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DH not staying in bed after sex

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WhatsUrFlavour · 07/08/2012 22:15

well we just had sex, i said to him im going to come in 10 mins, lets snooze. 5 mins later he says he has a cramp so is going down stairs. so i had to come by myself. feeling sorry for myself, i dont think we have any intimacy left in our relationship. sad to think this is what im gonna get for the rest of my life.

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pookamoo · 07/08/2012 22:16

I don't really understand your pos, OP. Sorry.
If DH has cramp, it's probably fair to let him walk it off?

pookamoo · 07/08/2012 22:17

post, not pos

CrikeyOHare · 07/08/2012 22:18

I'm confused too.

"Come in 10 minutes"?

SparklyGothKat · 07/08/2012 22:18

Do you mean cum or come downstairs??

joanofarchitrave · 07/08/2012 22:19

Sounds perfect to me. Enjoy lots of space to spread out and sleep.

GobblersKnob · 07/08/2012 22:20

eh?

Surely your don't mean 'come'?

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kinkyfuckery · 07/08/2012 22:22

You have to wait ten minutes to come, then he leaves you to do it yourself?

Whyever did you bother having him there with you in the first place if you'd end up doing it youself?

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WhatsUrFlavour · 07/08/2012 22:24

cum. i quite like it with me lying on his leg.

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ginhag · 07/08/2012 22:25

Whassat with the what where why now? Confused

teaandthorazine · 07/08/2012 22:26

You hump his leg? No wonder he got cramp.

ginhag · 07/08/2012 22:26

How the fuck do you snooze and wank at the same time?

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WhatsUrFlavour · 07/08/2012 22:27

its like we havee sex and he cums. i have to then aahem rub myself for 10 mins to xum and wud lik him there wen i do it. its as if hes sorted so off he goes

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Keepthechangeyoufilthyanimal · 07/08/2012 22:28

WT actual F?? Hmm

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Olympia2012 · 07/08/2012 22:28

I'm confused Confused!

joanofarchitrave · 07/08/2012 22:28

'Whyever did you bother having him there with you in the first place if you'd end up doing it youself?'

I do this, because I've never had an orgasm with a partner. Doesn't mean I don't want to have sex, or to be with a partner.

Having said that, Whats, clearly he didn't want to do this today. Don't be too all or nothing about it, he does get to say if he doesn't want to do something.

Does he like being involved in a different way?

ginhag · 07/08/2012 22:29

I really don't understand why you don't do that at the time

Surely that would be better for everyone concerned.

BonkeyHasGOLDMollocks · 07/08/2012 22:29
Hmm
CrikeyOHare · 07/08/2012 22:29

But where does the snooze come in?

I would suggest you get him to sort you out first in future if he's just going to bugger off when he's had his.

MrsHelsBels74 · 07/08/2012 22:30

I don't understand why you'd say 'I'm going to cum in 10 minutes, let's snooze'. Why wouldn't you just do your thing straight after he's finished?Confused

ginhag · 07/08/2012 22:32

I was Grin at the heads up for 10 mins time.

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WhatsUrFlavour · 07/08/2012 22:33

i do it straight after but obv he wud get bored waitibg around for me so i do it myself. gets the job done quicker

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WhatsUrFlavour · 07/08/2012 22:34

so i ask him to snooze wile i do it

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BonkeyHasGOLDMollocks · 07/08/2012 22:34

Bored!

NamesKerry · 07/08/2012 22:34

How very odd!