Please help me. My partner just shoved me against a wall by the throat and asked if I wanted to seee what murder looked like.

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He stormed out after a while.

I'm really shaken and I don't know what to do.

He was made redudant and is really stressed. I'm working as many hours as I can to make everything okay but he won't apply for jobs. I was looking online for him but and trying to get him interested and he just flipped.

I'm too ashamed to call up a friend and my parent's phone is engaged.

Please talk to me.

:'o(

You need to lock / bolt the door and call the police. What this man has done is very serious.

OP if you are really concerned that he could be having a breakdown the police will help. Tell them what has happened and they will protect you and your DC and try to find your partner.

In your position I would want to get away from the house in case he does come back - it doesn't mean you're walking away from everything you own - it just means you're safe. Who lives where, etc, can be sorted out further down the line.

sod danger to himself. you have to think of the danger to you and your child. CALL THE POLICE. if you are west midlands, the police aer very good with domestic violence. call womens aid too.

Olympia the Police can arrest him and remove him from anywhere since he's just assaulted someone.

But I still think the OP would be better off getting away from the place she lives with him for now.

please do get out now, for your own safety and your dc's.

You must ring the police. Especially if you think he is possibly a danger to himself or others. Especially you or your child.

Do not try to justify his actions at all at the moment. You have described an assault on you and a verbal threat of intent to commit murder. The police are by far the best people to deal with your immediate safety and with any immediate issues he may be suffering from.

Call the school, warn them not to let him (or anyone but you) pick your child up. They need to watch him in the at playtime in case your partner turns up at the gate.

Call the police, I would use the emergency number.

Call a locksmith and get one round as an emergency.

Don't let him come back. It's not fair on your dc to grow up without a mum, another few seconds and it could've come to that this time. Don't give him a second opportunity. xx

Phone the police. He is a danger to you, your DC, himself and anyone who gets in his way right now.

Then phone the school, tell them to keep your DC inside and not allow them to be collected until you (only you) get there. Don't give details but explain verybserious and police involved.

Pack a suitcase, changes of clothes, favourite toy, phone, wallet, keys, chargers, birth certificates, passports, Internet banking stuff, laptop, credit cards etc...

Get to school, get your DC get to a family members house.

Don't waste time thinking about being embarrassed, you have done nothing wrong.

OP even if he is having a break down, you don't have to stick around to be assaulted. Call the police. Tell them what has happened. And then call a friend and tell them what has happened. THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT you do NOT have to be ashamed.
Call Womens Aid, number is posted above.
Pack your passports, money, credit cards or bank details, clothes and some pictures of your dc. Collect your ds from school and do not go back so your h can kill you.

badtaste course he can be arrested, but if he own/rents the house he has the right to return upon release. Sadly, all police can do us call ahead to warn op.

Op. Where do you think he would go?

I'm going to get my little boy.

Not sure what next.

He may be having a breakdown, you're right.

OP you must be overwhelmed right now. Are you still here?

Ring the police and get the locks changed.

Ring the school and make sure only you can pick your child up.

OP you have an hour (ish) now before your DC comes out of school and could walk into the middle of something extremely dangerous. You can make a decision, now, not to be a victim and not to allow your son to grow up witnessing domestic violence. All it takes is a phone call to the Police. If you can't face that yet, please at least collect your son now and go to your parents or to someone else who will help.

Wherebouts (roughly) are you?

Fgs... Don't change the locks,that would bring you more trouble

X posts sorry. You're doing the right thing. Tell someone about this please.

you must call the police, please do that, for all of your sakes.

Is this out of character?

Phone Women's Aid and the police. They should be able to advise.

He might be a danger to himself, but right now your priority is to your child. Let the police to look after the man who assaulted you.

OP if you are really at a loss of what to do next - when you go to the school could you talk to the Secretary or Head there and tell them what's happened?

Or could you try your parents again once you have your son and tell them somethings happened and you need to come to them?

Y phone the police. If they stop him he can't hurt you/son or himself.

Love you wands, we've been on so many of the same threads, will be thinking of you, please keep posting when you're not too busy doing all the sensible things you need to do to keep you and ds safe.

Women's aid refuge?
Local authority hostel?

Go to the school and call the police from there. That way you are safe and with people for the time being. Best of luck.