ExP says the reason he left me is cos im fat-is this the truth?

[FattyWatty]

Ex walked out on me a few weeks ago after five years together, no kids. He left for a OW i had no idea about. After talking through why he left, he said the bottom line was that although he thought i was pretty and a nice person, he didn't want me sexually as he preferred to have sex with a slimmer woman. He thought he could get over it but he couldn't.

Now i am overweight, a size 20 but he never mentioned to me that this bothered him, when we met i was a size 16 so i haven't put on that much weight! He has always said he prefers curvy women and isn't particularly a looker himself (could lose a few pounds, bad teeth).

This has really got to me-could this really be the reason he buggered off? Or is he just trying to shift the blame?

Synfem, Basically some people are douchy and others arnt. It's not in any way the op's fault if he CHOSE to cheat. You do know that supermodels get cheated on? Those who stay within the strict guidelines of what is deemed attractive ie thin, youthful, unchanged by illness or pregnancy. They still get cheated on. You can eat 1000 cals a day, have a facelift And a boob job and if your partner is a cheater they WILL cheat because they want the excitement of something new.

All your attitude does is reinforce the self hatred so many women have over their looks, and this leads to them mutilating themselves with cosmetic surgery. You are just buying into the idea that women are simply simply objects for male desire and that is harmful to us all.

Thanks for answering my question about whether you had a diagnosed personality disorder symfem.

It would appear therefore that you have no excuses for posting in such a cruel manner to a vulnerable OP and so no allowances should be made for you when posters respond to that cruelty.