Fuck Him and his Barbour - dating chat 10

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praise indeed!
If only i could have had the benefit of the MN collective wisdom back when i first started internet dating

At least your getting it now (and so am i!)

And i think we should all agree on here, that it is never our faults or anythinf is wrong with us!!! ITS THEIR FAULT and there is obviously something wrong with them!

Sponge, fuck him & if he has a barbour jacket that can get to fuck as well. If there isn't a barbour, I nominate his stupid shoes.

Mylittle, I fully agree with you - it is ALWAYS them!

My latest chap, i was talking to all but constantly yesterday and was doing my friends head in!! But really enjoying chatting with him. Although he was a little hungover! He SOUNDS really nice,and again hasnt had it easy. He is a few years older, and has 4 kids, so great with kids, which is always a real PLUS, otherwise they are off the cards.

I miss my best friends for this though, from secondary school. She was always so good at picking boyfriends for me, shame she wasnt so good at picking her own though! And i miss my now best freind cos we are now living miles apart!

Update: Things seem to be going well. She visited last night for a few hours and we enjoyed beer, prawns, the ocean view and each others' company on my back deck. Her daughter is staying with the ex in Queensland in April and plans have been made to take advantage of the daughter's absence (not that the daughter and I are bothered - It's that standard "I must appear a paragon of virtue" thing that Mums seems to need), so it looks like it's heading in the relationship direction. It's good to be me for now!

You get my vote Vivian. You did what most wouldn't have the balls to do, and yes, he deserved it and she deserved to know who she was dealing with. Welcome to our thread!

Hi All, Think you were right Vivian...if he didn't want the truth to come out, he shouldn't have been playing those games. That was the gamble he took, and lost. Who knows you might have done womankind a favour, in that he may not have done it again?

vivian you done the absolutely right thing and showed her what he was really like. If he had said, this is a woman friend who i went to dinner with a little while back, then its fair enough.

Some men are twats, really bad twats too!

I am a perfect example of why internet dating does not suit everyone. Been on two dates one ginger with a hearing and the second salsa guy. Found a lovely looking one who could spell and he is serving in the army and not back until the summer. Plus my DN told me today I reminded her of Miranda (not looks she said!). Do I keep trying or give up?

well, hmm..

I think the more dating you do the sharper you become at cutting out the crap, not putting up with any nonsense, dumping the time wasters, etc etc.
So in a way it would be a shame not to put all that experience to good use..

On the other hand it seems that all that experience leads to a very cynical position where the scales have fallen from your eyes and you understand that a woman really does need a man like a fish needs a bicycle.

yes they can be useful for sex but, if this series of threads is to be believed (cuz we are like so totally objective ) sexual ineptitude is endemic amongst men.

Does that help you to make up your mind purple?

I have to say eventually someone MIGHT get lucky with me.....MAYBE, if he is very good. LOL. Yes men certainly have their uses, and not just in the bedroom either,

Vivian, so you met a guy in a bar and happily went on a dinner date with him before finding out anything about him, then he didn't call and you see him at Xcross with someone else and make a great big deal about it. No I wouldn't have told the girl he was with about the date, I would have rushed passed and ignored him. It's obvious he didn't want to take it further with you so why make anything of it.

Because, adamschic, she thought he had two timed the girl.

I'd have ignored him too...so as to give the impression that I didnt give a toss, getting upset tends to make it look as if you cared more about him than he did about you.
However, I am always wise after the event, but usually fu(k it up when put on the spot

update from me....met a guy off match a couple of weeks ago, had 3 lovely dates with a beautiful gift each time. Treated me like a princess then totally out of the blue this morning I get a TEXT saying he doesn't want to continue with us, because he's been thinking how he's 46 (Im 45) and he doesn't want to date anyone with young children (mine are 10, 11 and 18). Jeeeeezzzz thank you very much you tosser!!!! FFS he knew I had kids before we met! Yet another player who has messed me about :O(

oh charlottesmum i am sorry, why are some men such tossers? I am glad that the chap i am talking to seems to want someone and it to be quite serious! Which obviously means plenty ot the other, and plenty of stability. We sound so compatible! Going to meet in a couple of weeks! Counting the days! and i am moving too, and going through a divorce and mediation! Its all happening and i feel on top of the world! For the first time in yearsm, i feel like i am swimming strongly, rather than drowning!

howing fucking irritating!
put on the nice guy act to keep you sweet while he makes up his mind

I really do hope this guy i am chatting to doesnt end up to be a let down. I dont think he will cos he seems to want something longer terma dn has 4 kids to think about, and his youngest is 4. We have chatted a lot on the phone, texting and calls, but we cant meet until after i move, two weeks away, so in april! CANT wait. I feel bad that i have struck lucky to be honest cos there are some on here who have been having it tough. At least my last chap wasnt a let down and we are still in touch, but not going to date.

I hope things start to get better for everyone on here who is having a tough time!

And why oh why was it that as soon as i am seeing someone the fit guys on POF and OASIS decide to get into contact with me. Feel too guilty dating more than one person at a time as well. Stupid me. But i am enjoying being looked after! Not going to jeopadise an potential new relationship.

charlotte, I had one of those in october but he listed distance as being the issue, I don't get why men can't be honest

Poppa - how lovely

mlm - I would say don't put all your eggs in one basket, if you haven't met, then you aren't seeing each other. I'd answer the hot ones if I was you

I was chatting to someone daily for weeks, on phone and text when out of the blue he disappeared last week. Not a word. Doesn't bother me that he doesn't want to chat anymore but wish they would have the decency to let you know

I don't have much to report, hotbutdim hasn't changed his routine so I think he was having a needy, hormonal evening, which is fine by me

Trying to sort a date for weds for someone else for weds and have two others who have said lets meet but haven't sorted a date yet

Imperial, I was giving my opinion. She had one date with him, it's nothing to do with her who he is or isn't dating.

Charlottesmum, he sounds a bit smooth bringing presents on the first few dates, its being too nice and it doesn't feel genuine when men act like this, before you have both had chance to feel something. I'm sorry this one let you down, hope you meet someone nicer soon.

Mylittle, it's not a problem to chat to other people if you can do so without getting their names mixed up .

Forgot to say with the 'Vivian' situation. He and this girl might have been on a first date when she bumped into them, who knows who she was.

As a bloke I have to hold my hands up and say fair play to Vivian.The moment the guy made her complicit by introducing her as a work colleague he left himself wide open for the metaphorical kick in the bollocks he ended up getting.

On a more positive note I had an absolutey cracking date from POF on Saturday night. :)