Welcome to the Turning Tavern

[Gay40]

This is a thread for women who unexpectedly (or not) find themselves attracted to another woman.

[Gay40]

Yes I will open TT2 shortly.
I do have to work with the Chancer but not every day or week, and contact is driven by work-related necessity.

[likeatonneofbricks]

a good thing to do is tell her her texts/calls are a nuisance, that usually stops people who have any kind of pride.

[likeatonneofbricks]

I mean better than getting dramatic.

[Gay40]

I think obsessive stalkers are usually more persistent and forthcoming. In my opinion it's a very low key crush and I don't think I'd have ever realised if I hadn't been told.

[likeatonneofbricks]

I'm saying she might become a stalker, so far it's mild obsession and I'd say she IS persistent being the 2yrs, and now escalated to late night texts. She can't be too forthcoming knowing you have a partner, otherwise she would be I'm sure. I personally find that people who ignore my lack of interests aer very unpleasant as they don't show respect of what I want.

[likeatonneofbricks]

lack of interest (ha)

[sleeplessindenial]

Likea, I have pmmed you

[likeatonneofbricks]

it really sounds ilke she is keeping herself in the picture increasingly, hoping you split with your partner. Surely not nice for your mrs too even if she knows nothing will happen, it's like getting 'piss off' vibes from someone..

[likeatonneofbricks]

sleep

[Gay40]

If I'm not worried about it, I don't think anyone else should be tbh.
Several years ago I had someone state their intentions. When I told MrsG, she laughed and said "Tell her she's too late!!!!"

[Gay40]

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1452776-Welcome-to-the-Turning-Tavern-II-Now-in-3D

New thread in case we go to 1000 while I'm away doing my thang.

[likeatonneofbricks]

well, ok, obviously it's your choice G what to say to her or whether to say anything, but as you nention it here with a raised eyebrow smiler, it invites opinions!

[likeatonneofbricks]

mention

[Loveisthemessage]

Polly - ignore my last message and didn't see that your wiq had responded already. Early start, brain not functioning properly

[sleeplessindenial]

It's amazing how much better I feel today, I am no longer worrying about seeing her tomorrow now that I've been told off

I got a text this morning saying she was going to call and not to be a chicken and answer the phone so I did.

I was told not to be over dramatic that she had explained that she feels as strongly about me as I did her and that it's not the end of the world, I need to stop tying myself up in knots and that she thought I was honest and brave and she had missed chatting to me. She said didn't think our feelings were wrong and that I should stop acting as though they were that I'm her best friend and she wanted to see me.

She also said that she was a normal person not some superstar and that once I pulled myself together I got over being nervous we would be back on track.

[sleeplessindenial]

Gay, your wife sounds great

[pollyblue]

s'alright Loveis, I'm a bit duller of brain than usual today and needed extra coffee to get on track - I'm blaming on the wet weather.

[pollyblue]

sleepless good news I love the fact she's told you to pull yourself together. She's sounds very grounded and I think she'll be a good friend to you.

[likeatonneofbricks]

sleep it just sounds like you are made for each other - one's weaknesses are the other's strengths!

[Gay40]

She's brilliant Sleepless I am very lucky

[Gay40]

Polly you need some of that Lava Java coffee or whatever it is

[Gay40]

My ladders have finally been put away.

[Gay40]

Can you tell I just want to have the final word on this thread?

[Gay40]

And NEXT!