Time wasters need not apply, Soul Soothers come hither Dating Chat Part 11

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Ta-da! Think this is the first one I've started.

I am still feeling somewhat feisty. Told my team off at work for being too noisy and was generally stroppy. Might have to go and start a row in AIBU or something!

So, dating, as you were etc

Not forgetting of course that I have a second date at the weekend!

And there we have it, the cancellation

Ah well, not sure whether to give him the benefit of the doubt or not?

He's asked to meet for coffee next week instead.

Depends...what's the child situation?

Just that he has two teenagers that he has every weekend which a) makes me wonder when he'd be able to see me as I only have the weekends free and b) one has autism which whilst isn't a problem in its self, does mean there won't be much room for compromise on his side when it comes to the kids and I'm a stubborn sod who hates compromise at the best of times

Saying that though he does sound like a nice bloke but I have a fear of time wasting. If the future would be complicated, don't know if I can be arsed with it.

He's also not legally divorced yet, the final papers are due in 2 months apparently?

Chaotic I'm on POF but am seriously thinking of having another try with OKcupid. And IE is Intimate Encounter. We did an experiment where we set our profiles to IE, even though we stated we weren't looking for casual sex or ONS. The increase in traffic was amazing! Lot's of men looking for the same, something long term with someone nice but no threat possibility of marriage or living together, which is ideally what I am after. You do get a lot of cock pics idiots but there are actually some nice men too. It's worth a try

watch I know. I can't help but be a bit insulted but I do choose to believe it's because the decent blokes think I'm out of their league and are worried about a knock back!

post Pleased it's going well. Hope the second date produces a bit of a spark

Chickens Next.....!!

chickens - i wouldnt even bother. NEXT! cancellations happen ALL THE TIME, perils of internet dating im afraid. Dont take it personnally and dont get bummed about it, and just find someone else to date. Its meant to be fun, if you already know ( in your head) that its not going to work out, or you are going to have issues over certain parts of his life ( and you are allowed to think that, its not mean) then why even bother with the date in the first place - no different to me cancelling on the hipster guy really... The divorce thing is a moot point though, ive been dating for ages and my divorce only came through in jan.

Time - what have you written in your profile, what pics? im sure its fab, as are you... sometimes there is nothing decent and then because people join all the time, you get an influx of good ones.. keep changing your pic too, so people notice it.

watch Stay gave me a fab profile and the photo I use is the one on my FB that you gave me a compliment on. I'm happy with the profile, just not happy with the men it attracts. I get a lot of blokes sending compliments but it goes no further than that. I've done a search of the guys in my area and tbh there isn't anything that catches my eye so I guess I just have to be patient. Or switch to IE again and see what comes of that.

Chicken sounds way too complicated and you haven't even been on date 1 yet. Agree with Time and watch...next!!

Time wrt to IE I was thinking Indecent Exposure so not too far off

I've recently got rid of my profiles on Smooch and POF.

No Chaotic not too far off at al, infact, Indecent Exposure is a good name for it . Apparently, some of the women are just as bad for sending intimate pics. And the men are more prudish about that than we women are about cock pics.

And the men are more prudish about that than we women are about cock pics.

That's the old double standard. It's okay for men for not for women. I suspect there are some in society that still haven't got their heads around the fact that some women actually enjoy sex and don't just want to lie back and think of England

Actually scrap some women and insert most women.

time, you could switch it over, you are right, you do get a lot more attention, you could even say in your profile ' now that ive got your attention' .... and then say what you are looking for and not being about casual sex.

ive not heard from todays date again. pah. we hadnt said a time or location, what time do i give him till till i write him off?
2?

Yes, and I also discovered that men do like to be messaged first, they like the confidence it emits, so go for it, get messaging!

I like that watch! My profile does state exactly what I am and am not looking for, and it does get a good response. "It's refreshing to find a woman who wants the same as me" lot's of that type of message. I like the thought of adding the 'Now I've got your attention' bit though, will definitely do that. Cheers!

In fact, I am off to do that right now!! If I want a shag some action it's time to put the effort in!

Oh chickens I'm gutted for you I know you were so excited. But sod him, plenty more out there who can stick to plans! Move on to the next!

Right, I've done it. HarmonyReigns, constructive criticism welcome.

See, just this second unleashed profile and 12 messages already!! IE does the trick.

What's IE?

Intimate Encounter.

Obviously they don't read the actual profile. Mainly messages consisting of "hi/hello"

IE=Intimate Encounter

Oh defo for the guys seeking true love and commitment then

Actually first1, yes. See my earlier post.

IE guarantees increased traffic, it doesn't mean your morals/standards/requirements have to change.

time - its fab, and a very cheeky, and clever way of getting noticed :) i love it. im sure its the way ahead!
its clever and witty too :)

only thing is you could put a little about what you like to do, your interests and passions etc... so people will know if they have anything in common with you.

Thanks watch. I will add more about me to it later and see what it brings.

first - the most interesting thing about IE is the majority of the men that message you have it listed that they are after a relatonship and something long term...
and reading their profiles ( which are really just a lot of waffle really, anyone could say anything..) they are all ' im honest and trustworth blah, blah blah...'

Well each to their own but I personally would have never suggested I was out for casual sex or an "IE" from the Internet. Tad dodge. But as I said, each to their own.