Fuck Him and his Barbour - dating chat 10

[watchoutforthatsnail]

New thread - you know what to do :)

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1. and two for the following weekend.
   

yeah, might as well make the most of it....

[goldylock]

Im like adams-only been on one internet date (I swear adams, they sound similar yikes!!!!!!) and got caught up or attached emotionally to someone who just plain and simply didnt care.

[goldylock]

Never a truer word typed. Just got to get that into my hard head.

[watchoutforthatsnail]

i know its hard, - ive been there, but you know you are only hurting yourself, yes?
if you are fine with that, carry on...

[adamschic]

Watch 3? You might aswell whilst you have the chance. 40 yr old men can be immature so can 50 yr olds.

Goldy, it's done now, the text, so just put it behind you. It's hard to let go when you like someone alot but these sort of guys are expert in keeping women dangling. They usually have a few on the go at once.

[goldylock]

Am of the stock that I cant just "cut" (for want of better expression) feelings off. I would love LOVE to be like that. Cant seem to reason in my head when enough is enough.

[goldylock]

mlm is another poster (jees am slow)

Its like its my destructive ambition to make myself frustrated and him emotionally available. Number 1 is happening. Number 2 is not going to happen. Why do I keep trying?

[watchoutforthatsnail]

short for my little miracle. lol

you know you shouldnt have text him... just dont do it again :)

[goldylock]

Ahhh what does mlm mean? (new to all this speak).

[watchoutforthatsnail]

emotionally unavaliable.

mlm - if you want to, up to you :)

[goldylock]

adams - what does EU mean?
He sounds so much like the guy I was seeing (he had this whole league thing too).
ummm ladies-I got in a knot yesterday and broke and txt him.no reply obviously. What is wrong with me? he obviously couldnt give a monkeys. What is going on in my head?

[MyLittleMiracle]

Quick answer please, do I see last Wednesday's fit 18year old?

[watchoutforthatsnail]

nope, make that two dates for tomorrow.

the guy who i was meant to be seeing called me to sayt sorry, his phone had gone weird, ive made a pont not to see him tonight, but will tomorrow, after the other one.

i think i have one for thur too.....

[watchoutforthatsnail]

i have a date, tomorrow afternoon... with a scruffy musician. Im excited!!!!!!!!

hes 41, ive never dated anyone more than a year older than me. The surfer was 38.. but i dont think that counts as a date. The buuddist was 35. So - do i need to be a bit more sensible? or can i assume since hes a musician that hes super cool and iyts all good?

( i know, its a stupid question, i just have age issues )

[watchoutforthatsnail]

Sponge, fantastic!!!!! Perfect attitude towards it as well..can't wait to.hear all about it..

[hatesponge]

and also re pitbull. I am a litigator after all, and we are the scariest kind of lawyers!

[hatesponge]

Yes it is that rare thing, a second date! It might end in shagging but he will not be presuming that and if it does I will do in the full and certain knowledge that no more may come of it

I'll believe the date when and if it happens though

He's not actually ever disappeared, I've had texts from him often, just no date til I twisted his arm

[TimeForMeAndDD]

Hi Zany It's good to 'see' you again.

Thank you re holiday, it really was lovely, can't wait to go back next year No dates lined up for me. Yet.

[adamschic]

Sponge, is this actually a SECOND date or is it more? Tell him, on the date, that there won't be anymore if he does a disappearing act again.

[TimeForMeAndDD]

You are like a little pitbull sponge! My sense of humour must be having a day off too...

You have a date!!! Wey hey!!

[Zanywany]

HI guys

Just spent most of my working day a while catching up.

Hope your OK Watch everyone has an off few days when everything gets too much but hopefully your feeling better now. Shame about the Buddist, his loss though.

Hi Time glad you had a good holiday with DD. Am i right in thinking you have a date coming up soon?

Good on you Sponge for telling Mr Barbour as it is, have you had any response yet?

Have you heard much from your love/friend interest? It seems to me as though she isn't sure herself what she wants. May be worth hanging in there until she figures things out? Depends on how you feel I guess as you don't want to wait around too long.

Well things are still going well with Mr Yacht although the reality of having 4 DC's between us is really hard at times, his DS's are still young and the younger one is very clingy and dare I say it but a bit whiney. Definately a challenge. Apart from that though things are all good

[hatesponge]

I clearly have no sense of humour...

Do you see how positive I can be when I'm told I'm not good at something? Me and a BF used to have this I won't be beaten thing, that I have to prove people wrong. That's the lawyer in me I guess.

Might also help I have a date with Barbour man at the weekend...

[MyLittleMiracle]

Always on my terms. It has to be. Done that before though. He was good and worth it, but wanted more, I didn't. I like my new found friend, he gives me the best cuddles and I feel natural with him. That's what I need.

[TimeForMeAndDD]

I think internet dating requires very little effort initially, all you need is a good photo and a talent with words. That's enough to get a person hooked, your mind fills in the blanks and a little romance/lust creeps in before the first date. Then you meet and come face to face with an entirely different person to the one you thought you were talking to

[watchoutforthatsnail]

mlm - there is nothing wrong with a one nighter, provided you want to do it and its on your terms.

I dont mind the odd one nighter, should the mood take me, but its only ever if im the one calling the shots, i wouldnt do it and then expect the guy to call because of tyhat, but if i want sex, for the sake of havign sex, ill do it :) and be happy for its own sake.

rob - comedy school possibly needed in your spare time?