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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Staying Springy In Their Quest For Sobriety.

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Mouseface · 16/04/2012 12:32

Hello, I'm Mouse Smile I have an shockingly abusive relationship with alcohol, mainly vodka.

This Bus is full of drinkers, non-drinkers, thinkers and Babes, all trying to find their way to a happy, sober life.

Some are there, some are almost there and some are not. It really doesn't matter, we're all in this together.

Why not find a seat? Everyone is welcome, drinking or drunk, come and say hello. Smile

HERE is the previous thread, with a link to all of the other wonderful journeys so far............

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Sunlituplands · 27/04/2012 21:05

Sorry SarahT - for previous post

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Mouseface · 27/04/2012 21:06

I'm so sorry I've not caught up..... mad busy day and now it's DH and tv time Smile

Day 5 for me, no wine, not a drop and I can honestly say I don't miss it. I've lost 7lbs this week just by cutting my carbs down to no more than 20g per day.

I feel fab apart from the pain. Talking of which, my doc has increased my morphine again, so I'm now on 150mg 2x daily. He also thinks that the surgical team won't touch me because of the position of the herniated discs. Sad

Anyway, HERE is the new thread, same as always, can we fill this one so we don't lose anyone?

venus - you're in charge of that Wink xx

Night all xxxxxx

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Fairenuff · 27/04/2012 21:09

Sunlit we have a thing called The Drill.

When you have been drinking you need to do some basic stuff to keep yourself safe and as healthy as you can overnight.

So make your next drink your last one today.

When it's gone have a glass of water. Then go and get your pjs on. Have another glass of water. Then go and clean your teeth.

Then get yourself off to bed with another glass of water next to you in case you wake up thirsty. Or put the kettle on and come back to chat with us.

Do you think you could do that tonight? You have so much to share with us and we can help you if that's what you want x

AnitaChange · 27/04/2012 21:11

Just a quick note from me.
Well done everyone who is sober tonight. I have struggled a little today, but happy to report that I have made it through the day. I'm looking forward to day 6 and the Saturday morning boing.. Good Night to all X

Fairenuff · 27/04/2012 21:12

Well done Mouse and Anita both on day 5 Smile

Sunlituplands · 27/04/2012 21:12

Right - I may NC to my actual name - I've done this, so I don't want to hide - I think my drinking is all about hiding - I need to be honest with myself which means being honest with others.

I hate lies.

Sunlituplands · 27/04/2012 21:13

Right Faire - I'm with the drill.

Sunlituplands · 27/04/2012 21:14

I will pour another large one then get with it.

Fairenuff · 27/04/2012 21:16

Well done Sunlit Smile

aliasjoey · 27/04/2012 21:17

scoundrel I've been here a couple of weeks, and this is the first night things have got a bit riotous. We just got carried away laughing at ourselves. I'm sorry if we made you angry.

If it hadn't been for venuss wise words earlier this week, I would definitely have bought more than 2 mini bottles of wine tonight. I have found the thread very helpful and supportive.

AnitaChange · 27/04/2012 21:20

Thanks fairenuff. mouse I hope you are feeling better soon, well done for not drinking today. Easily done when you feel pain.

SarahRT · 27/04/2012 21:20

Sunlit oblivion is part of the whole disease. Reality is scary as well. Secrets and lies=the life of a boozer. You are very brave to get to this part, now just take the whole mess bit by bit.

xx

Hopefullyrecovering · 27/04/2012 21:21

Courage, sunlit, courage.

The worst thing about drinking is secrecy. We're here, and we know what it's like :)

Carrie370 · 27/04/2012 21:23

I love the idea of the drill! How about adding 400mg nurofen to the second glass of water? (only if you've also eaten, before anyone jumps on me!)

nicedaytomorrowplease · 27/04/2012 21:28

This thread came up in Active. I haven't read it all but I wanted to share the incredibly shit day I had sitting next to my dear friend in a Child Protection Conference this morning as she lost residency of her little girl.

Perhaps the worst thing was listening to all the reports (including the one from her ex) saying what a brilliant mother she is. When sober. Almost as bad is the fact that she has just completed a detox which is seems has come just too late.

I am well aware that it is not as simple as just stopping but I figured if this helps just one person have one fewer drink this evening then it will be a Good Thing.

I have name changed and have no idea if my friend uses MN but, if you do and are reading this, then I really hope you don't mind me posting. I love you, believe you can and will do this and it is a case of when not if she comes home.

Carrie370 · 27/04/2012 21:35

niceday that is heart-breaking. I would be so devastated if that happened to me. I hope your friend can find the will to stay strong.

Fairenuff · 27/04/2012 21:49

That is such a sad story niceday and unfortunately not that uncommon Sad. I hope your friend can make peace with herself, forgive herself and start to heal herself. She is lucky to have your support.

Sunlituplands · 27/04/2012 21:58

Niceday - thank you - I may have almost been there - not sure if I'm ready to share that particular gem yet.

Oh fuck it, I will - this has been my low point, shagging random men & making a fool of myself over the years has been easy compared to this.

As I said earlier - I don't drive (I am learning on my sober days) - I live rurally, DH works away, as such, I use a community transport scheme, they come to my house - pick me & the DCs up, take them to school then drop me back home.

There have been a couple of occasions where I have had to be woken up by the community transport volunteer - my DCs have let them in the house & they have found me insensible in bed.

There, I've said it.

One of the volunteers used to be a midwife - & it's only, ONLY because her husband quite fancies me (not on a seedy way but in a kind way) & the fact I live in a big house that I have not had SS involved in my life.

If you're middle class you can get away with all kinds of crap behaviour that would not be accepted if you didn't have the money to cover it up - & that makes it worse.

Fairenuff · 27/04/2012 22:09

Sunlit do you think you need to stop drinking completely? It sounds as if you are risking a lot to carry on.

Sunlituplands · 27/04/2012 22:14

Farie I think I probably do - it's not an 'I think I drink too much' situation - it's a full blown dipso wrought in horror.

Carrie370 · 27/04/2012 22:15

Sunlit, you are very courageous to share that (I've been sitting here for several minutes, trying to word a response that doesn't sound trite or patronising). I truly don't know what else to say that you don't already know is staring you in the face.

NonAstemia · 27/04/2012 22:16
Carrie370 · 27/04/2012 22:16

sunlit is your DH aware of all this?

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