The Dating Thread - Part 12. How NOT to lose the will to live. Sense of humour essential!

[TimeForMeAndDD]

Good morning everyone! Had to start a new thread as the old one is no longer receiving posts.

Fill yer boots!

Yep and we need a new title. Mmmmm we should get thinking.

Time.

It's overrated. I'd rather have the second date.

Or indeed any date at all.

When I went onto POF earlier (havent checked my inbox since the weekend) I thought I might have a message or two, albeit from potatoes.

I didn't have any. Not one. No-one wants to message me and even the attached ones don't want to see me again.

I'm not sure whether to laugh or cry at how hopeless it is.

Who knows bucketbetty, who knows. Who knows what goes on in the head of a man.

TimeFor... tis true - it could all be in vain. I don't think I'm cut out for this dating shenanigans.

I placed my IE profile on my regular profile today and I've had quite a few messages. No eligibles, every single one of them a fugly, but I'm sticking it out til after the weekend. See what a rainy Saturday and Sunday brings.

I'm pleased you are ok Sponge, you hang in there, it will all come good in the end

Yeah you are betty, you just have to develop a tough skin and not let the fuckwits get to you. And don't count your chickens until you are on at least the 4th date. Hang in there!

Time I'd like to believe that but at times like this it seems ever so unlikely and far away.

I find it works best if I view the dating shenanigans as a bit of lighthearted internet entertainment for when I'm at a lose end..mostly potatoes with the occasional unexpected cherry.

Anything can happen Sponge, you could get hit by a car tomorrow, the driver could be the most lush bloke you have ever been run over by. You could look into each others eyes as he picks you up and instantly fall in love. That's all it takes

That's what I love about life, the unknown, and the anticipation of what might happen. It makes each day exciting.

Dating thread #13 (anyone superstitious btw?) Potato Heads pls fuck the fuck off.

Okay not much good at thread titles, sure someone can come up with something.

I don't even want to fall in love though, I did until I had, but now honestly I'd be happy just to get to a 2nd or even a 3rd date, 3 years of trying/not trying, worrying about it/not worrying and nothing has changed.

"Potatoes make great chips but as boyfriends they there is no apPEEL"

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh but that's the thing, we just never know what's going to happen. I don't ever want to get married but.....

Apologies for the random 'they' in previous post.

Potatoes make great chips but as boyfriends there is no apPEEL

Like it

I was in my original title attempt going to say Potato Heads need not apply then remembered that the need not apply had been included in another thread title but I like yours.

Potato is a hard one to work with!

Think I would be better of with a potatoe

that's a great title.

I know I'm sounding pathetic btw. I've had the worst day at work, am still removing the knives from my back now, trapped in a job I hate with a team of bitches because of my huge mortgage. I thought well at least I had the weekend to take my mind off it . Before he was revealed to be a cheating scumbag of course. And now it's too late to plan anything else, there's a Ladies Day (unlimited pimms, buffet etc) on at one of the local rugby clubs which I thought might be fun, and of getting some friends together to go to as an early birthday celebration, and I didn't get round to it. And earlier this week I thought well, doesnt matter am seeing the Scot on Sat. Which of course I'm not now and it's too late to do anything this weekend other than feel sorry for myself :(

Sponge - I am SO angry on your behalf. If that link to the Scot had worked, I'd be tempted to send him a message telling him just what I think of him. Please don't give up on ever getting a second date, though - not all men are like him (although I have to say a fair proportion of those on dating sites seem to be) and, like Time says, you never know what's going to happen. But it does get really demoralising, I know.

sponge you aren't sounding pathetic. You've had a crap day. It's not too late to make some phone calls and get a few friends together for the Ladies Day, do it, it sounds great! Be disappointed but don't be defeated!!!

That's another idea for a thread title " We may often be disappointed but we are never defeated"

Get on that phone right now Sponge!!

Lubey - your date sounds amazing. I'm so pleased for you and so jealous - I've never had a date like that in my life!

Update on me: I've decided it's not going to work with Mr Coffee. He phoned to suggest going out near where I live on Friday - and I immediately knew that I didn't want to. It's funny, it took me a few weeks to decide if there could be any spark between us - but now I've definitely decided there isn't. I feel bad as he seems really nice, but there's just no physical attraction there at all.

"We may often be disappointed but we are never defeated"

That made me think of When the chips are down the potatoes (sp) are out.

Sorry, I'll leave now...

Milk, what's your type? I have a type too. I go on dates with men who aren't my type, but again and again I find the same thing - we get on well, but there's no attraction there.

Also, re the purse thing, at the risk of sounding old-fashioned, I agree with you. I always split things 50:50 when I go on dates, as it seems to me unfair that the man should have to pay. But, having said that, I've realised that I expect the man to buy the first round. Though maybe that's because in my 20s I had a very tight boyfriend - not an attractive trait at all, and I don't want to meet someone similar to him.

Libby you're doing the right thing. If there's no attraction then you'd be wasting both his and your time if you continued seeing him.