Support thread for survivors of childhood sexual abuse PART 6

[CailinDana]

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The purpose of these threads is to allow survivors of childhood sexual abuse, their partners, friends, or parents, to talk in a safe place about what they think and feel. Nothing is off limits or taboo, just say what you want to say.

but am sure DS age 5 will eat all of it when he comes home from school. YAY for DS and his mega appetite

sigh

Hehe Lookup, I can't make sponge to save my life. I am good at eating cake, not making it :)

thanks Cailin, such good advice again, I will remember that.

I do need those boundaries in place.

This is the woman who was about to cut down the cords to my window blinds on Sunday morning, dread to think if I had just popped to the loo or sthing, I would have an entire set of blinds to replace. took me FOUR goes of using my voice to tell her to put the scissors away and stop.

very hard to do

anyhow, back later, have to pop out

wonder if dotty has bought anything nice yet.

Deleting comments is good putting pedophile lover is bad [innocent face]

Just make it into a doughnut cake?

I'm pushing people away in rl so need to pull my socks up.

Why are you pushing people away Olympic?

xpost sorry, how do I explain my family live 2 mins away but hate me and think I'm crazy.

It always comes up in conversation, oh whose your family and I'm too raw to answer nonchanently.

And deep down I expect people to think the same and hate me for how pathetic I really am.

Grr, hate insecurity.

Part of the battle is recognising the insecurity though Olympic. I know it's shit but once you know it's there you can try to get past it. Do you agree?

Yep and to an extent I'm gaining control over it, it's just atm the slightest negative comment just cuts open my feebly applied stitches.

Actually today went well, I really connected with one person, had a lot in common and she saw me rather than the labels. The other woman was a bit put out and made a needly dig, so looking at it from her perspective she was probably miffed she wasn't invited.

How's it going everyone? Feels like a long day today. DS and I went out earlier but we've been in all afternoon while I tried to tidy the house up and we're both bored. DH is out at a work thing tonight so I'm on duty till DS goes to bed about 7. Not in the mood today

Hope you find something to do.

I'm going to read up on feminism from a neutral pov. T'is bugging me, maybe I'm mixing up non feminist and feminist as my family believe being married is the be all and end all.

Sorry for derailing.

You're not derailing, I think it's an interesting idea. I find it difficult to identify with feminism because it's a bit prescriptive and I know some feminists would view me as a "traitor" because I'm a SAHM. In essence I am a feminist but I think the label carries too much with it unfortunately.

Now my brains hurting :o

It's interesting from a politcal pov, I've just had to survive on my own so often get labelled as one even though I have spent time as a sahm

A lot of feminists would say that being a SAHM doesn't preclude you from being a feminist. I just think it's a bit, I suppose, exclusionary, to put a label on the whole thing because I think realistically there is no woman who doesn't want freedom.

Look you can block her from seeing your posts she wont even know just presume your not active.

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on fb Olympic blocked DH after I reinstated him his comments are far to below the belt for my liking

Treated myself to Hotel Chocolat and body shop stuff ran out of body shop stuff ages ago which I never do usually.

Oo did you have a good time though?

and what's your dh saying on fb or do we not want to know?

Ooh I love Hotel Chocolat stuff, yuuuum.

I proved I could do it wasn't busy though bizarre as nothing fazed me before would do most things on my own as well.

Oh I posted a picture of him strimming elderly neighbours grass with a sarcastic comment [he volunteered me to do it] and he came back asking about if i'd found the lady shave if not he'd use the strimmer don't want comments like that at the best of times he means no hsarm just doesn't think.

Never had it before Cailin had a taste in the shop was mmmmm

Oo what's hotel chocolat when it's edible at home?

Gorgeous gorgeous chocolates Olympic. My friend bought me a box as a thank you present last year and they were amazing so I asked if DH would get me a box for Christmas. He got me an advent calendar that Hotel Chocolat solid chocolate in it, not the box of chocs I asked for :(. I tried not to be disappointed but I really really was. I'm going to ask again for the proper box this year, and hope he doesn't forget this time!