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[Gay40]

This is a thread for women who unexpectedly (or not) find themselves attracted to another woman.

tough situation, sleepless, not just unusual!
one positive I've got is that we are both single (with wiq).

It might not be the only thing that needs mopping

g40 !

Likea - yes, I am a silly,excitable 40something and must start acting my age, not my shoe size. When I say I'm an older woman I really mean I am older than my WIQ.

Is that you lowering the tone Gay?!

I can't wait for sleeplesss update tomorrow night....

er..40 smth isn't 'older'! our wiq's are mid 50s! polly and I and Gay are all 40 ish.

Tears. Tears.
Kleenex for tears, ladies.

sleepless....the baby will be fine if you're fine. Life is too short to wonder.....we are put in certain people's paths for a reason and it's not every day we have such a strong connection to someone, that means something! It's not like you were looking for something, its a lovely life affirming message. Careful what you don't act on.

I haven't really thought further than kissing tbh.

If I was a man posting on mn about feelings for an ow I would be eaten alive.

I feel so guilty

Sleepless - I don't think you should analyse it too much as you only met her 2 days ago and nothing has happened (yet). Just go with the flow, see what happens and cross any bridge when you come to it.

ah right, older than your partner, well Gay was talking of preffering older women as in v.mature.

And don't bring guilt into it. You haven't done anything wrong.

er, who's gonna cry, and why, Gay?

Yes, can't say I'm "v mature"...

I completely second Loveis and Fridge. Don't worry in advance, just see how things go. But don't guilt yourself into missing out on something potentially wonderful, because 'potentially wonderful' doesn't come around too often in life.

Loveis - how old is your WIQ?

it's tough for sleepless though - she may be about to cheat on partner as she's got a crush, and she still doesn't know what the wiq feels for sure.

She's also old enough to know better

Loveis - no, neither am I, I feel esp immature next to wiq as I have no kids while my wiq has grown up ones!

I am definitely over analysing I have read and reread every message and text. From "so lovely to meet you, your children are wonderful and can't wait to do it again" And "you are such a lovely person, it was do easy being with you today it didn't feel odd at all" and "thank you for being you" to saying "you would look stunning with no make up and bed hair"

Lots of suggestions for meeting up complete with times and dates do not empty words.

And she used a turn if phrase I don't understand - talking about my Dc getting mixed up and calling her Dc his cousin, I had said well I'll have to marry one of your brothers a d she responded no don't do that we can be sisters in arms instead.

Yes it's tough but if her WIQ doesn't return her feelings there won't be any cheating. It's such early days and it might take her some time to find out if her feelings are reciprocated (and we know all about that don't we Likea!)

No, not very mature! Just a tad older than me.

Is sisters in arms not women who have shagged the same man?

I've just remembered a bed hair comment from the Chancer.