When life throws you potatoes, make chips! Be disappointed but never defeated! Dating thread No:13

[ChaoticAngel]

"you say potato, I say potatNO"

Down with potatoes

As you were....

I am smugly still in bed, but my little one had me up most the night and now I have to get up. No dating news yet.

sponge and notsure really sorry you're feeling so low. :( The best advice I can give (and i know you didn't asl...) is to view life as a roller coaster. it does have ups and downs, but when you're at the bottom of a curve, there will be an up, it just means that your train thingy is a bit stuck. Look after yourselves.

Miranda glad it was a good one!

ahw at all the happy loved up folks. :)

huge long metaphorical knife in the testicles of the fucking fucks.

It's perfectly possible that I have inadvertently shagged quite a few married men, the fling just didnt last long enough for me to find out
que sera and all that..
just gotta grit yer teeth and put shit behind you:o
there will be sunny skies again:)

Ha, ha Watch about the boat. I have sailed a few times and used to waterski, which is now virtually impossible to do locally. That's about the extent of my experience. I'm more of a fairweather sailor but it's been a while since I was in with the boat set.

When did this thread start? A couple of people are in serious relationships and some have found regular ones.

Afaik, my one and only mm left to be with me but we did stay together for a good few years.

Probably best to check them out as thoroughly as possible before anything happens, unless you are not going to be bothered afterwards.

Thinking about it it is possible that I have been duped once or twice in the dim and distance past but I never found out either way.

Must do something more constructive on this day off and not talk to myself on the internet.

check them out for marital status??
I guess if you're after somat serious..but really for casual fun?
Phew it's enough bloody work finding someone i fancy and feel comfortable/safe with..i cant be arsed doing double duty as a bleedin' detective :o

tollys - im not sure, there have maybe been two. essentially online dating is an utterly rubbish way of finding a relationship, but i dont think that any other avenues are all that good once you are past your 20's either. Its just difficult to meet people and people have very busy lifes... so, yeah. it is what it is i supose... and it can be fun. or awful.

Sponge :( look my lovely, you will be fine. I know you have a weekend to yourself, and if i didnt have my dd i would have invited you over... can you either grab a friend to sit in, in pjs, eat waffles and ice cream and drink wine? Or go do something just for you, sod work, sod shit bag men.

I think probably at some point all of us might have shagged someone married, or at least in a relationship, but that with normal ' meet someone in a pub' type things too, it happens, men are rubbish... dont beat yourself up.

adams, i found the boat man funny. I can sail and am quite experienced, though of course he might have a rowing boat.. which is ok, because i can also row.. Ive spent many summers also going up and down the broads on cruisers, mooring up and popping into pubs for balmy evenings.. i like boats :) hes 41 though, and it looks like an old pic, so im not going to agree to a date, even though hes asked.
After declaring yesterday there was noone on pof or okcupid, ive now found two possibilities, that im chatting to, and we shall see :)

oh sorry - three, ones been back in contact from a while ago, he works local to where i work, so might do a coffee or somethign one lunch break.

and ive decided about the one pestering me for sex, as much as my body tells me to go for it, im just not feeling it, so hes blocked and deleted... :)

Talking to yourself can be when you get the most sensible replies to your questions

Miranda glad it went well.

sponge and not sure, hope you are feeling better this morning.

See Watch, what a difference a day makes in the world of internet dating. Sponge take heart.

Loves, I don't think you can ever be sure when you first meet someone. Ask for a home number and ring them, facebook, go to their house. Not practical if you are just wanting a hook up but in that case you shouldn't be bothered about their status .

Hey everyone

watch, I love your post about boats and sailing. It sounds idyllic Am also loving that you blocked the sex pest

Sponge I agree with watch. If it were me I would call at the supermarket for pear cider, pizza, crisps and chocolate and spend the whole weekend locked in my house, in bed with the electric blanket on, watching crap tv and stuffing my face. Perfect weekend!

Miranda pleased to hear your date went well, it's all sounding good.

Definitely an increase in messages with new profile. Chatting to a guy last night but he's a bit too keen, bit OTT. Obviously gagging for it Am looking forward to seeing what the weekend brings.

So, it's ok to shag a married man if you are just wanting sex and not a relationship? Is that what you mean? Is it really ok?

adams i guess facebook would be one of the best ways...except i dont use it:o

i'd not knowlngly shag a married man..but i dont think it's my responsibility to research him first!

it was, i was very lucky, more so as they werent plastic boats, but lovely old wooden ones.. beautiful. You never realise at the time how lucky you are really, same with the riding school and farm.

