Another story from group therapy - this is about a woman I was close friends with for several months (adds up to quite an intense relationship in that setting!)
She had been sexually abused from early childhood at the instigation of her mother, who was very sexually prolific and public. It seems clear the mother had also been abused as a child; she had no boundaries. My friend was an alcoholic cocaine addict and was also being treated for sex addiction. She was very rich, accomplished and beautiful.
Nearly ALL the doctors who had treated her had sexually abused her. They included one of our consultants, who was sacked & struck off after she and another patient complained. The feeling this gave me was weird - I was disgusted by her doctors, sympathetic to her, and also had a little internal niggle going "But why don't they fancy meeee?" 
Anyway, she was asking much the same question which is what I wanted to write about.
She gave off signals of sexual availability all the time. When she entered a room, she would sort of hover at the door, toss her hair about, and stay there until a certain proportion of the men in the room had noticed her. It sounds cartoonish, but was done in a very sophisticated manner. I've actually copied it a few times, to see if it works (it does.) She was unrelentingly flirtatious with men, again not too overtly but over-the-top for an everyday situation. I found it quite hard to spot this, which taught me I had a similar problem.
Verbally, her lack of boundaries showed up quite prominently. Bearing in mind that most of the men we met were also dysfunctional, they would push quite subtly for weaknesses and she fell every time - becoming more vivacious and flirty as they barged through one boundary after another.
What I'm trying to say here is not that it's her fault she was abused. It's about how healthy socialisation teaches us a thousand little ways to set out our stalls and build our barricades. While my socialisation didn't teach me my main worth was a sexy body as my friend's had, it did teach me similar damaging lessons about my value to others, particularly men, and my individual rights - or lack of same.
I think it's crucial for adult survivors of dysfunctional families to learn all we can about healthy values, assertiveness, social 'games' and boundaries. If we don't set ourselves to learn, we can only carry on using the dysfunctional values we have and pass those on to younger generations. For myself, I need inner-child therapy in order to learn 'from the inside out' but I'm not sure everyone does.
My friend did not get fixed, by the way :( As far as I know, she's still going round having inappropriate sex while guzzling coke and gin. She'll be doing it with a couple of boundaries now, though, which can only be a good thing ...