He's gone...for now

[nutcracker]

We had a huge row about washing of all things, and he lost it, threw 2 cups at the wall in the kitchen, so I told him to get out.

He will be back though, as although i gave him his cash card, there is hardley any money in his account.

Am feeling very shaky and upset and sick.

nutty - hang on in there.

TBH I was looking for an argument i think cos i knew i wouldn't ask him to go otherwise.

I don't want him back I know that, but I know it is going to be hard to stay strong and keep remembering why I don't want him.

I don't love him, haven't for ages, and if he asks i will tell him that.

Nutty, I don't know what to say but didn't want to ignore your thread. Sorry you are having a rubbish time - there's some good advice on here from others though.

xxx

Oh nutty, it was leading to this wasnt it? Hes going to try and worm his way back in, you know that. He didnt want you working, let alone being on your own and getting a life. Is there anyone that can come round and sit with you, share a cuppa?

Thanks everyone, I appreciate the thoughtss etc.

I panicked when he first went because i thought he might rip the internet cables out of the wall outside, and then I wouldn't be able to speak to you lot.

Couldn't do this without you lot to hold me up, so thanks

nutcracker, the way he's been behaving toward you has been abusive for a long time. I hope you do decide to change the locks and not let him back in, I can'tsee what he adds to your life. Good luck.

Thanks WWW.

The kids seemed to have settled down a bit, they are now more intrested in whats for lunch.

I will try and catch my dad on msn later and explain to him whats gone on which will make me feel alot better i think.

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Thanks YK

So to hear this Nutty, you have my email address if you need anything, take care xxx

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Hi Nutty. I know this may be scary but you've made the first step now. Stay strong and you'll be so mych happier!

stay strong nutty Hope that this inital nasty bit is the first step of a happy and free life for you

I hope you can get some RL support too, Nutty. Good luck. xx

Nutty, sorry that it has cme to this, but from your past posts, it sounds like it'd for the best.

Don't worry about work, you can call sick.

Be strong, for your children too.

Oh Nutcracker, call in sick, and tell them why. They will understand.

Please don't let him take back control over you.

Nutty, don't let him come back - I've been reading your posts about him for what, two and a half years now - enough is enough. He is not going to change and you deserve better. Be strong.

marthamoo x

Sorry it has come to this for you Nutty.

Like Colditz said, give work a call and tell them you'll not be going. You'd only be worrying if you went anyway.

thinking of you nutty, be strong xxxx

Hello again all. Thanks for the messages of support. Feeling a bit shitty at the mo, kids are fighting and giving me a headache.

Have told my mom, she is coming round after work.

Started to pack some of his stuff because i'm sure he will come back for it soon.

Just about to tell my dad on msn.

Do you think he has seriously gone, nutty, ie for good?

Or has he done this before hoping to call your bluff and that you'll ask him back?

Or might he turn up when he has calmed down and expect things to get back to normal?

Hey Nutty, stay strong. You can amnage this and move on to a happier time in your life, I am sure.

He will definatly turn up expecting me to have changed my mind. When he sees that I haven't he will either beg and plead or be nasty.

He will think he can change my mind, which to be fair is my fault cos I have asked him to go before and then let him come back.

re packing his stuff....

Don't let him in to get it. This is when he will try to persuade you to let him stay in the house.

Put the stuff somewhere, safe accesable to him, but not in the house. Get smeone to take it round to one of his mate's house maybe?

Then when he comes to get it, tell him calmly where it is. Don't open the door to do this.