scummy scummy man --I feel so low again and foolish

[comewwhinewithme]

Ok so I'm not sure if anyone remembers my thread at the end of Jan? Dp went awol leaving me with 6dc and I was pg.
He turned back up with some story about loving me but not being in love and how he thought he was having a breakdown.
He didn't move back in but was here all the time and I supported him through his breakdown he would sit and cry and say sorry. He told the kids he was coming home he took money and food off me because he was skint.
He also swore he wanted me was still in love with me and I was the only person who stood by him. He said all his family had turned their back on him.
I fell for it all then I found a new facebook account he had set up and he is in a relationship with a girl he walks with.
Turns out he bought her the same chain he wanted to buy me for valentines day and he showed her a private letter regarding my pregnancy I had from the hospital.
He has also banned my dc from his sisters wedding so he can take her ;(.
The thing that really hurts though is his family they knew all along theiy have been out with her as have two of my oldest friends, what a kick in the teeth.
He is now lying about ever saying he was coming home and said he hasn't slept with me since he left, everyone thinks I'm some mad ex with a grudge and all condoning his actions.
Even his mum sat in my house Thursday and said she didn't know why he had gone.
Why couldn't one of them told me his mum has known me since I was 5 she said I was her third daughter.His sister has photos up of them stood together with their arms round each other
What the fuck did I do.

I have just read this this thread from start to finish and want to say OP stay strong you are doing the right thing. Mn is brilliant for venting all your worries, use it all you can and then be unbelievably calm and collected in front of ex and his family. I had an ex BF who played all the classics, the I love you, I'm so sorry lines after we broke up for the zillionth time, I dug deep and found the strength to keep to my word and finally not go back. It is hard but it makes you a stronger and better person in the long run. You have had some good advice and support on here, keep going.
BTW I first thought OW ment old witch then realised it was other woman :) same thing tho heh!

Well I've gone the other way. Was creeping up to a size 18 and xmas have just had to buy some size 12 jeans from Asda.
Pear cider sounds nice though I had a strawberry and lime one last year it was like a slush puppy.

At Xmas.

At Xmas.

Pmsl at old witch.

Pear cider is delicious. Much nicer than apple cider.

I was a rather small 12 when I left him, three months later I was squeezing myself into a 14 when I really should have been wearing a 16. I'm pleased to say it's all under control now the emotions have settled and I'm back down to a 12 again. I seem to eat when I'm depressed and eat when I'm happy!

Hope you had a good day cwwwm

I've been lurking on this thread and read your other one cwwwm. I am so sorry for everything you are going through, but just wanted to tell you how amazing you are. Even in your lowest posts you are still holding it together - and with 6DC! I am in awe.

And as an aside, I can't believe the shit he is throwing your way. What an absolute bell end. And his family - wow. Just shits the lot of them.

I know it's not allowed, but have a HUGE hug and the last of the Easter eggs xx

Good luck op-sadly I give it 2 weeks max before he has wormed his way backin and you are on here making excuses for him

I wish you and your dc all the best-so sad you had to terminate a pregnancy due to this man/twunt.

Bellstar I am glad I know myself better than you seem to know me. In what way could I possibly excuse his actions? There is no excuse for what he has done. It is disgusting and cruel

Also yes it is sad about the termination and I do have moments of regret but I didn't do it just for him I did it for my sanity and the well being of the dc already here.

I had a good day thanks TimeForMe.
Thanks for the hugs Whackamole.

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Bellstar - on what planet did you think that was a helpful post?

CWWM - you are a very very very strong lady.

I'm pleased you had a good day cwwwm

You keep on moving forward and doing the best for yourself and your children. You are doing great, don't let anyone tell you otherwise.