DH deliberately cooks food DS2 doesn't like....

[Cornflakemum]

I'd like some perspective on this...

Every so often I feel that DH does stuff that I find sort of passive-aggressive... as if he's 'asserting his authority'..

Tonight is a case in point. His turn to cook dinner (he works from home, so we take turns).
Kids have packed lunches, so I like to make sure they have a 'proper' meal at teatime.

DH makes Fajita chicken wraps. No problem there, except that he puts finely chopped onion and peppers in them, neither of which DS2 likes.
Result : DS2 sits glumly and picks out every last piece of onion & pepper, and ends up leaving half his meal.

Just for the record, I don't like fussy kids as a rule, and my kids generally eat most things, it's just DS2 actively HATES onion and peppers. I won't pander to pickiness, but if I put onion in something I chop it big enough for DS2 to leave on the side, or I cook onions/peppers separately and add them after taking out a portion for DS2.

DH knows this, but does it anyway... his 'view' is that DS 'should' eat them.. WTF? Isn't this rather controlling and pathetic? DH doesn't like peaches, so I don't present them to him as an integral part of a meal.

There's other stuff too.. like the fact that DH always calls us to say it's 'on the table', but when you arrive in the kitchen, he hasn't started serving up, so it's all about CONTROL and having us there in advance

Don't know why, but tonight this has really made me think about his attitude and actions

Cornflakemum

"Just for the record, I don't like fussy kids as a rule, and my kids generally eat most things, it's just DS2 actively HATES onion and peppers. I won't pander to pickiness, but if I put onion in something I chop it big enough for DS2 to leave on the side, or I cook onions/peppers separately and add them after taking out a portion for DS2."

OP you are pandering to a fussy eater.

I don't think that your husband is being controlling, I think that the OP doesn't like loosing control.

As for those saying serve peaches up everyday, how controlling, childish and passive aggressive is that.

Offred .... I'm hijacking, but handmaids tale?

Doh!! I just read 6 pages of this expecting the OP to have come back on and revealed the true extent of her DH's depravity, or at least told us what an arse he really is, and I suspect she has been scared off.

I wouldn't give anyone anything they didn't like ever, that is the truth, you can all come round my house and we'll keep bashing away at the fridge till we find something we all like. So I think OP's DH is being a bit of an arse giving the lad onions.

But I too call everyone for dinner. DH likes to keep me waiting, and when we finally all do manage to sit down, he usually spends around 10 minutes adding to his plate from a large selection of condiments he likes to be surrounded by. Frankly I could kill him. Many marriages are like this, that's why people crack and fork their partner in the eyes over a Barnsley chop shouting "you never put shelves up you wanker".

Or maybe that's just me.

OP, come back, if only to shut me up.

Burning, you are funny.

I hope you mean ha ha !

it still tastes oniony when fried but is invisible so fuss pots don't know they're eating it.

I could. As a child I didn't like onions and could taste them in anything. I'm the same with celery now - cannot stand the stuff and anything it is in, that is all I can taste.