And that sounds like a fab weekend, im planning on doing something similar with DD, some kind of baking, cooking, homely weekend with tents made of blankets and lego houses :) Its been a while since we have done that, so we are both looking forward to it.

Sound slike the new profile is working wonders, does the ott one have potential?

i dont tihnk its ok to shag a married man if i was just wanting sex, in fact i think thats deplorable behaviour. I would not knowingly get involved with someone in a serious relationship either.

Morning all,

sponge Sorry to hear you are feeling so shite today. I totally understand why, but just keep trying to remind yourself that he is a fuckwit. Not that that helps much of course, so if you want to spend a few days sulking then go for it-you are allowed to feel like crap sometimes.

Well, after a week on Lovestruck I can confidently confirm that is is rubbish. Not a single message from anyone that I am interested in. Also quite a few from guys clearly looking for nowt but a shag. Also, when I've searched for people I've hardly found any I think are vaguely attractive. So there's £37 down the drain-grrrrr.

Well I met a GORGEOUS man a few days ago. I've being filming a Japanese Beer commercial and he was one of the other extras Supporting Artists. Only trouble was he clearly didn't fancy me . Why does that ALWAYS happen? I was hanging around with him and 2 other guys, and they other 2 clearly liked me (not being big headed BTW, I'm no super model but you can just tell these things) Life is so unfair. I got his phone number, and I've been staring at it constantly a little bit feeling simply OUTRAGED that he didn't find me attractive.

I may have to write a letter to God or something complaining about the hand of fate he has dealt me at present. I'm pretty sure I'm entitled to some sort of refund.

milk - its some kind of unwritten rule, the ones you like will never like you. the dross will chase after you like some kind of puppy.

and not just you, i meant you generically, all of us. me included. i got asked for a second date by a ginger mullet....!!!!!

Riding school and farm!! Gosh, you lucky, lucky girl!

I'm taking DD to the hairdressers tomorrow! Treating her to a Little Miss experience, wash, cut and blow dry, she is very excited, as am I . Then I'm cooking a full roast dinner on Sunday. I love my weekends with DD!

No real potential in the OTT one, no. I only replied because I was bored and he is full of the 'you are beautiful' and 'can't believe I'm chatting to someone so beautiful' and 'Goodnight my beautiful lady, email me when you are next online and we can get to know each other better'. Far far far too much!!

I agree re the married man watch it's not something I would ever contemplate or could ever do, but I thought I had better check to see if I was being a prude

Milk he is probably gay. That's the only plausible reason why he didn't fancy you

watch The thing is one of the other guys wasn't dross. He was utterly awesome personality wise. I just didn't find him attractive enough physically.

Trouble is I fancy Mr Open Relationship soooo much, that it will take someone who makes me weak at the knees to drag me away distract me from him. I know this, so there seems no point trying to date people I don't totally lust after. Somebody will just end up really hurt, and I don't like upsetting people.

Oh and nowt wrong with gingers! I love a ginger me A mullet may be pushing it somewhat though. Unless you actually are in a Def Leppard tribute band. I get what you are saying though. One of the other women yesterday was also saying how it's always the guys she doesn't like who fancy her. Why is that? Mother nature is not doing her job properly if you ask me.

Time He wasn't gay. He was even (half jokingly I think) saying he's been trying to chat up women who don't speak English as a first language recently. He though he might have more chance with them if they didn't really know what he was saying.

I was just sitting there thinking "What? Please go out with me instead then you blind fecking fool. I'm practically getting naked for you here"

milk how did you get his phone number? if he gave it to you, then he is interested. phone him! phone him!

re: married men. ex was married when we met, so was I. We were very young (like thats an excuse) there were no children from our previous relationships, so it was kind of fair game. monkey and branch theory. That said, I wouldn't do it now. I wouldn't shag someone in a LTR/marriage, especially where there are childrren involved. I'm not interested in putting my requirements above those of a potential shag partners family. the excuses and lies that facilitate that kind of relationship don't interest me.

When I was young I had no idea of the hurt that someone fucking my partner (and my partner cheating on me) would cause. Now that I've experienced the shoe on the other foot, when the OW shagged my then-DP (not putting the onus of blame solely on her, he was equally complicit...) I would never get involved with someone in a relationship, especially when they have children.