Fuck Him and his Barbour - dating chat 10

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Time I don't know whether mine wanted a baby really or just to trap me. He got a previous gf pregnant v early on too (massive red flag there, when I met him that son was a teenager living with Ex and Ex's parents, because Ex hadn't in the previous 13 years 'got round to' getting a home of his own. A 34 year old man still living with his mum & dad...). When DS2 was a baby he constantly put me down for Bf-ing. It took too long, DS wasn't 'satisfied', Ds was hungry and cried too much, it wasn't fair he couldn't feed him too, it was inconvenient to have to stop and Bf him, it stopped me from doing the housework.

When I look back now I am amazed I put up with it for 5 mins let alone 8 years.

So - I'd like your opinions on this guy please -

I got talking to him about 2 months ago on POF. He lives near me. We sent messages back and forth for a bit and then we exchanged mobile numbers. This is when he went a bit funny and starting insisting on ringing me every day, loads and loads of texts with xxxxxx every day and basically going a bit OTT. In the end I started to ignore him - this prompted a load of texts asking "why are you ignoring me?xxxxx" "what have I done wrong??xxxx" "how are you?? please answer me xxxxxxx" etc!!

Well he eventually got the message and left me alone and I stopped using that dating site for a while. Anyway, I've recently started using it again and he's found me started off with "hi stranger xx" and now I get around four messages a day off him asking "Hi, how are you? xx" "how's things? xx" "you ok?"" "Hi, hows things? I keep sending you messages but never get a reply xxx"

WTF does he continue with this shit?? isn't it OBVIOUS that I'm not interested? he's just making me glad I never did meet up with him. A stalker in the making that one.

My Ex is a real bully too. He doesn't argue with men much mostly because he is short and they are all taller than him but is v unpleasant about women. He's not very nice to the DSs either. I feel a bit sorry for the boys, I idolised my dad, he was/is my hero. They just think their dad is a bit of an idiot.

Chicken I think some men want to create some sort of false intimacy, it's kind of like playing at a relationship. they tend to be the ones who never actually arrange a meeting, or call it off at the last minute. Ignoring him doesn't seem to work (he clearly thinks he is so amazing why would you possibly ignore him) so just block him, then he won't be able to contact you. Some men just dont take a hint I'm afraid

MLM do you want to come with? at least we should all meet up for a coffee at some point.

yes, i get to fit manboy for his costume I shall have to promise to be more lenient with his testicles this time (the last trousers were second-skin ) I shall be very difficult and force him to try on several different sets of breeches until i am satisfied.

hi chickenskin! fab name! :)

time it's not just the throwing his weight around - it's the psychological torture - from 'I love you so much, I'm SO passionate about you that I can't help the way I act', to belittling your spouse, utterly undermining their confidence and making them believe that they can't 'cope' without the waste of fucking space. I hate people like this, sick scummy bastards. ;(

sponge mine wanted a trophy. His mate had a child so I think he wanted a child. He wanted the 'image' of a family but didn't want anything to do with said family. He showed no emotion whatsoever when DD was born, didn't even want to hold her. Within 10 minutes he left the room to go make his phone calls. Three days later he went back to work.

I think he also wanted a child to try and gain some attention from his parents. He has an emotionally incestuous relationship with his mother, he is constantly trying to please both his mother and father and I think he believed having a child would gain him some respect from them. I could just have fed DD, she would be asleep, all cosy, his father would turn up and he would heat a bottle and pass it along with the baby to his dad, so he could feed her Totally weird behaviour. Weird bloke. And I stayed 11 years!! Not through choice I might add, I was trapped for a number of those.

Chicken he is a weirdo. Under no circumstances reply to any of his messages. He will soon get bored and move on to his next victim. Replying, whether it be a civil message or one telling him to get lost will only serve as an invitation for him to contact you again. Can you block him?

I would love to meet up with you guys. About 6ish tonight for my date number 3.

snape exactly that! Mine hates the fact I cope without him, he hates me because I can cope without him.

