Support thread for survivors of childhood sexual abuse PART 6

[CailinDana]

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The purpose of these threads is to allow survivors of childhood sexual abuse, their partners, friends, or parents, to talk in a safe place about what they think and feel. Nothing is off limits or taboo, just say what you want to say.

You get refused NHS if you have councelling elsewhere, it applies to a lot of government funded programmes. If you have help from one place you can't have simultaneous help from another.

I've had 12 sessions of NHS councelling and can be referred back if I need it in the future or look to rape crisis etc.

Im heartbroken, I cant say very much for legal reasons, one of my DCs has disclosed abuse which is being dealt with by the relevant authorities.

Im going to drop a thread into OTBT if you wouldnt mind looking. Ive posted it there thanks.

Sorry that should be government funded councelling, ie NHS, rape crisis, women's aid etc and most are of limited sessions. If you know you need a specific type of councelling it's best to try and find it and get on the list as they're all underfunded sadly.

If you're paying for it yourself you have a choice.

In my case pyschology said it was to severe and I needed more specialist help than they could give I hadn't started any counselling at that point was very suicidal as well.

Did they suggest where you could get specialist help dotty?

Whydoi - I've seen your post and I'll look for your thread on OTBT.

They often won't refer a suicidal person for councelling as it's not suitable until you're stable enough to be able to process things.

So what do they do in that case Olympic?

in my DCs case, they referred to MH team re suicidal thoughts.

Try and stabilise you either at home or as an inpatient, medication, weekly gp check ups at the surgery if an outpatient which is what I had and 3 monthly checks with psych to ensure you are safely progressing ie don't need to be admitted

You can self admit if you are struggling, they will admit you if you are a danger.

Cailin, are you ok?

If you are struggling you can make an appointment with your gp weekly and stress you need councelling asap. Doesn't help if the waiting list is long.

Still have those thoughts at times, I was lucky that by the time I'd found out I was refused I had already been seen by Rape Crisis.

Try and stabilise you either at home or as an inpatient, medication, weekly gp check ups at the surgery if an outpatient which is what I had and 3 monthly checks with psych to ensure you are safely progressing ie don't need to be admitted

Thats a lot more than we could access, after DC admitted suicidal thoughts I rang GP in a panic who made emergency referral to MH Team, there was a 12 week waiting list for appointment, during which we saw, the GP once and no-one else.

I begged for help and they squeezed us in after 10 weeks.

Whydo, I've read your post and am trying to word an answer which will hopefully help :)

How old was your dc then Whydo?

I'm grand Olympic, thanks. Just curious about the system as my only experience of MH services was in Ireland (and they were shite).

thank you, Im not suppose to be posting on forums, but I just dont know what to do.

Tbh the experience I had of MH services as a teen young adult where god awful as I've posted about in the past

MH services for teens should be better as teens can access them through schools.

It depends on the age of the child. Gp's might not cooperate with parents but will with the child themselves. Schools are supposed to be quite proactive in finding psychological services for young people in the school and refering out to camhs if needed.

Depends on the area and the funding crisis. If anyone is struggling and waiting you can access your gp daily if you need to. If you're on meds they should see you weekly.

MH services for teens should be better as teens can access them through schools.

It depends on the age of the child. Gp's might not cooperate with parents but will with the child themselves. Schools are supposed to be quite proactive in finding psychological services for young people in the school and refering out to camhs if needed.

Depends on the area and the funding crisis. If anyone is struggling and waiting you can access your gp daily if you need to. If you're on meds they should see you weekly.

Why aren't you supposed to be posting on forums?

Dotty its police advice, in case the defence team come across it and try to use postings in court.

I dont get how they would know Im me, but I dont want to risk harming the case.

I haven't been given advice like that at all by police if I'm not allowed to say anything I'm told not to.

I dont want to give actual age, but mid teens, I have found the lack of support we as a family, and DC as a child victim, have received has been shocking.

I always though there would be people to help you through something like this, how wrong was I.

The Rape Centre are amazing, but like everyone else, resource limited, NSPCC have helped on phone. Thats its really, the police, well they are good at what they do,but they investigate rather than support and sometimes, I feel like alll they do is provide lists of what can be seen to harm the case.

Thats the advice we have been given, not to post on forums, not to discuss with friends or family, not to defend ourselves against rumours, generally to keep our heads down and mouths shut until after the legal side is resolved.

Its made me feel massively isolated tbh.

DC I'm involved with are fab local one told me to phone her to talk rather than getting to rock bottom she says she'd rather I spoke to her for 5-10 minutes than me take off in car for a drive.