The Dating Thread - Part 12. How NOT to lose the will to live. Sense of humour essential!

[TimeForMeAndDD]

Good morning everyone! Had to start a new thread as the old one is no longer receiving posts.

Fill yer boots!

polite and gorgeous!
oooh lots of gold stars:)

hmmm. yes, he seems all of those things. and yet i literally know fuck all about him. Nothing. AT. ALL

im very fucking excited.
Its exciting.

i havent been excited about a date in ages....

ooohhh, exciting.

Enjoy the moment watch. There's plenty of time for disappointment if you find yourself sat across from Shreks uglier brother.

Fb stalking is absolutely allowed. Yes, it is exciting to just go for it and go on a date without the annoying weeks of preamble. You should totally go. :)

toptramp. It just sounds... Wrong. It sounds like he has expectations, whereas you have standards. Frankly,, he would fuck anything, you want to see if there is a spark. the fact that he is travelling a long way has a degree of expectation, he's made an effort, so knickers off. No ta.

Unfortunately my ex flat mate has cancelled for tomorrow night ( anniversary of dads death, wants to mope be alone thats fine. ) Sadly, that leaves me, 3DCs, a bottle of rum beer and Pm.

Early bedtime kiddiewinks! :)

so long as you have a quick exit plan in the event of him not being up to scratch the worst that can happen is you waste half an hour of saturday:)

sounds like a great night ahead Snape. Enjoy!

But take loves advice and have a quick exit plan, just in case he leaps on you or something like that!

Clearly that is meant for watch. Any leaping at my non romantic night in with PM would be met with equidistant leaping!

One day he might just surprise you!

watch at breaking a sink, was it yours or the guys sink??

no luck - seems like you are doing very well with this dating business

sponge - glad he text and I hope it goes well

toptramp - i dont like the sound of this guy, i wouldnt like to feel pressured into having sex with someone i dont know.

milk - sending (((hugs))) sorry to hear you are feeling so upset, after reading what everyone said about your fwb I started to think about my own fwb and feel like i'm getting taken for a fool. its a horrible situation for you

my fwb is a friend but i want a relationship, not particually with him but with someone. i am i really considering the problem of me being attracted to drama.

i had mr workoholic that was a drama turned out to want to slot back into the boring relationship we were in. and my fwb thats going no where when i actually want a relationship.

so after last nights meeting mr workoholic called me tonight and i didnt answer as i know i will need to tell him its not going to work, so i called him back and no answer. wow atleast i know how i feel even if he doesn't.

anyway just wanted to check if i want a relationship which i do, would you only conact people on pof that want a relationship? or would you go for wants to date and hang out as well? as i messaged a guy today that said he wants long term and a relationship, but when we were messaging he told me he just wants sex, so i said i do not want that but good luck (he was very polite about it)

also i have been texting a new guy (mr cheeky) he seems funny, seems sweet, but looks young, seems like it could be lighthearted and nice, he said he wants to meet up and also wants me to call him tonight and he called me bubs?? thats like something I would call me dd.

i cancelled my date for tonight with mr location/wear a dress but he was very sweet about it.

notsure I would go for the 'wants to date' and 'hang out' as well, because you never know, you might just click with someone who only wanted to hang out and that will be it! Wedded! If you seriously want a relationship then you need to use every opportunity available to you and by including the dating/hang out you are doing that.

Ok great, I'm glad you says that as I have already messaged a guy that wants to data but nothing serious for Hang out as he is sexy

But I wonder if I meet up with these people will they be expecting me to sleep with them right away?

I do want to sleep with someone but don't Want to feel like there is pressure to do it right away!!

Sorry my spelling is terrible as im on my phone

notsure what they expect and what they get are two completely separate things. If they give any hint that they want sex and you feel uncomfortable either tell them or end the date. Do not, under any circumstances, feel pressured into doing something you do not want to do. You set the pace. If your date gets shirty because you aren't giving him the goods then he isn't the man for you, so it's no loss. In other words, you have nothing to lose by saying no to sex, a decent man will go at your pace and wait until you are ready, if he's a shit bag, you've had a lucky escape

Bloody hell you lot can gab. I've just finished reading the last thread and over 100 posts on here already.

A couple of things before I go back and read.

adams I realise I'm too late now but if you, or anyone else for that matter, receive a photo of a naked man all you have to say is...

"OMG!!! It's a eunuch!!!

hiding I'm in the northwest too but I'm also heightist and about 3 inches taller than you are.

Time I couldn't MrsKL, I just couldn't, it stuck in my throat

Finally caught up.

zany so pleased for you. You give the rest of us hope.

I'm off to bed to recover my strength for the epic read I'll probably have tomorrow read my book. Night all.

Good luck with any dates for tomorrow just in case I don't get on in the morning.

Thank you :) Am feeling a little nervous for tomorrow but hopefully will be enjoyable

Goodnight Chaotic

Miranda hope your date goes well

Good luck to everyone who has dates this weekend. Nothing to report from me. I emailed a bloke from pof 2 pictured of me and he complained they were 2 different people. They were actually taken on the same day. FGS.
I don't think I'm emotionally available, mainly due to my cynicism and that cynicism has been enhanced by the flakey men I appear to meet, if I get past the picture/email part of the process and in most cases I don't get past the first hurdle.
I met an old fwb last week for dinner and he seems to have developed a tick like a hiccup crossed with a cough. I didnt mention it but it was distracting.
I liked him when we were 'at it' but he is quite self absorbed and a workaholic.
I felt a bit deflated.

Oh be jaysus - been logging on for 3 dating websites tonight. I couldnt pull a muscle. Had enough and will retire from sites for a couple of weeks. Good luck with everyone who have dates. Not jealous at all

sunshine 'I liked him when we were 'at it' but he is quite self absorbed and a workaholic.'
so you like the sex and the rest of the time he stays out of your hair..whats not to like?
I'd be very happy with that sort of arrangement

Loves. Yes it was good. But then we both got v bad flu and it all dwindled a lot. And although the sex was v good I didn't miss it when I was so tired after being I'll. It seems like a life time ago now. I think the momentum has gone somewhat. Plus I'd like a relationship that is supportive. Casual was ok for me but I've learned that I want more of a supportive relationship than a physical one. Or both.

I understand the need for support...in theory
but in practise
well ya know, more trouble than it's worth, takes more than it gives..blah blah