Hi all,

I am back to my usual 'dip in & out', some of you may recognise the user name. :-) Still dateless btw (1 year and 2 months) and still no joy with creating a profile online and leaving it there for longer than 72 hrs. I need help, ladies!

I had to go to the local police station to report ds' bike as stolen and you simply would not believe how incredibly good-looking the PC that I spoke to was. So that has prompted me to register on to...uniform dating. No, not kidding! That's on the basis that he can't possibly be the only hunky man in uniform in Gloucestershire, can he???

Has anyone used this site before? Does it seem too desperate to go for a man in uniform? ;-)

I've always been tempted with uniform dating, is it free?

got a thing for policemen

Oh thank goodness it isn't just me! :-) It's free to join but you need to pay in order to message people - no different from most sites, I suppose.

There is a serious shortage of 1/2 decent men around here...and my friends seem to think that I've got my light switched off atm (whatever that means!) which doesn't help

The thing is that our ex's are recycled into the system - we are meeting someone's ex at some point or another ;)

Ewww, a recycled narcissistic weirdo is now trawling the streets. What a thought

I know ... that thought keeps me indoors in daytime ;)

Hi ChickenSkin. Welcome to our nightmare!

happyAvocado - the recycled ex's... Is this like our trash is someone else's treasure?

My ex was abusive too, I mean he literally wanted me dead or sectioned. He even stabbed me. You can imagine the 5 previous years before that and what they were like. All dressed up ready for tonight. And not all internet dating is a nightmare. Although only this one has gotten more than one meeting with me.

You are very brave to be getting out there and dating again so soon after that MLM. I still have a little wobble at the thought of getting caught up with another tosser over 2 years later, but it is only a little wobble these days. Hope tonight goes well for you, looking forward to your update.

My ex won't be much of a treasure for anyone Rob, not unless you count his mother, his number one fan

Uniform dating. Well I don't want to burst your bubble. A high percentage ironically aren't actually in a uniformed profession at all, they are civvies.

Secondly, many genuinely single unformed guys and girls don't use it all because it wastes their time. It is full of married men though, looking to snag sex with people who swoon over the uniform. They can easily get away with it as well because they tend to work funny hours or away. Passes an evening at a course, or when you just feel like a booty call :(

I did think that and I also know of two women whose exs are in the forces and they cheated on them a lot. It's rather difficult, isn't it? You don't want to generalise but then you hear about men playing the field all over the internet... It certainly makes you very cynical about relationships! I've found a local site which seems to be a safer option. Good luck to everyone with their dates!!! :-)

NEWSFLASH - NEWSFLASH - NEWSFLASH - NEWSFLASH - NEWS

THE BUDDIST MESSAGED ME!!!!!!!!!!!! on the dating site... not on my phone, but whatever.

not quite sure what to make of it, but in the least i know that my reading of signals arent way of base :)
and it was a good date.

i would never touch anyone in uniform. am an ex army wife and in that time i met maybe 2men out of 100's who were faithfull. Snhiney warned againist policeman, and she was right, my friend was married to one and says the same about the infedility

exciting!!

Was it a nice/good/next date potential message? Have you replied?

it was a ' hey, how was your weekend'

i replied, he replied, i replied and then he logged out

so??? fuck knows??

either hes going to ask me out again or?? i dont know, why would you messgae again if you werent going to ask?

and if he doesnt ask in a few messages, ill just ignore him, because frankly, ive better things to do with my time.

Why don't you ask him if he fancies meeting for a coffee? All casual, nothing heavy. If he says no you know where you stand and you block him. Show him you are not to be messed with

because i already etxt him once.......

im not asking, he knows i said id like it if we did it again.

hes basically got about 5 messages left before i block and move on. which is made a lot easier by me forgetting him because i thought it was done with already.....

watch exactly.

he's keeping you in reserve.

My "date" for Friday night has just text me to ask if I'm still definitely going. I've replied that I am - he seems quite keen but wants me to decide where to meet. We both drive and live opposite ends of the city .... sooooo .... any suggestions?