His mother should've swallowed

[LouP19]

Is this title too rude?!!!

I appreciate everyone warning caution. Trust me, I'm using this place to rant and rave and swear and all that,... at the moment I haven't done anything. And even if I do manage to locate him (with some first class help!) I might not necessarily do anything with that information just yet. But I would just like to know, that's all, instead of driving round looking for his car all the time,.... Just this knowledge will make me feel a bit more empowered.

All advice on here is very helpful - the calm, the practical, the hysterical, the funny, the 'been there done that', it's all amazing and I value all of it.

Ahhh, thank you all so much, favourite time of the day is clicking on here in the morning and catching up with everyone. I don't feel too great in the morning, so I come here straight away and it boosts me a bit. Thank you all again, you're amazing.

Yes, ringing locksmiths first thing. Today will be about that, and hopefully hearing from a new solicitor and getting something booked in the diary. I've had an email from the old one who has said again how sorry she is and how she's determined she'll get me someone good from another company. So she really was great, and I think I made a good impression on her too. So hopefully that can be sorted today. Then PI Babylon tonight. I just hope he's where I think he'll be!

chezchaos they still do tinned beans and veggie sausages, that is also one of my favourites at the moment.

I have some roast chicken in the fridge from my Mum for the cats. The male cat just cannot cope when there's proper chicken in the fridge - he sits and miaows and miaows. A bit like Super Hans from The Peep Show after his crack, if anyone knows that reference. There's a famous moment where he knocks on the door and says (holding a baton) 'Give me the smack!!'. Well that is what my cat is doing at the moment!

PS. He also took my box sets of The Office and The Peep Show too.

Thanks springydaffs, useful advice for the mornings. I tend to sit around in my dressing gown a lot, I really should just get up and do stuff like washing up etc,...

PS. He also took my box sets of The Office and The Peep Show too.

Wot, he took the box sets of TV series featuring an entitled delusional fool, and sad sack singletons with terrible love lives living in a crap flatshare.

HE TOOK YOUR PEEP SHOW BOX SET?

This is worse than I thought. File for unreasonable behaviour and intolerable cruelty at once!

Honestly what a knob.

I know mornings are the shit time, but you still sound a little bit stronger every morning, you really do.

You know the episode when Johnson tries to start a consultancy from his bedroom goes a bit bonkers and delusional? That's uncannily like where Chutneytwat is at the moment. I could really imagine that character making off with a vanload of chutney.

What a wanky twat!, taking your box sets. You do definitely sound perkier. Hope today goes well.

Morning Lou, glad I found your new thread and that you're getting the locks changed. Hope you slept ok?

Hi Lou,
I've only commented once or twice on your threads but am fully supportive of you.

If he's read your mail and seen the scan date, can you change your locks today or arrange someone to be in your house when you've gone for the scan, won't he think that's an ideal time to go back to the house, knowing you are definately occupied somewhere else?

I don't want to unneccessarily worry you, just making you've got all bases covered, god, I'd even come and house sit for you (if I didn't live so far away) to make sure he was kept out!

I'm sorry to hijack your thread Lou but...
tinned beans and veggi sausages

They still do them? Where??

You just made my day

You may or may not have some joy in reporting the theft of your DVDs to the police. Some will refuse to get involved as they will see it as a civil dispute but it's worth a try. If you do manage to get any joy this could be a ramp up that he wouldn't be expecting and would put you clearly back in the driving seat. It might also frighten him into behaving in a more reasonable manner.

I've got a defendant at the moment who is going to a full trial for stealing a letter out of a postbag so stranger things have happened.

Loving the thread title....

and it may not be legal but if you change the locks what's the worst that could happen ? You'll be told off and told to give him a key. Surely that's better than coming home to yet more stuff missing ?

IMO the benefits of the security you would be afforded far outweighs the penalty for the action.

For those after tinned beans with veggie sausages, I saw some in a large branch of Tesco that I went to last week. For some reason, I didn't buy them. If it is any help though, Quorn make little cocktail sausages so you could always buy a pack of those, cook 'em up and chuck 'em in your beans.

Sorry - nothing to do with anything useful, but hey, Lou likes them so it's a sort of link.

Hope all goes ok today for you Lou. One useful (amongst the many) piece of advice was to list possessions/items around the house - just so you are 'on top' of what IS there, and what has been taken.

Will leave you to make up your own mind about locks, alarms and anthrax! :)

Glad I'm not the only Peep Show fan on here,.... I know it's stupid and incredibly rude, but still! I love it!

Still think the adrenelin is keeping me fired at the moment. Will you all still be here for me in the autumn when it's all died down a bit? Promise I won't be going on about HIM still then, but that's the time I'm worried about. It's my birthday at the end of September (36!) and I know that'll be the slip into the 'dark days'. Leading up to Christmas and knowing he's going to be a father with some OW is going to be devastating. And mourning the life I thought I had,...

Good news is the new solicitor has called, got an appointment for later in the week. Would rather do it sooner, but not a lot I can do about that.

peep show is brilliant. At least you can watch it on 4od

Morning Lou!
Just to add to the advice about paperwork and computer info - someone I know went back into the family home and photocopied all the paperwork. She didn't think anything had gone but all the time, he had been taking photos and copies of documents. He had photographic evidence that she had bought a new TV, bed and brought this up in court as 'proof' that she obv had money to go and buy loads of new stuff.

He took photocopies of her wage slips and god knows what else. :-(

I like Peep Show too. Even though David Mitchell has the cold, dead eyes of a killer (note to anyone who may take offence, that was a JOKE. I am not suggesting DM is a killer).

Glad to hear you have a new Sol. and new appt. Lou. Definitely will still be here in the autumn.

Love the new title Lou - and with every post you sound stronger and more determined.

Glad you've spoken to the new solicitor - how did the conversation go? Feeling buoyed?

Yes, will still support you over the coming months!

Glad solicitor called. You know they are making more peep show as heard Robert whathisname talking about it the other day.

Ahh, thank you. Now just got to ring the locksmith,... Feel a bit more nervous about this for some reason, because I know it's a bit wrong to do it,...

Re: veggie sausages and beans. Tesco and Morrisons do them. At the moment my favourite meal (along with the veggie tinned ravioli!) is half a tin absolutely smattered in strong grated cheese. Eaten out a cereal bowl!!

Thanks Lou and the other poster who told me im off to tesco today. Do locksmiths come straight away or do you need to wait for an appointment? I hope it's the former

Hi Lou,

I've been following your story and haven't posted before, but wanted to add something now. You're doing brilliantly! Such dignity!

You say that you don't use the front door and have it bolted from the inside. When you change the locks could you give him a key for the front door, not the back one? That way he does actually have keys to the house but can't actually get in. Thus you're not technically denying him entry to the property.

Lou, I need to catch up with your 3rd thread. I read the first two in their entirety, but have obviously missed quite a lot of what the chunt has been up to.

You sound so bloody strong and resolved. Amazing woman. Just amazing

Just a thought, can you tell the locksmith that you have lost your key somewhere and therefore need an emergency call out?

Of course we'll still be here in the coming months to support you and 36 is no age , I would love to be 36 again .