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Time wasters need not apply, Soul Soothers come hither Dating Chat Part 11

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hatesponge · 10/04/2012 21:22

Ta-da! Think this is the first one I've started.

I am still feeling somewhat feisty. Told my team off at work for being too noisy Blush and was generally stroppy. Might have to go and start a row in AIBU or something!

So, dating, as you were etc Grin

Not forgetting of course that I have a second date at the weekend!

OP posts:
ChaoticAngel · 11/04/2012 21:09

I dare you Grin

notsurewhyohwhy · 11/04/2012 21:12

timefor - do you think you can really lik someone right away though? although saying that i liked both my exes as soon as i met them Hmm but im trying not to go for my normal type as it never really works out...

so how long does it normally take for guys to call or text??? as normally i would say every other guys calls within a couple of days...

adams - there are very few good looking guys on cupid in my area too Sad what is IE on POF im on pof but new to the site...

MissKeithLemon · 11/04/2012 21:16

aah, my crappy phone wouldn't let me post today, so I've just caught up on the what to wear chat! Did you all agree that skinnys, heels & nice top is ok then?? Thats what I always wear was going to wear for my two dates this weekend.

Now, advice please ladies if you will!

Saturday bloke I thought had said for an afternoon meet up, so I suggested a drink-walk-drink combo as we live either end of a nice-ish stretch of canal, with pubs about 3 miles apart.
But now we are meeting sat night as he has his dd until 5pm. He's text tonight and mentioned the walk. I can't walk along a canal at dusk/evening with a complete stranger can I?? I really don't want to, but don't know how to tell him that without sounding like a flakey mind changing weirdo Grin and without actually saying its because you could be an axe murderer for all I know because I'd rather meet somewher more public first time and all that!

How would you word it, given it was my suggestion to begin with Hmm

MissKeithLemon · 11/04/2012 21:25

chicken& & post* - I've messaged a few on pof this last week, maybe 6 or 7.
Couple haven't replied, couple replied in text language (double yuk seeing as I had already messaged them in proper grown up words and all) & one who seems to have altered his profile to read a bit like mine now... Hmm

One other seems nice, so I've put him on the back-burner til next weekend Grin

So I reckon there's maybe a 15% chance of a positive meeting from sending shortish message to the hottest ones I found most compatible within my criteria, I didn't think that was too bad!

TimeForMeAndDD · 11/04/2012 21:30

adams I dare you!! Grin Go on, do it!! You will be inundated!!

first1 · 11/04/2012 21:33

Keith - tell him you can't walk for ages in your super hot skyscrapers.

TimeForMeAndDD · 11/04/2012 21:35

notsure yes, I think you can like someone right away. I might like someone enough to have a snog but not quite enough to sleep with, not initially anyway. I can also like someone but not want to put my lips anywhere near there's! Grin
You do right to go for different to what you normally would. It's worth a try Smile

MyLittleMiracle · 11/04/2012 22:23

missK just say its a bit dark to walk, or maybe it will still be light. Use the old blistered feet as an excuse?

MyLittleMiracle · 11/04/2012 22:27

Oh blank profiles, do they work. Must admit since I updated my profile picture to me in a dress I seem to get much more interest, obviously nothing to do with my boobs being on show.

louderthanbombs · 11/04/2012 22:47

Well, I've only posted on here a couple of times, but have been following you all. I'm really not good at internet dating, had a couple of really mediocre dates and nothing of interest since February.

I decided today to take your advice and actually message someone I like the look of. Was getting fed up of the stream of unsuitables messaging me, but feeling to shy to do much else.

I'm glad i did, as we have been chatting tonight and he does seem nice. Don't know if it will go any further, but I feel a bit better about it all now. Thanks ladies Smile

MyLittleMiracle · 11/04/2012 23:13

I have messaged a few too many and had some good chats plus possible dates for next week and one tomorrow. I had an offer for tonight too, but saw him last week and no spark. But nice enough.

notsurewhyohwhy · 11/04/2012 23:46

louderthan - well done Smile its pointless talking to guys you dont like, message a few more Wink

notsurewhyohwhy · 12/04/2012 00:20

hey anyone tried the rich guys website that is linked to POF? I'm guessing they are all just looking for someone to sleep with?

watchoutforthatsnail · 12/04/2012 07:50

bugger, just did a long post, then lost it. ggrrr. a shorter version:

post - how was it?

adams - did you do it?

notsure - ive not, wouldnt touch it with a barge pole.

