Should I even be bothering with this or ditching him?

[BoredRoom]

I have a fairly new boyfriend, have been seeing him for 4/5 months. He lives alone, no kids and I see him around 2 or 3 times a week. Taking it slowly I suppose but several things bother me - this is one of them.

I have child free weekends but we NEVER spend the whole night together. He will come here or I will go there and we watch a film , have sex and then I come home. Usually at about 11pm as he likes to be in bed around then as he has an early start due to a consuming weekend hobby that he usually does on both days of the weekend. The reason I don't stay is because he likes 8 hours of full uninterrupted sleep and me next to him disturbs this.

I feel a bit weird about this. I mean, it's not normal to have a boyfriend and never sleep the whole night together is it? I haven't really said anything although he probably knows I think it's a little unusual. And anyway, what is the point? He would more than likely 'let' me stay but it wouldn't have been his choice would it?

There are other issues too but that, for now, is the one currently bugging me.

Ditch him OP he smells of a control freak.

He isn't in the slightest bit controlling of me. Only himself and his routines.

At the start of a relationship this is fine but after 4/5 months I agree this is a bit weird - would this ever change, and if not how would you feel about it?

Also looking to the future if things got serious who gets 8 hours interupted sleep with children around?

Ditch

May I enquire as to what are the other currently non bugging issues?

Erm. Odd.

So he is not prepared to compromise on his weekend activity AT ALL?

He is not prepared to give your relationship a go so that gets used to you?

What future is there if he doesn't do this?

So do you actually GO OUT together or is this just what you do, film, food, F**k?

Did he actually say the words 'i need 8 hours of full uninterrupted sleep and you next to me disturbs this.'

If so, he is setting you up to be the scapegoat in the relationship. You seem to be being treated as a bit of a booty call.

He should be LUCKY to invite you over to spend the night. He should be thinking perhaps every other week I can skip / start later, and spend some quality time with BoredRoom (FAB name BTW, wish I was so clever!)

You are going to have to tell me about these other issues now tbh, my twat-dar is twitching.

How old is this prize?

It just feels 'odd.' We go to bed and a while later I get up, get dressed and drive home. Despite no need to from a child point of view. He just goes to the bathroom and then goes to sleep.

Get rid.

But what are the other issues, I'm nosy

Ooooh, big red flags there OP! Sure he's not secretly married with a couple of kids/leading a double life?

Even if that's not the case, his behaviour is v v weird & selfish.

Get out whilst you still can.

Honey, if it feels ODD, that is your instincts tripping! Never ignore them.

C'mon now woman... SPILL the other stuff

Yes, what are the other things OP I'm nosey too

You will have to fit into what HE wants to do with no room for compromise.

That made me laugh Hissy.

Yes, he actually said those words, or ones to that effect. There is no other woman/other fetish type activity going on. He has also said that one of the reasons he likes me is because I 'don't give him any grief ' and this bothered me a little too for some reason.

Other issues? I feel periphery to his life I suppose. He does his hobby every weekend, he goes to the gym 4 times a week and he works hard. I am not a booty call really - his libido is low [ by my standards anyway ] and he would very happily go without sex.

He also is highly critical and judgemental. Mainly of overweight people. Drives me mad as he he so derisory if he sees someone fat eating a cake for example. Or just someone on TV ' Gosh, she is a big girl isn't she? ' and this makes me feel weird as I am slightly overweight myself- about a stone. He often asks me how my exercise regime is going - probably because he has noticed that I have put 7lbs on in the past month or so. But he says he ' doesn't want to upset me '

You know what we are all going to say don't you Bored?

What is the "consuming weekend hobby"? His wife?

Oh. My. GOD.

Run like the FFING wind!

I genuinely can't begin to think where to start...

So he's single, no kids? What a Shocker!

I see a washing line full of red flags flapping happily in the summer sun.

Get rid.

He's never going to see you as any more than a booty call and imagine if you dared not to conform to his perfect ideal.

He's a tosser.

How convenient for him

He isn't at all committed to this relationship, I would get out now if I were you.

Comments about overweight people is a subtle control method.

DITCH!! ...You know this

You have no space in his life BoredRoom.

You have a SLOT.

JEEEEEEZE.....

It doesn't sound like he's very intimate either. When you've been in a relationship for a few months it's all about the waking up together, cuddling/spooning through the night etc., not just the quickie sex and then off you go!

sally - nope. Golf. A lot of it.

He is only controlling of himself I'd say. But I always feel so fucking fat around him! Probably because he has a six pack and goes on ad nauseum about the importance of oily fish twice a week. I eat cake in secret.

Ugh, get rid asap. It all sounds so sanitized and convenient for him...you show up and go when he likes, he gets no "grief". Just ugh. And he doesn't sound very nice at all.

:o at 'the importance of oily fish'

Tell him to put his six pack back into the carrier bag and send him on his merry way