More than smacking

[verysadmum]

For obvious reasons, I've changed my name for this one.

My child has been hit (by hit I mean more than a smack & leaving a bruise) by his Dad on more than one occasion, I know I have to do something but what?

Have you had any experience in this? Obviously anything that prevents him being hurt is the best solution but what would you do? Social services to report? Solicitor to get injuction? Something else?

URGENT!! TIA

It's me - what can I do? Trying to get your number - left it at home. Let me know - ANYTHING.

How did you know it's me? I knew I hadn't told you... I'm leaving for school in a mo but I shall try and contact you when I get back (will try and talk to teacher too..) Thanks Sykes.

I'm at work. Just guessed - sorry. Lots of luck.

That's meant to mean call me at work/I'll try to get your number - don't have it on me.

I live in Streatham/South London and have a car. I'm around pretty much all the time so if there is anything I can do to help just contact me. You are a very strong woman, and I thnk you should be very proud of yourself for taking this step.

We're all thinking of you, keep your chin up!

Good luck. I'm thinking of you.

Another one thinking of you, verysadmum. You're doing the best thing for yourself and your child. Stay strong.

Well I spoke to his teacher, I just mentioned social services and she whisked me round to the heads office. So they both know now... sort of. I was in tears though - I hate to think what any onlookers thought when I walked out the office, not that I should care. They were naturally concerned about my son though which is good. They also know that he mustn't go home with him. Thanks xx

Today will be one of the toughest days, but it is the day before your new life starts - I hope all goes well for you. Stay in touch as we will all be thinking about you. Have you got somewhere to stay now?

When is a good time to call you? I've got your number now.

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Yes I'm staying with a friend tonight. I feel bad accepting but I know I can't stay here and she is close for school tomorrow.. Thanks fot the offer though Twinkie - you might end up with me tomorrow though! Thank you to everyone else too for your support.

Sykes - anytime.

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Okay - will try in five mins.

VSM, just checking how you are. I think you are tremendously brave, today must have been one of the hardest of your life. Take care XXX

Thanks bunny, the weird thing is that I keep thinking that I've had the hardest day of my life then along comes another...

I'm staying at a friends tonight and she's gone to bed so there's just me and my glass of water...

I don't know if you lot met on Mumsnet but it's absolutely fantastic if all of you did. For VSM to get this support from an online group is really really nice.

VSM I hope you are okay. I am sure that fellow Mumsnetters will help. I certainly will if you need help. Am in southend but you can contact me through MN.

Yes I know a couple on here and through mn and yes it is amazing. As I was saying to my friend earlier (another mn-ter although knew before) that I would have continued as I was without it to post on... well with regards to me anyway.

Okay so my life feels pretty s**t right now (esp this time of year) but tbh it couldn't get much worse so the only way is up and forward... I pray.

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Good to hear you're okay, vsm. xxx

vsm - cant you get emergency housing? I know my friend could when her dp beat her (nasty git he was!) Someone put a link up for womens refuge, where is it anyone? You are not put in the nicest of places but it a safe place and your dh does not have to know where you are. It would most prob be better for your son.

wasnt it wickardwaterwitch who posted the address? anyone?

Good Luck, womens refuge here

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