Fuck Him and his Barbour - dating chat 10

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New thread - you know what to do :)

Been out for a drive this afternoon, went to a pub for a meal and noticed a couple stood by the bar around my age. Straight away I could see they were on a blind date. The body language and mismatch. She was quite attractive and he was a bloater. He was very typical of men on the sites. They seemed to be getting on OK, so who knows what happened after. My friend noticed that they arrived separately .

Hi everyone..
Well I had a nice time with mr nice..As before he was a real gentleman, smelled gorgeous, opened the car door for me, paid for lunch etc etc!! I still dont fancy him however..how annoying! Grr..I told him how I felt and he took it really well. Think we may stay friends as I like his company. Isnt it a shame you cant invent chemistry?
Anyway, Ive got a date lined up for tomorrow eve.. hes been texting me tonight..very good looking and witty. Im looking forward to tomorrow! (still wish I could completely forget about the bloke who shagged and ran however... :( )

Actually watch, having thought about the situation further, I don't think I would give the buddist the time of day. He had his chance to ask you out after the first date. What happens if he asks you out again, you go and he doesn't ask again? That's you headfucked again. You are no man's reserve, you are priority material, nothing less! His loss!

Just been scanning another thread and the poor poster had been badly let down by her DH and father of her DC's, she said words to the effect 'if someone could invent a pill to take this feeling away they would be rich'

Made me remember that the anxiety we feel should be a warning sign that this man can hurt you. We should see it as a defense mechanisim. So if we meet someone we like and they have us in knots they should be out, a man who is going to make us happy wouldn't make us feel this way, they would sooth our souls straight away. This is why I finished with my EU man recently, despite the happiness I felt when we were together .

Absolutely spot on adams. I'm holding out for exactly that, someone who soothes my soul

A back massage would be nice too.

Yes, and forget that he is a goodlooking bastard, if he doesn't worship you he is out .

Too right! I tend to shy away from the really good looking ones anyway. First thing I look at is the eyes, I like a smile that reaches the eyes. And nice teeth. If he is tall it's a bonus. Anyone who makes me feel even the slightest bit uncomfortable is out!

Well we have decided to be friends he is top busy for a relationship atm but we are good friends and seeing each other again soon. When his work has quietened off a little.

Last nights date text too but I am a bit unsure. He was nice, but not my type. Back to dating sites.

My EU man was very good looking, still, but it was the history between us that was the bond. Typical, as he won't have trouble replacing me with a younger model. I got the impression he thought he was out of my league, another reason I let him go .

Will date someone with his head out of his a--e next time.

MLM, is this the guy who was your first internet date? Sorry, he didn't want more.

Well adams if that's the impression he gave you then I'm delighted you let him go.

see, i have a chaotic, if ordered life, but if someone blew my socks off, i would shift hell and high water for him. 'too busy' doesn't cut it. :)

Absolutely Snape.

I never want to marry or live with a bloke but if he blew my socks off, well, who knows!

I am good with him not wanting more, he was ny first, but he treats me well, we have s laugh he gives THE BEST CUDDLES, so I am happy. And we will be spending some more time together. I hope I can find someone for relationship with someone who treats me as well and I will be so happy.

chicken - somewhere halfway?

adams - i think you have hit the nail on the head thereand of course are right. and if thats the impression he gave you, you know you are far better than that!!!

mlm - ' too busy' is an excuse people give when they want to be poliet. If he really liked you, he wouldnt be ' too busy' he wold make time.

I think you are all right re the buddist. He logged back on last night, but did not reply to my message. Fcuk am i being someones ' reserve' I am not going to block, but when he next sends a message, i shall just not reply and leave him hanging... :)
clearly being an ordained buddist does not mean you are exempt from behaving l ike a dick.

Im meant to have two dates this evening, one ive not heard from in two days, ... so im presuming thats cancelled, and another which is just vague plans and that i dont expect will happen.

and i just want to say thanks for listening to me be depressed for the last 2 days, i feel back to normal now :)

oooohhhh, im furious.

i was being a stalker and checked ywk's flickr ( he gave it me years ago, dont think he knows i still have the link... its private, you need the link to get in)

the fucker has uploaded all my fox ( bleep bleep bleep becausei dont want it picked up by google, this might help it appear further down the line of seach stuff)shard stuff. pics, texts, emails, the whole fucking lot. He had better not be writing a piece about it, knowing the shards due compeletion in a month. or for his motherfucking book. Thats my ficking stuff and my ficking pictures.

whhhhyyyyy are you checking ykws flickr?!!!

this is one of these instances of curiosity giving the kitty a swift kick up the bahookie. Let it go. he hasn't especially done it to prompt contcat, he's just been thoughtless, which just about sums him up really. Glad you're feeling better (or was until you stalked!) If he writes something about it or uses your material, send a legally termed letter about compensation.

Glad you are feeling better today Watch (apart from that which is all gobbledygook (sp) to me.

I'm feeling a bit better now I'm back at work and wouldn't be see EU anyway, going to be away next weekend so onwards and upwards.

I know what he is doing and he really is going to be manic, and we are still meeting and texting just we won't get to meet up often. Friends is good with me. He did say if there is anything I need to let him know. Next week I will have a Facebook link that I want as many people to like as possible. So yep will be asking you guys please?

watch every time I hear about ykw, he annoys me a little more. Agree with Snape, this is him just being his usual thoughtless self. Am not going to say anything about the flikr though as I stalk my nice Ex regularly via FB, particularly when I'm feeling miserable. His fault for having an open profile

We need a title for thread no 11, any thoughts? There was a comment last week which I thought would make a good title, will try and find it.

Meanwhile, the eponymous Barbour man text me a picture of his bath last night...

Just friends, 2nd dates and losers?

Got w good friend offered more than 1 2nd date but not really interested tbh. So back online. I bounce me, fall but bounce back up. Friday me thinks I will get some male attention anyways. Not sure about seeing last Monday's date again. Got a message asking when we could catch up next. And friday night's. But there is someone local I quite fancy. I don't know. I am searching g ib fb for am old ex too. And old mate said he still talks about me and I often think of him too.

its not an open link, he gave it to me and then forgot i think. So it wont be to prompt contact. If he uses my stuff for anything with his name on i shall be fucked off.
and i was looking because i am nosey..... its the only think i havent deleted

sponge - do we think hes maybe like cum tribite man, in that he just wants free porn?

thread 11, wasnt it something like between a dick and a hard place? or something like that.

one of my dates has cencelled for tonbight... as expected. the other has just sent me a line of squares... so im reckoning ill cancell there.

sorry about the typing, kepyboard isnt working.

watch possibly, though I honestly have no idea what goes through his head, he has deleted himself off POF, still apparently wants to see me when he is less busy (has recently been away with work and now has his DC for easter hols), and in the meantime sends me suggestive texts - to which I reply in fairly prudish terms because a) he's not getting some free text porn service off me and b) I am a prude.

hmmmm. Could it be hes met someone, but just kikes sending texts like that because it gets him off? ( i know afew men who do it, but not any more to me at least)
doesnt matter what you reply, just that you do, and havent blocked him , so it gives him a green light to keep doing it.
I came out and asked one of them outright why they did it. Then hes getting off on that, thinking you do like it, because you are still talking to him...

ive cancelled tonights date, if he cant reply with actual words to a question ive asked huim, then fuck am i spending any time with him.

I think you're right to cancel.

I've told Barbour man that he's all talk (or text rather) and unless we're actually going to see each other again not to keep texting me. Or words to that effect. I'll let you know when (and if!) I get a response...