Please help me. My partner just shoved me against a wall by the throat and asked if I wanted to seee what murder looked like.

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He stormed out after a while.

I'm really shaken and I don't know what to do.

He was made redudant and is really stressed. I'm working as many hours as I can to make everything okay but he won't apply for jobs. I was looking online for him but and trying to get him interested and he just flipped.

I'm too ashamed to call up a friend and my parent's phone is engaged.

Please talk to me.

:'o(

this scenario was domestic violence

is someone trying to deny it ?

Anairofhope. Did you get back together?

Unless he sees someone about his stress this will happen again.
The cause of his stress has not gone away Has it ?
So if you believe it s due to his stress then you and ds are at risk right now and he should stay away and seek help.
Be careful.

Yes but there was alot of poffesdional help involved.

It happened because i was mentaly ill with pnd it was not ok it was not my normal reaction and my dh know before that something was wrong he just didnt know how to get me the help i needed.

By the way hcp class holding a partner by the neck agenst the wall as dv.

'By all shouting dv ' - ok please tell me then how a man holding his partner around the throat and shoving them against the wall NOT domestic violence?

I never said it wasn't, but i don't think hundreds of posts all saying "its dv!" is particularly helpful. At some point those posts should stop and some actual helpful and practical advice should start. Otherwise the op is just going to feel bombarded and scared off.

This shouldn't be about telling her what to do but about supporting her and helping her come to decision that she is ready for.

I also believe that other opinions should be respected otherwise you end up with a thread where several posters are picking apart the posts of anyone they disagree with resulting in a complete digression from the point.

Airofhope. Im glad you are all better now

Ok pratical advice:

Dont brush it under the carpet like it didnt happen or its a one off.

Do not live together untill the agressor has been seen by gp or mhn.

Do go to relate to get back the trust but only once the depression has been treated.

If dh is not depressed or mentaly ill - LEAVE.

AirofHope - fantastic advice.