Now it's my turn girls

[Midwife99]

DH is leaving. He read out a statement in couples counselling telling me he is leaving me & DCs with all the details of the financial & practical arrangements as a done deal kind of situation. He has blamed me for it all. I didn't see it coming although there have been problems. I'm totally in shock. I still love him
but what can I do? I know that life goes on but still - totally devastated. No so wise now eh midwife?

OMG that sounds brilliant! (The Judas bit, not the ExH is a TWAT part)

But seriously, I look at something like that - a normal comment made by a person to their partner - and I think, oh Midwife, he was gone from this marriage a long, long time ago. I'm sad for your but a bit glad for you he's gone, to be honest. It doesn't sound like he was able to make you happy.

Can't wait - ex twunt can look after the kids while I take a hunk with me can't he! A hunk who thinks I'm gorgeous & feminine & definitely not " too fat to fuck"!

I've woken up feeling really shitty again. It must be the weekends. Also that stbx is off to Nottingham today for a whole week of screwing his cousin study school. Despite his promises that he will still see DD almost as much as when he was still here, it will have been 2 weeks when he sees her for 1 night & after that 3 weeks until the next time. Why do these men fool themselves that nothing will change & then run for the hills?

I think by saying nothing will change they just make themselves feel better. x

Can you plan something fun for you & DD to do today MW? I'm planning to go to the RSPCA and look for a cat (we were never allowed one before!) but otherwise even a trip to the old fashioned sweet shop always puts a smile on their faces (& mine)

Your DD will always know she is loved and secure with you which is the most important thing, and to be fair, I think its probably less confusing for little ones if he isn't always popping in and out. 2 or 3 weeks is a long time between visits for a little one What's his excuse?

Saying that, mine feel a bit like yo-yos going back and forth all week and none of us know if we are coming or going! I think one night a week would be more than enough given how little time he spent with them before.

He never sees her during the week & he's away this weekend & until next Saturday to return her Sunday. Then it's weekdays again & I'm away on holiday with her for a week but he is going away again without her the day we return for a week!

Ah, that's bad timing. At least it won't be a regular thing hopefully.

My stbxh stayed away for 3 or 4 weeks at a time a couple of years ago and the DCs did miss him to start with but they soon got used to it and were all the happier to see him (& vice versa) so I'm sure she'll be fine.

And on the bright side it means you don't have to see him for a while too.

Yes not all his fault I guess but still - he doesn't seem to miss her or be concerned about the length of time between contact. Hopefully it will improve after the summer holidays. Yes good not to see him - it really upset me on Sunday when I saw him so it's going to help having some space.

My baby is 3 today - trying ever so hard to be brave!!!!!!! Had a really lovely weekend with friends & it'll be lovely later when I go out for tea with all 4 of my gorgeous children but I feel really bloody gutted that stbxh has left her. How could he?

Because he is a twunt. But it doesn't matter, because she has you and you will never, ever let her down

Happy birthday mini-midwife!

Happy 3rd Birthday to DD. Yes, he is a twunt. My STBXH walked out a month before my DD 4th birthday (and a planned trip to Poole, Peppa Pig World etc). As you know he came back, then went again a week after her birthday. I think now that he only came back out of guilt and wish he hadnt bothered!!

But I suppose, at least he didnt let DD down over her birthday trip. Next year I think school breaks up the day before her birthday, so I shall plan a fun day for her and some friends and twunt WONT be invited to her birthday party, nor any of his weird family!

I hope you have a lovely tea later and that she has a lovely birthday..

Having a shitty day. Really exhausted & it's only week 1 of school hols. Ex twunts aren't seeing kids for 3 weeks & I just feel totally drained & am being really grumpy with DDS.

Oh dear. Is there anybody else who can help with them to give you a break? How annoying that the twunts are busy at the same time... Are they on a twunts holiday together ?!

My twunt hasn't bothered to contact me about DD today when he usually sees her on a Weds.x

They must be! Twunt 2 only sees DD at his convenience & this month it was only for 2 nights total. Twunt 3 is also unavailable because he is away "alone" again. Hmmmm!

Hope you're ok today MW and trying to enjoy being twunt-free for a while. I think everyone's a bit grumpy in this heat, so give yourself a break. Try to meet up with some others while the weather's nice - I went for a picnic with some friends from school yesterday, the DCs all ran round the park together for about 3 hours while we sat and relaxed. Sanity saver!