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[Gay40]

This is a thread for women who unexpectedly (or not) find themselves attracted to another woman.

Blimey, I disappear for a few days, tune back in to see how like is getting on and the first thing that catches my eye is this thread! Well done for starting it, Gay.

Sleep I look forward to hearing how events unfold.

You can't do that Tee!

I love women. But I don't fancy all of them. I've known this since forever. Can we not put this thread into does she fancy you or not. I love the symetry of a woman's body and love mine too. I love the curves, the response, if touched, the absolute trust, when you find it.

I'd love to know tee.

Good God sleepless, here we are all waiting for the faintest snifter of a hopeful word from our wiqs, and you breeze in with a crush that's barely been in evidence for 24 hours, and already she's imagining what you'd look like in the sack!

i completely absolutely second that and can I add a few s of my own.

Get in there sleepless!

Tee - you can't leave us hanging like that. Otherwise you'll be accused of being a lesbian tea-se.

Loveis- wouldn't be the first time!

Polly, I have been following a thread that you post on for likeatonofbricks I think, and really hope you get your girl

thanks sleepless

Sleepless - if you're WIQ isn't hinting/testing the water then I'll eat my stetson.

Ok - so time to out those cheeky lurker/stalkers: how many of you have been following Likea's thread(s) apart from the obvious ones??

I've got a question for Gay (any excuse to lure her back onto the thread) ...am curious to know about MrsG and how she dealt with the whole switch/changeover. Did she feel her desire for a woman had lain dormant or was it a complete out-of-the-blue experience that wouldn't have happened unless she'd met you?

In all honesty, as I was reading it I couldn't understand the whole dissecting of words, looks, body language etc (not a critism just an observation) but now I am right there with her!! Haven't caught up for a few days, and I have name changed for this although no one will know who I was anyway, will go and have a catch up

Why can't I get this strikethrough thing right

Aaaah. It worked.

Trapped, I identify with a lot of how you feel. You say you act ultra cool with her, but I bet you still try to get close, and look at her a lot?

sleepless, it sounds promising bu also a bit dangerous her being dp's ex! definitely Jeremy KYle's material! do you trust her not to tell your dp that you show the signs of being gay/bi? I hope she's not testing you (it would be a bit er ..evil, so probably not).

Evening likea. Are you saying that you are the one that acts cool, or your wiq?

Yes I do find myself looking at her, but not as much as I'd like to! I do find her mesmerisingly beautiful, and I almost feel that looking at her too much is too painful for me... Stupid I know. I've rarely been in a situation where I feel intimidated by other people's looks, but with her I do, and recently have found myself being quite hard on myself in these terms, finding myself ugly and unattractive in comparison. I've never thought of myself as unattractive before, in fact i used to be mega confident about the way I look. I never feel unattractive to men, strangely enough. But next to this woman I feel like the ugly sister! Tragic huh?! I feel intensely shy in her presence.

Anyway ink now looks aren't everything, but I have been interested in the effect of being in lust/awe of someone who I consider more attractive than myself. It's not great as I really should, and do, have more things to worry about.

i know. Bloody iPad!

And when I say it's too painful, I mean that's because I know I can never have her.

I'm uncomfortable with the idea that women are gay because of a lack of an emotional maternal connection. I have never found that to be the case in 40 years of gay. I don't think there's any basis for it.

Conversely, are straight women attracted to men because of poor emotional bonds with their fathers? No.......
We are born with the sexuality we have. If you start along the lines of poor maternal bonds, you open the doors for the opinion that actually, crap parenting can change your sexual orientation (utter rubbish) and that decent parenting will produce straight people.
I'm somewhat offended by this notion.

Glad that's not just me then Gay40!

I think, gay that the idea was bandied about earlier because it's been considered as a concept, not that it's a blanket theory. I think it has been argued (not necessarily on mn), that there are cases of certain women who have had poor relationships with their fathers to have a certain 'need' for reassuring relationships with older, more authoritative men. again, this is only a theory and you cannot compartmentalise everybody!

Gay - I don't want to offend. This was something someone said to me TODAY and I don't necessarily agree with it. I was just putting it out there and I probably should have mulled it over more. I agree that people's sexual orientation has nothing to do with parenting on either side.

I don't think parenting has anything to do with sexual orientation - I'm not overly close to mother although my sibling is and has been in a same sex relationship for years.