Can I ask about sex and wee? At the same time?

[PintandChips]

In a new relationship - he has an 'interesting' sexul request. Am not sure about it. Can anyone advise if I am being totally prudish?

Yuk, that is horrible Don't do anything you feel uncomfortable with. I agree with the poster who said they wouldn't be able to "go" in someone's mouth. Perhaps a good pelvic floor strengthener??!!

AF, I can see your posts although I can see how you might feel invisible! Just confirming, like.

Anywho. Whatever floats your boat. It's more common than I'd like to think it is, no doubt but a) first night is a red flag and b) in his mouth? WTAF?

You know what worries me is that if I say no, and it's a real fetish of his then he'll look for it elsewhere. If it's the only thing in the relationship that feels wrong isn't it silly to run away?

How did he ask you? Did he approach it by asking if it was something you thought you might want to try? Or did he straight out ask you to do it to him?

I'm getting the impression you feel like you can't say no.

izzyizin i spat my wine out at that

Vair weird images of how to piss on someone who was on fore going round my head!

Personally I would rather be alone than to have to piss in a man's mouth every day to keep him with me.

Op if you say no and he looks else where then it just wasn't meant to be, sorry!

it's not atall uncommon with people who are into s&m or even mild versions of it - he obviously likes humiliation, I think it's less extreme than liking being hurt, but this could only be a tip of an iceberg?

Am I the only person who wants to know what he does after the pee is in his mouth?!

And OP, if you are feeling under pressure then that is the reason to say no. If you didnt feel pressure it would be because you would be happy with it, you are not therefore it is causing you problems.

oh fgs, now you sound like you want to appease him

so what if you say no and he looks elsewhere ?

so be it, lucky escape and all that

what are you, some kind of doormat ?

listen to yourself

I used to say this kind of thing when I was 15

"if I don't put out, he might find another gf who will"

I was stupifd then, you would be stupid now

Its not silly to run away, if thats the only thing that feels wrong.

But you need to speak to him and see how you feel when you tell him NO becauise its coming across like thats how you feel. Judge his reaction, then judge how you feel.

Do you think he will push you? go elsewhere? etc

If he left because you wouldnt use his gob as a bog then I would consider it a lucky escape!

I didn't like to ask bogeyface

Well the main rule about anything sexual is you don't have to do anything you don't want to.

I have said 'no' to many things in my time but with certain people have done those I previously thought I would not enjoy/want/like/love. It is therefore possible to change your mind along the way or with a different partners.

Five years ago I would have laughed or been horrified by some of the things I now enjoy. Our needs and desires can change over time and, as previously said, if you want to give it a go then do. Easy really.

Well I have said no a few times but he keeps gently coming back to it. he is not pressuring me or making me feel like an idiot for not wanting to. I mean I have some pretty weird fantasies too, but I don't talk about them. Maybe he is just braver than me (us)?

Christ, won't someone think of the mess!

And the fact he'll most probably suggest more extreme acts of kinky fuckery if this is his first and early request.

Just trying to be practical, maybe you could wee in a potty and then fling it across the room at him, very sexy.

no pressure ?

at all ?

that is why you are asking a load of strangers if it's ok to piss in someone's mouth

yeah, woddevah

Re the mess....bath?

X posted with you OP.

It's a pretty niche, out-there thing he's asked you to do. And while it might be normal to him cos he's been doing it for years, he should be prepared and ready to answer any questions and address any concerns you might have.

The fact that you don't feel you can talk to him about it isnt a good sign.

No....just no.

Op if you have said no but he keeps 'gently' coming back to the subject then he is pressurising you!

I guess what I am hearing here for the most part is what I already thought. I can give it a go, if I don't like it, I don't do it again. I am sort of confused about the logistics of it - like, what if I drown him by accident? Not sure how strong my pelvic muscles are these days!

This is why it's important to have a proper conversation about it.

"Hi , I feel like I really need to talk to you about the request you've made a few times now. I'm willing to consider and be open minded about it, but I feel like I need to understand it all better."

Questions to ask him would be:
"What do you get out of it?"
"How would we do it? (e.g. position, etc)"
"If we do try it and I don't like it, will you accept that and not ask me to do it again?"
"Does our relationship hinge on this fetish?"

etc

Talking about sex outside of the bedroom is very important.

Bath or shower, yes. Although might be hard to direct it into his mouth and that.

Pint, if you WANT to do it, do it. What does it matter what we think? Some people like vanilla, some like more spice. Both is fine. Do what you want to do.