sponge - has he firmed up plans? fab shoes :)

missk - i dont see why you cant just tell him the truth, he shouldnt have an issue with it, and if he does, then hes an idiot who you wouldnt want to date anyway :)

age wise - 24 is the youngest ive slept with, wouldnt do it again. Couldnt date anyone under 30 ( im 33) as they are too immature. i would have said 36 as an upper limit, but thats because i forget im 33 and think im 27. yesterdays date was 41, thats pushing it...

so - yesterdays date, while i wasnt instantly drooling at him, there was something about him and i had a fab time. Very nice company, cool guy to hang out with, confident but not in your face with it... By the end of the date we had made up superheros, theme tunes, action moves and voiceovers...( having had no booze) so i knew i wanted to see him again :)
end of the date and he asked if i wanted to do it again, i said yes and he said that was great and as we both have each others numbers we could sort it out. I have heard from him already... he said it had been great and he hasnt stopped laughing and then some reference to the superhero thing. I havent replied as yet, having just learnt the power ( with help from sponge ) or the slightly delayed response to texts/ phone calls :)

and then i have that other date this evening.

MyLittleMiracle · 12/04/2012 08:14

Well busy me I need to clear the place up, buy new shoes and all by lunch time, and get sorted for tomorrow. Doesn't sound much, but you haven't seen the state of the place.

Glad your date went well watch

The youngest I have slept with is 18, he had a nice fit body and wanted to are me again but nope, too young.
I am also chatting to someone very local. We swapped numbers too. So hope to meet him soon obviously if this today doesn't go well though.

first1 · 12/04/2012 08:30

I'm 24 and I've never been out with/slept with anyone my own age or younger. I always always go for older guys. Purely because of lack of maturity in younger guys. As for distance, I'd say about n hour away at the very max otherwise in time I think the distance would bother me. My boyfriend I met on pof is 31 and lives half hour away so happy bunny Smile

TimeForMeAndDD · 12/04/2012 09:21

Morning everyone Smile

Hurray!! watch that all sounds good. I'm really pleased for you Smile

adams are you too snowed under with messages to update us? Grin

watchoutforthatsnail · 12/04/2012 09:30

time - is your profile unhidden now? are you chatting to anyone?

and yeah, it was a good date, not great, but still good. Obviously that doesnt mean anything in regards to the ellusive second date though...

PostBellumBugsy · 12/04/2012 09:41

Morning all. Glad you had a good date Watch. I did too.

He looked like his photo, which was good. He was definitely taller than me, although as ever the two inch rule applied (i.e. he was at least 2 inches shorter than he declared himself to be).

We had a drink & then he asked if I'd join him for dinner (which he insisted on paying for). The conversation was slightly effortful, until the last half an hour when he finally relaxed and kind of came to life.

He has sent me away with some obscure bands to look up & tell him what I think of, so I'm taking that as a sign he would like to at least hear from me again. Whilst, he definitely isn't the sweep you off your feet kind of guy, I think I would go on another date with him!

TimeForMeAndDD · 12/04/2012 09:48

watch yes, it's unhidden but I'm not chatting to anyone. Sadly, I'm not attracting men who I find appealing at the moment. A few pensioners, no word of a lie, and without meaning to be cruel, some proper ugly munters. I get a much better response with the IE profile so may do an adams and unleash that one. Finally, I do actually feel ready for some dating action!!

Good at the first hurdle is good, great may well come later. Finger's crossed for a second date! Smile

watchoutforthatsnail · 12/04/2012 10:00

time - hmm, thats so strange - have you had a look and messaged men you like the look of? that might be the best way round it.
mind you, i get some awful ones and pensioners too.. happens to all of us :)

watchoutforthatsnail · 12/04/2012 10:02

post - that sounds like it went ok... :) my date was shorter too, no way was he 6ft. do you think he will call then?

PostBellumBugsy · 12/04/2012 10:05

Well he texted last night, saying he is looking forward to hearing my views on the bands - so I guess the ball is in my court! Smile

ChickenSkin · 12/04/2012 10:06

Glad to hear the dates are going well! If nothing else, I suppose it counts as a nice evening out - better than being stuck in front of the telly :)

Well, Mr FridayNight has text me this morning saying he's off work with a nasty dose of chicken pox! So I'm awaiting his cancellation for tomorrow night. The cynic in me says todays messages will be setting the wheels in motion for the final date cancellation.

I'm not too bothered though to be honest if that happens, his child situation was putting me off anyway.

ChaoticAngel · 12/04/2012 10:15

Morning :)

Glad to hear the dates are going well.

Time which website are you using?

I'm going to have to ask...what's the IE profile?