weekend :(
( and that I out excite a Jimi Hendrix exhibit)

so complicated.

Have a great time tonight Sponge, and you on Saturday Watch.

And yes Yoga, you're right. Even smart blokes are stupid. :o

A different legitimate reason sounds a bit to me.

ooh, and now a message from some guy in Romania..also 6 feet tall! Still not impressed.

WesternWind - west of scotland..?

Oh blimey there must be two of them!

I'm trying to think of reasons my male friends/acquaintances have not responded to someone after a date, especially after making lots of 'this has been great I really want to see you again' noises, might illustrate its nothing to do with the women in question...

1. Met on pof, had date - was long way away, enjoyed date got a bit jiggy but not too jiggy , made 'see you again' noises. Ignored all calls/texts afterwards. He decided that he liked her but it was too far and as he wasnt about to move he'd just ignore. Was too cowardly to just say 'thanks but distance too great'

1. Met on dating site. Talked lots on phone/email, arranged date. Said his mum was ill day of date so cancelled. Then went awol, no answer to calls/emails/texts. He actually had been enjoying the fantasy but had no real intention of turning up - he's married with a family

1. Talked lots online, then suddenly disappeared - he'd met another lady and they became exclusive.

1. (In a nightclub) Talked loads to one woman, really flirting etc, spent all night dancing and talking with her. End of night he just left. I felt really sorry for her so explained to her that actually he was engaged, however single he was acting, and although he'd spend all night flirting would never 'cross that line' She'd been really upset thinking she had bad breath or the lights had come on and he'd been horrified

All these are fairly standard I would think so not trying to patronise, I just think about all the time I wasted in the past wondering what was wrong with me when actually the answer lies with them

Me too yoga

I think we think too much. I think we should just stop driving ourselves mad with trying to work out 'why', because we will never get to know the answer. I think we should just take all this dating lark lightly, treat it as fun, enjoy the date and if it doesn't lead to a second, so what? Fun will have been had in the first date so that's good. Rather than look at what we aren't getting we should look at what we are getting. So there

I wonder what Snape is getting right now.

Brian, Yep, so true. Women always look to themselves for blame. Other women blame other women, and the men swan about doing what they want, oblivious..

very illuminating post Brainand!:)

I too wonder what snape is getting..
:)

And I agree, totally. 100%

4 messages on OKC so far and none I feel remotely tempted to reply to.
I think I'll go do the ironing, or wash my hair or talk to the dog...

Time, I'm sure you know what Snape is getting. It's called LDH. Liberal Dollops of Helmet. :o

Apols for shit joke that I've not used since I was about 38 16.

They may just be talking....

Where's my PM Nicholas?? I want your secret. Please.

Good god, how is one supposed to catch up with it all???
And 2 blokes here too!!!
At least.

As sponge is not back yet, can we assume it went well? :)

I met Mr K earlier. At a nice foodie place and had mint Moroccan mint tea (for my cold).
Just not like with ex too, watch, so I get that.

He has also been cat approved. :)

And Nicholas, as much as I don't need it ATM, as Mr K is clearly smitten, I am bloody curious.

Time.. I don't think you want Nicholas's PM.. it's not really that helpfull..
well.. he rung. I was with my friend and I said I'll have to call you back later and he said well I dont think I'll be available later I'm going home to crash.. He used his manager tone on me so I turned into my work mood where I take no prisoners and am used to confrontational tones. and said well I can't speak now you'll have to text it to me.
he's decided he needs more space and to work On his relationship with his kids. but he would like to stay friends and stay in touch still while he gets himself into a better place!! erm so he thinks in going to hang roud and wait for him I think.... but I don't think so..
awkward thing is our sons go to same sports club so will still see him every weekend anyway.. this I didn't realise when we first me on POF!

he's decided he needs more space and to work On his relationship with his kids. but he would like to stay friends and stay in touch still while he gets himself into a better place!!

This should go on the list of crap that men come out with

Ooh Chaotic - can we start a thread just for the list of crap men come out with? I reckon we could fill it up pretty quickly!

sounds like he wants to keep you on his reserves list Worley
pah!

Yoga it would probably only take a couple of hours, if that

Worley, fgs..what a Muppet. Urgh..

The south African, ha, in messages he was one name. Now tells me his name is something else.... But the first name sounded good at the Time. But that he doesn't lie. LOL. Yeah, wont be meeting him.

Thanks Worley but too late, I just got it. And you are right.

Another one bits then dust eh Watch. I just knew there was something fishy about him.

Aye, it'll be that smell from not washing

Thank you, I've a history of making bad decisions when it comes to relationships, so it's a relief to know that I'm actually able to see the warning signs.

Brian, I agree. Women tend to over think and take responsibility, when often it's nothing to do with us. I think Worley's chap demonstrates that, though at least he has the decency to admit it. I wonder if he would have bothered, if there wasn't a chance he would run into you at the sports club?

Am I the only one who's going to be waiting up tonight for Snape and Sponge to get home?

I know.. I'm not doing the fwb thing with him which I think is what he's angling for.. he's not having best of both worlds. not with me anyway.
a thread about all the crap men come out with would be good. yoga girl have you started it yet lol ...
think I'll stay off a datin site for a while and see why rl may bring.. I've still got 4 months left of 2012... ( I was told by two different mediums that 2012 was the year I would get married.. at this rate I can't even find a dp let alone a dh