I need to leave my husband. Please help me.

[anewbeginning2012]

Hi

I am not a mum. (don't hate me for posting here)

I need to leave my husband. He makes me do things and bullies me. I have no bank account, no job, and no friends.

I can get some money if I take his cards (for shopping). How much do I need?

also to massively complicate things I have a most beloved dog, that comes with me (i hope)

I stopped wearing my wedding ring this week and i am scared that things will escalate, he said rather pointedly 'so there's nothing I can say to make you put your ring back on?'

I am so scared. please help me.

I don't get notifications to my email when I get a pm

Good luck a newbeginning. I will be thinking about you this weekend.
xx

I don't either AF as I turned them off but OP might not have done.

ah, I see

I don't remember ever taking the option to switch them off, but I have been a member here since about 1917

No I just checked in case someone asked & I don't know how you do it either!

I get notifications when I get a pm, but you have to actually log in to mumsnet to read it IYSWIM there's nothing on the email itself do if he doesn't know her log in details it will just say "x sent you a message" or whatever.

Actually I'm talking balls clearly.....you can't "turn it off" ...must be thinking of FB. I just don't get many PM's!!

Sorry to side-track folks. Techno numpty strikes again,as you were.

BB, I thought that was the case

If you are near Middx/Herts area I can help. PM me.

One thing people need to remember is the last number redial thingy. If they ring a number that will arouse suspicion they should immediately dial another number eg for Tesco so they can say they wanted to know the opening hours.

Bless ur heart anew. Sending u all the luck and strength in the world!!! U are worth so much more than this!!! Xxxx

Hello lovely

I've just seen this thread - I'll be thinking of you this weekend. Stay safe xxx

you can turn it off - i don't get emails notifying me.

Hi Anew, you are being very brave, just wanted to let you know that you are in my thoughts this weekend.

I can understand why you are so panicked, but remember that he has NO idea what's going on in your head unless you choose to tell him.

Right now, you need to take some deep breaths, let your mind calm down and do this right, you are almost there, almost free.

If you haven't managed to get through yet, please ring Women's Aid again. You don't have to do this alone. WA will help you, they will stand with you and they will know what to do.

If you are afraid that he might hurt you, just grab your dog and say you're going for a walk. And just get out of there. Please keep posting, keep reaching out for help. It is there if you want it.

You CAN do this, you're doing the right thing. It will be ok very soon now. Stay strong love.

Just wanted to join in with the support, you will be fine, you can do this and change your entire life.

The help is there for you as well.

Will be sending good wishes your way all weekend.

How are you today?

Thinking of u today. How did u cope over the weekend?! Xx

Thinking of you. Please come back and talk. Hoping you are leaving but if not please keep talking. X

Hello OP

I read the thread before the weekend. Please come back and update us even if you haven't managed to leave.

There are some excellent regular posters in this section who can give you sound advice.

Thinking of you...keep talking. It might take you some time to build up to leaving, but you can do it. Please look after yourself.

you ok OP?

How are you doing OP?

OP, did you know that libraries often offer free internet access and free use of their public computers? So if you are doing something sensitive, just go to a library. You do not have to be a member or even live in the area, just take some ID that shows your address.
It must be awful to feel that you are being watched.

i'm still here. didn't want to come back online cause I felt ashamed. sorry for wasting your time. feel v v low and tired.

do you know what? it doesn't matter. we're still here for you, and one day you'll find the strength. look after yourself.