Please help me. My partner just shoved me against a wall by the throat and asked if I wanted to seee what murder looked like.

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He stormed out after a while.

I'm really shaken and I don't know what to do.

He was made redudant and is really stressed. I'm working as many hours as I can to make everything okay but he won't apply for jobs. I was looking online for him but and trying to get him interested and he just flipped.

I'm too ashamed to call up a friend and my parent's phone is engaged.

Please talk to me.

:'o(

Have you got any money at all that you have access to? Maybe book a hotel to get away until yr parents get there. Your parents would hate to know you are going through this without asking for help.

Please OP you really need to call the police and report this. Getting someone by the throat can kill them. Report it please please report it.

The shame belongs to your partner, not you.

Phone the school, arrange to pick DC up, and get out. Go to the police. Seriously.

Don't feel ashamed, this is not your fault.

You can leave - what you can't do is stay. For you and your child, walk out of the door and get a safe distance away - then ring the Police. Then go to the school, pick up your DC and go to your parents.

Or if you don't feel ready to call the Police, go to the school, make an excuse why you need to collect your DC early, then go to your parents. Then decide what you want to do.

Call the police, he is the one who should leave, he must not be allowed back into the house.

Not just that, if this is completely out of character for him, he could be having a break-down and be a danger to himself, the police need to be informed.

If you can drive then go and get your dc from school and drive to a friends or your parents, if its to far then stay in a hotel but you need to leave, what5 if next time your child is on the end of his temper? I'm sure your friend/s will be understanding.

Don't be ashamed. If it was one of your mates writing this, you'd tell them to call you, yes? It's what friends are for.

Go and get your son out of school, tell school you have an appointment that means you can't get there for pick up time.

Please don't let this go as a one off, he's stressed etc.

He has hurt you because he lost his temper. Do the right thing by your son and don't let him witness this.

Ring police, or if you're not up to it, go to school talk to them, ask them to call police. You + your dc need protection.

Hopefully you have locked the doors and called the police using the emergency number. 999 or 112.

If you are in spain use the emergency number for domestic violence 016. Number will never appear on a phone bill.

If you are injured in anyway make no attempt to clean yourself up or alter your appearance until the police say so.

Where in the country are you???

Women's Aid

If you or a friend need help
Contact the freephone 24 hour National Domestic Violence Helpline
run in partnership between Women's Aid and Refuge

CALL: 0808 2000 247

He's just text and told me he's not coming back.

I'm really freaked out.

What if he really is having a break down and is a danger to himself?

you can leave.

do you know how to hide your history?

read the womens aid website... links at the top of the relationship thead. ring school and ask them to hold onto dc while you get a bag packed, then go staight to a refuge. do not mess. next time he may not let go soon enough. do you want your child brought up by this man.

Does she really have to leave the house? isn't the advice to usually make the man leave?

I would definately picking up your DS from school, other than that, i suppose the advice is to leave.

Please call the police

You could also call women's aid.... you feel ashamed because you think it's your fault, it's not.

Log this with the police.

Loads of good advice already, please take it, and don't be ashamed of what he's done, it's not your fault that he behaved abominably.
In N Wilts if you need me.

Stop thinking about him for a minute. Think about yourself and your son. Ring the police and tell them what he's done and they can look out for him if you feel he's going to do something to himself.

Well worry about the danger to you & dc first. It is v scary but suggest you call police if he is in danger of harming himself.

It really does sound to me like he is having a breakdown - that doesn't make him any less of a danger to you, its worse - he could well be a danger to himself PLEASE CALL THE POLICE. They can keep you safe and if need be have him sectioned.

The police don't have the power to make him leave. You would need legal advice fir this, an occupation order. They don't happen overnight. If the DH is entitled to be there, then police will be powerless

Sweetheart, you have nothing to be ashamed of. What he did was assault and only he is responsible for what happened.

Right now, though, you need to get out and get safe. If you don't want to call a friend then please call Women's Aid: 0808 2000 247 . There website is: www.womensaid.org.uk/

Call your friends for help. That is what friends are for. They love you and will support you in this.