I found a list in my husbands pocket

[InSearchOfSunrise]

I've posted before about our difficult situation, relationship breaking down etc.

I just found a list in my husbands pocket with all our worldly possessions in a column, prices, and buyers. The buyers were all his family.

I feel sick to my stomach. Those were things we bought together. How can he compile such a list and how can his family be scavenging for bargains when our family is falling apart?

Feel sick and don't know what to do. Can he do this? I'm having images of his family just walking in and picking up my things and walking out with them, and me not being able to stop them, with a six month pregnancy and a 3 year old watching as her things are carted away for peanuts.

Please someone help

You either need to challange him on it, or get some legal advice. Probably both.

I wish I could help more, he sounds very cruel.

Copy the list and take it to a solicitor Monday.

While you are still together then either of you can take anything.

Well, I might hide anything of great value to me.

What an absolute bastard. I agree with getting to a solicitor, OP. :(

Anything of your dd's that you know she will want to keep, get them out of the house tomorrow morning.

Anything of yours that you want to keep, ditto. Forget anything with only monetary value and make sure you get anything with sentimental value to a safe place.

In fairness to his family, he could have told them you've agreed to sell everything in order to make the split clean and money-only (or something along those lines). Or they're just cold-hearted bastards.

Either way, you need to act if you want to hang on to anything you value.

I'm just sat here shaking and feeling sick.

All I can picture is dd.

do you have the list now? Photocopy it as evidence for solicitor. I am not sure of legal side. Can you change the locks? When will he do this? When you are in hospital giving birth to your baby? If he is still there in the house? When is he due back?

I sympathise, but whilst you're in shock, he's hawking your possessions round to his relatives. Do you have someone who can take some stuff in for you?

Have you noticed anything on list gone missing yet? If it has and joint under law call the police? Or get everything removed into Yellow storage place or family.

He's gone out with dd.

Ive taken a picture of it, it was in his trouser pocket , I had to put it back because he'd see it missing.

Mind is numb.

There's everything on it but all i can remember is our bedside lamps and the microwave.

Our bedside lamps and bed. His brother was the buyer.

I am sick sick to my stomach.

DD has you. That is immeasurable.

It is sick making and cruel.

DH sounds an arsehole as does his family.

I don't have anyone who can take some stuff for me, and I am afraid of what he will do if things go missing. Nothing has gone missing yet.

Are you in the UK? Do you own or rent your home and is it in joint names?

If he/any of his family try to remove your jointly owned possessions from your home, call the police who will advise them that he has no entitlement to cherry pick what he wants or remove any items without a Court order.

Oh glaring, I am so not enough for DD.
I am so not enough.

I would get the list and hide it from him, just to see him sweat. Let's be fair, he isnt going to ask you if you've seen it!

I would take the list to a solicitor pronto.

As others have said, remove anything (whether it's on the list or not) that you absolutely couldn't bear to be without.

Good luck OP

So he has been acting normal then? OMG! So sorry!

Tbh I would keep it safe as he will think he lost it fell out of pocket etc

You need to be a step ahead..I would not not challenge and get that advice on Monday morning...you can phone police for advice over phone too about the law

Ah, x posted. well done for taking a photo of it.

Why do you think you are not enough for DD?

It sounds like he has already stolen your self confidence Sunshine...now is the time to get it back! You are the ONLY thing your DD needs!

We are renting, both names on tenancy.

DD's bedroom furniture is not on there, and my bookshelves. That's about it.
How can I be enough for dd? I have nothing to my name, no money or savings, I can't provide her with a home to call her own and we are about to lose our belongings. She uses them things too, she watches her DVDs on the DVD player, she sits and sleeps on our couch, she feels secure with these things as they make up our home. I've changed her as a baby in the light of them bedside lamps countless times. Her little life is woven around these things and us.
What have I done to her.

That is awful. I'm so sorry. My DM never thought she was enough to us when in actual fact she was the centre of our world and the only thing that mattered. Do you have friends or family close by you could pass some precious things onto.
Are you scared of his reaction if you challenge him? If you are can you keep him so busy over the weekend until you can get some legal advice?
Do you think these "buyers" are real or could he just be writing ideas of takers down?

You are not about to lose them. Gp to a solicitor ASAP.

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