Advice please if anyone's up

[losttheflickumdickumagain]

Cant believe I'm asking this, I think I know I'm clutching at straws.

Yesterday I found an old mobile in my husbands van (I never usually go I there). There were literally loads of calls made, as many as 10 a day up until 5:20 (he gets home around 5:45) I rang the number and a woman answered.

We have 3 dc's aged 5 and under. My world has just dropped from under my feet.

He's smashed the phone in temper, and he's saying someone at works been using it for the last couple if weeks. He swears he's not been having an affair.

I am clutching at straws aren't I?

She's got pneumococcal pneumonia, so at least they know what they're treating now. She hasn't had a temperature today, and the boys have been allowed to visit (god I've missed them!) Hopefully she's on the men's.

Thank you for the good wishes xx

Mend even

oh blimey

at least now they know what it is, they can give the appropriate anti biotics

do you know how long she will stay in hospital ?

Not sure yet, she's still got to have antibiotics intravenously. We'll find out more tomorrow, when we see how she's been overnight.

IVAB would usually be a minimum of 10 days

Hi Lost - just catching up on MN and was so sorry to read this. Hope your DD is feeling better by now and that you're doing ok now you know what's wrong - you must be exhausted mentally and physically Wishing you much strength to get through the next few days xx

Infants and the elderly are particularly susceptible to pc and I'm surprised the docs didn't rule it out first or pick it up from your dd's chest xray.

Has she not been vaccinated aganst pc? I'm not familiar with UK vaccination schedules but a first pcv at 2months is commonplace in the US.

Your dd should show a considerable improvement after 36 hours or so of abs and, hopefully, you'll both be back home with your boys very soon.

While you've been gone, honey, this board has been inundated with yet more tales of twuntism. I'm beginning to think that braining's too good for them and I'm inclining to the view that cutting off their bolleux texting fingers will be a more appropriate means of curtailing their egos.

I'm definately up for braining him . I've been sitting here with dd thinking about all the other times we've had scares with ds2 and his asthma, and if h was ever going to have a wake up call about what's important, it should have been then.

I'm not sure what pc's are izzy. Sorry if I'm being a bit thick. She's been up to date with all her immunisations except her twelve month ones. She'd had a slight temperature when she was due then, do I had to rebook. Funnily enough she was due to have them last Thursday, but she was here. I'm thinking she's avoiding them!

Castrating digits is a brilliant idea too, I've told h if he hadn't spent all day (literally every 5 minutes) texting, he'd have made a damn sight more money at work. He's always complained about the splits on his thumbs from working, now I know the true cause.

pc = pneumococcus, the nasty causing your daughter's chest infection

here is the UK vaccination schedule

It must surely be better than meningitis, Lost. Really good her temp has gone down, a bit, though surely.

God help us, you'll need a holiday after this.

We're home . They put her on oral antibiotics this afternoon, and this evening they said we could come home .

They've all had a lovely bath and story together, which was much needed (on my part I think). Dd is now all snuggled on me having a sleepy feed in her chair . Happy happy mummy tonight.

I'm so pleased for you that your dd is making a speedy recovery and that you're home again with your boys although I must confess to feeling cross that the poor little sausage wasn't diagnosed quicker and spared a lp.

I once met an eminent scientific researcher who regularly gave herself lumbar punctures in the interests of her studies. I must say I thought that was going a tad too far for science, but each to their own.

Get yourself an early night, honey - your little dd will soon be blooming with good health and you'll have your hands full again.

Glad you are home and dd is ok x

Happy you're home and DD is on the mend x

Really happy for you, Lost, re your little girl.

Hello, just wondered if anyone's still talking to me? I know I sound pathetic, but I'm still a bit lost, or a lot.

I felt a bit uncomfortable coming on again, as I know everyone thinks I'm being stupid and selfish still staying together while I try to sort my head out. But i still don't seem to know if I'm coming or going

Did want to thank everyone so much for the support while dd was poorly, I really appreciated it, even if it didn't seem like it.

Still talking to you ?

Of course

Is dd fully recovered ?

Do you want to talk ?

Don't be daft Lost-- of course we are still speaking to you.

What's happening now ?

How is you DD?

Nope we are not talking to you. Who were you again?

People will always be here to help. We are not the ones stuck in this situation so it is very easy for us to say you must do this. The realities are it is never so simple or easy. Otherwise there wouldn't be so many people get into these situations.

Have you managed to speak to anyone in a professional capacity? It is very easy to get lost and confused so that eventually it slips away and you feel you can't do anything.

If you haven't do try to just talking it out to someone can answer the questions in your head without them saying anything sometimes.

Also syphon of a tiny bit of money every week/month and start yourself a fund so that if you do wake up and want out you have a little behind you for the first difficult few weeks.

Keep coming and talking and we will keep reading and trying to help. /hugs

hey I have been following your story, and although I have not posted I have been behind you, I am still here! I understand that things are difficult but it is good that you have come back!

How are you ?

Thank you so much, I thought you were just despairing of me.

Dd is much better now thank you. She took her time to recover when we got home, but she did . She's a bit off it at the minute, we've all had a bug, and she's just getting over it, also a big tooth is coming through, so she's crabby and clingy, but that I can handle .

H and I are still going round in circles. The weekend dd was in hospital, I had an appt at the solicitors, that's actually why mum came up, to watch the dc's. But obviously I didn't go. And I've only made one more since, but ds2 was poorly.

When dd was in hospital, h and I seemed to go in different directions. He felt the need to be close, and he 'says', he didn't need it, but it made him realise what a wanker he's been. But it just made me angrier at him, I felt so alone (even though he was there), and it became clearer what a selfish idiot he is. We've always been here, he needed a scare to realise it!!!

I'm feeding dd at the minute, but then I'm going downstairs, so sorry if I don't reply, but I don't want to while h is about. I will tomorrow.

Thank you for still being there, I know it probably sounds daft, but I actually feel like I could cry x