Can I ask about sex and wee? At the same time?

[PintandChips]

In a new relationship - he has an 'interesting' sexul request. Am not sure about it. Can anyone advise if I am being totally prudish?

There are some people I wouldn't do this to if they were on fire

Well, you lot, he suggests it in such a way that he makes it feel really normal, and he's a grown up (50) so he's clearly done it before.
Makes me feel prudish to say no and I've done loads (!) of stupid sex things...

@ rock

You are not prudish to say no.

Ewwwww.

Wee is for the toilet. There's no way in hell I could do that.

In his mouth?!
And he shared this on the first night?!
I'm quite surprised. Where on earth did you meet him?

If you don't want to do it please don't. He'll only put pressure on you to do it again and it could potentially ruin sex for you

Hahaha Rock

Personally I couldn't do it but each to their own I suppose, op would he be happy with 'vanilla sex' as well or is he after you pissing on him everytime you have sex ??

Baby, we do talk about sex, it's not a taboo subject, but outside of 'the moment' we haven't talked about this thing of his particularly. Maybe I should just do it and see. Maybe it will be - fun? It is in his house in his bed in his sheets... Wldn't do it on mine!

look, if you "feel prudish to say no" that is actually the best reason of all to say no

you are being pressured

don't you feel it ?

stop and listen to your feelings, instead of trying to be a cool, new sexy girlfriend

is he a porn user, btw ?

and you still haven't answered where you met him

Susiedaisy we have had loads of 'vanilla' and it's been ok - good even. But because he asked the first time, it's always in my mind. That I know that's what he wants. and he wants to watch me wee (tmi?)

seriously, i am very sexually adventurous and have tried loads of things, with my DP of 20 years. I am not sure about someone asking to do this so soon - how is the relationship otherwise? as in, have you been together long? is it serious? casual? Is he sexually submissive? My DP isn't but many men who like this are. How would you feel if he wanted to do it to you, we do both - but i dont have it in my mouth - it tastes vile

Some pay good money for that particular service.

It seems to me that an entrepreneur with the nous to pasteurise and bottle urine and despatch it in the mail in plain brown envelopes would be on to a nice little earner.

But count me out!

AF - I have known for years, met through friends. He is lovely in every other way. Bit distant emotionally maybe, but so am I.

where did you meet him ?

I'm concerned the way he's normalising it is a technique to try and pressure you into doing something you would otherwise be uncomfortable with.

If you think you might find it fun, that's up to you though. As long as you know it's your own mind telling you it might be fun.

Many people enjoy many different sexual things, so no one can tell you it's "normal and fine" because essentially all things are. The only important question is "Do you want to do it?" Yes - then do it. No - then don't. Maybe - think about it and research it, imagine it and most importantly, talk to him about it.

ah, cross post

Then I think op this is just the tip of the iceberg and he will want to introduce alot more as time goes on,

One of my exes wanted to do this. I always refused.

If the idea of something doesn't turn you on or intrigue you at all, even a little bit (and, yeah, pee really doesn't do it for me [sickface]) then don't even try it. Just say No, thank you. It doesn't make you prudish. If you hated curry but his favourite restaurant was an Indian one, you wouldn't feel mean for saying no thanks, same as if he loved gory horror films and asked you to see one, but you were really squeamish.

another thing that worries me - the fact he asked the first time you had sex with him - id worry he would want this all the time.

I've never been told that I'm the one someone's been waiting for before so you've made my day. :)
I think the bottom line is, you don't know him very well so don't have enough trust to experiment with him like this. It doesn't make you a prude.
Can you not talk to him and say you'll think about it but aren't ready to do it yet? His reaction will tell you a lot. If he can't wait then you're well rid and if he can, you might build a solid trusting relationship where you will be happy to try things with him.

Rock and Anyfucker

Also @ rock.

The problem with being a female is that the flames would lick (no pun intended) my nether regions and for that reason alone I'd be unlikely to piss on any unfortunate soul who was on fire.

Ah x-post