The Dating Thread - Part 12. How NOT to lose the will to live. Sense of humour essential!

[TimeForMeAndDD]

Good morning everyone! Had to start a new thread as the old one is no longer receiving posts.

Fill yer boots!

That's brilliant Chaotic

Or how about "When life throws you potatoes, make chips! Be disappointed but never defeated! Dating thread No:13"

Warning: may sound a bit soppy/emotional...

I don't usually post very often (though always catch up on this thread) but just wanted to say thanks to everyone for making me feel less alone. I don't know any other single mums doing internet dating (in fact I don't know anyone doing internet dating full stop) and it's so nice to be able to share it all with you and hear your experiences/words of wisdom. Thanks...

Chaotic - yes, you're right. I feel guilty that I might have misled him, but I genuinely wasn't sure if there could be a spark or not, and I wanted to give it a good chance.

We might be single mums libby but we're not doing much internet dating either

But it is lovely to share everything, I feel I've made some really nice friends on this thread.

Sorry Libby I didn't mean it to sound like you already had misled him, I don't think you have. I think that you've given it a fair go and are withdrawing at the right time.

Ooh, I like that one, Time

Who's starting the new thread?

Don't feel guilty libby, you don't owe him anything, it wasn't a relationship, it was a test run, and test runs are for deciding exactly whether you want to take the plunge. You didn't, simples! Best to keep emotions out of it, save those for when you meet someone worthy of them.

Whoever gets there first I presume Chaotic.

A potato related title would be fab :)

' you say potato, I say potatNO' ????

Sponge, make some calls for the ladies day, its not to late. And Text him to tell.him.what an utter shit he is. An utter, utter shit.

Libby, right choice :)

I'm not exactly dating atm either. I'm keeping an eye on the site I'm on but am not being proactive. I've decided to sort myself out wrt my weight first.

I have had some potentially good news though. I got a phone call earlier from someone I sent my c.v. to. She wanted to know a little more about me and has said she will get back to me early next week. The job they were advertising is part time but she did mention seeing if there was a possibility of upping the hours a bit so we shall see.

Ah, right, I just presumed you all decided who would start it to avoid two people starting a thread at the same time.

That's great news Chaotic. Are you job hunting too? Me too. I think I will feel better about myself and meeting someone when I am working, daft I know, but I will feel more of an equal.

Yes, I am. I have been since I graduated last year, well May when I finished. That's another thing that's putting me off being proactive, the lack of employment. I don't have a lot of spare money and I don't like not being able to pay my way financially iyswim.

Chaotic don't worry, I didn't take it that way at all!

Watch I'm so sorry, I meant to add that I was gutted to hear that your date on Tuesday didn't go well - I was so excited for you. Love 'Potato, PotatNO' by the way!

Time thanks, I always feel guilty about everything. But will try not to - it's not going to help anyone.

Have started to realise that I keep making the same mistake and going on internet dates with men I'm not really attracted to. Now I have to work out why...

Popping by briefly,

lubey you are a semi-clad in a hotel hallway GODDESS! I am absolutely delighted for you!

sponge. Inutterable cock. You knew, i'm sorry i even thought he was worth your time, so not. I'm sorry about work as well, sometimes these things seem to stack up. Please look after yourself. X!

everyone else. Waving as passing by. Sending you a cosmic order of immense proportions .

Yes, I know exactly what you mean Chaotic because its the reason I hold back a bit too.

libby guilt is a waste of time, the only person it has any effect on is yourself, and as it's a negative effect it's best not to feel guilty at all

Hi Snape

No joy on the ladies day front. resigned to it not happening. Still what's one more disappointment...

I have text him. I said that I'd seen his profile change and obviously he never was single. It was a shame he couldn't be honest from the outset but of course he must've known I wouldn't have had sex with him if he had been, and was he happy being a liar and a cheat, because I thought he was a pathetic shit.

And now I just feel like a deflated balloon :(

Libby, that's actually a positive, identifying the mistake you've made. At least now you can work out why and avoid making the same one again. Another step forward in finding MrRightforyou :)

Sponge I'm sorry you are feeling like a floppy piece of latex, but he's not worth it. He's not worth you being disappointed over. He's a toss pot. A scum bag. And he has done you a favour. Imagine if he had gone through with meeting you this weekend and you had found out afterwards what a scum bag he is.

sponge just keep telling yourself you've had a lucky escape. You deserve a lot better than wankbadger.

Wankbadger Love it! That's up there with Fuckmuppet!

Brilliant isn't Love Fuckmuppet too. Afraid I can't claim credit for it, it was used on a thread in AIBU by another mn'r.

Sponge, do NOT feel like a 'deflated shit'. You have taken charge of the situation, youve told him he is a cocktard, you are brave & strong for calling him on it. Now, really, is he worth any further thought?

Back to whitney-glee....

You're all right I know. It helps a bit.

I did have such a fab date with him, but it's all tarnished now, all the things I thought showed he was keen/interested just showed what a devious bastard he was. He gave me his pillows, cuddled me, held my hand while we were watching TV. And all along he was just a shitbag wankbadger

sponge don't feel shit over that cock. Honestly better off without idiots like that. That is one thing that puts me off dating. Nothing more from just friends, still don't know when he is coming over and starting to wonder if he even will. If he doesn't in the next couple of weeks I think I will get back online.