Support thread for survivors of childhood sexual abuse PART 6

[CailinDana]

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The purpose of these threads is to allow survivors of childhood sexual abuse, their partners, friends, or parents, to talk in a safe place about what they think and feel. Nothing is off limits or taboo, just say what you want to say.

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:o are they better than thorntons?

I make my own so don't buy them often.

at both your dh's, lady strimmers and wrong chocolat, tmi but do you punish them by making them sleep in the spare room have been single tooooo long

I have a fantastic truffle recipe!

They are far far better than Thorntons Olympic.

I am that you make your own chocolates!

Don't have spare room often have DD2's room free sometimes think I'd sleep better in her bed as I can sleep in the kids beds during the day no bother counseller said its quite a normal thing as its a safe zone.

Might have to try them :o

Chocolates are easy, it's the quality and flavour that makes them.

Do you fancy trying? I'll pm you the recipe if you promise to keep it secret, top secret!

The one we tried was strawberry ice cream flavour was to die for never tasted owt like it

Oh go on then, although I'm so bloody lazy I can't guarantee I'll try them any time soon! What's likely to happen is that I'll buy the chocolate and then just eat it without event taking out the recipe!

Dotty, I meant do you punish bad dh's by not sleeping with them, I'm a useless person and have no idea how to be a girlfriend/wife!

Nah I don't punish DH at all. All he has to do is look at me with those eyes and I'm jelly. To be fair, the chocolates thing was an honest mistake.

Olympic we don't have a relationship in that way now still no sign of it getting any better

Cailin :o well it does take 3 days to make!

Oh god Olympic. It'd better be worth it!

Big sis on the otherhand has gone the opposite but she's less than a year into the relationship. I stayed with her when I went down and could hear them at it

It's understandable that things would be like that at the moment dotty. Has your DH commented on it?

Hello, feeling a bit better today. Went to the meeting, was productive.

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Aw Cailin, so sweet sucker :o how long have you been married?

Dotty, hopefully things will get better after this is all over, hugs

He's fine told him no when he tried touching me was lying wrapped in towel all afternoon yesterday and he just gave me a cuddle.

That's why I feel I've done the wrong thing so not fair on him.

To be fair I've already been told by a very experienced person in this sort of thing [DC] that it wont get better until it's over with.

Hi Offred, glad you managed today :)

What do you mean dotty, what wrong thing, what's not fair?

Hi Offred. I'm so glad the meeting went well. What are your thoughts like at the moment?

Olympic, we're together nearly 10 and half years, married nearly 4. We've had our hard times but he is a great guy and I'm lucky to have him.

I think the DC has it right dotty. Try not to put pressure on yourself. Hard as it is, you need to give it time.

Disclosing it I know it's the right thing to do but its so unfair I was fine this time last year apart from being an angry person.

Just ignore my ramblings tonight.

We won't ignore you dotty. I understand what you mean, but I honestly think that this process, horrible and hard as it is, will be worth it. You are very worried about everyone else, which shows what a kind and lovely person you are, but for the time being you need to focus on yourself and accept that you won't be perfect and you won't meet everyone's needs and that's not a crime. They need to look after you this time, because you really really need it. It's ok to be the one looking for help.

No I'm not a nice person should hear some of the things I've said over the years nasty and horrible.

Dotty, I agree with Cailin, it's better out than in but I know it's so difficult.

Offred, hugs.