The honing of the twat radars - dating chat thread number 9

[lubeybooby]

Thread got too big so here's a new one :o

All dating, online or otherwise in here please

Chit chat to serious stuff - off we go!

I've never tried Rum. I've never really got on with alcohol, I'm a proper lightweight, one glass of wine and I'm gone! I'm better with Vodka but can still only manage a couple of them before I become a loose woman. I get a massive urge to snog and erm things. So I tend to stick to soft drinks

I thought it might be some sort of sex toy, a special kind of whip or something

at time

hahahahahahaha.
Dark rum is lovely, its my vice of choice. Nothing wrong with being a loose woman AT ALL.

You know, you need to find someone half decent, who you can enjoy a few evenings fun with. But no pressure.

Oooooo... like Captain Morgan's original Spiced Rum? Yummo!

YES!! That is exactly what I need watch! I do quite like being a bit of a loose woman but I need to make sure I'm with a bloke I also like before I hit the bottle.

Kraken, heels and stockings.

Do you want to be able to walk tomorrow?

What is it with the heels and stockings? My fantasy woman knocks on my door dressed in faded jeans or cargo pants and nothing more.

and bare feet too I bet Poppa

Watch won't be able to walk properly for a while anyway Snape so the Kraken, heels and stockings won't make any difference

I concur, Zany, it's something he needs to to get over before you commit any further. My ex threw out all my photos when we got together, as some had my previous exs in. He saw keeping these as an indication that I was still holding a torch. I now recognise this as possessive and unhealthy. Hindsight, eh?

Re: the size issue. I'm 5' 9" and a small 14, but not overly fit so I describe myself as average. I have t&a, but I'm in proportion so I think that's truthful. I don't know why people would massively exaggerate physical attributes? Clearly it will be obvious that you've lied when you turn up?

watch, I think I might be living vicariously through your posts now.
Thanks for clarifying the Kraken thing though, I was a bit confused for a minute.

time, will you be giving houseroom pride of place to your flying pig, or will you be generously regifting it? :)

OK, a bit of update here. German Dr. has texted to say have a nice day, etc., etc., but is being extremely "cool" even though nice. I had a look at his msn profile and he now has a new female "friend", which I know is OK but I now have a little voice at the back of my head saying that he wants all of his pieces of cake and he wants to eat them all...

I know that I am being over sensitive here, just knock some sense into me....feel like a bloody teenager, grrrr.....

Zanywany, "and bare feet too I bet Poppa". Of course!

He has texted this morning to apologise for quizzing me and we said we will chat later. I might be almost expecting possessiveness/controlling behavior as my XP was like that so I may have over reacted. Anyway will sort out later.

It could just be a friend noluck or a member of his family he has added. I guess unless you are exclusively dating then he may well be in touch with other females.

Dating I think it will have pride of place on a shelf in the special cupboard I have for regifting/school tombola I've had enough of pigs to last me a lifetime!

noluck Ask him about his new friend. Make it clear that you have no problem with him dating other women if that's what he so wishes but it doesn't suit you to be an alternative so you will be walking away. Don't let the situation cause you grief or heartache, it's so not worth it.

Yes I know, it's just that before the "deed" he was so attentive and since has become distant, but I'm most probably being too sensitive and must harden up a bit....

Listen to your gut instinct.

And talk to him

yes, I will....I can't even remember what being a teenager was like!!!!

Well at least not really, and I suppose not having spots to worry about is an asset and I don't have to beg for pocketmoney anymore.

I'm 5ft 9 and a dress size 16. I would describe myself as 'voluptuous' (lots of boobs, slightly top heavy) on dating sites I describe as 'a few extra lbs' or 'curvy'. I would never willingly describe myself as 'average' in any way, shape or form, even if i were! :)

try not to stress noluck just chalk it up to a good shag if it was and keep your options open, i think. :)

I am now hooked on applying for online competitions!

date is at six. dinner and drinks. :)

Also, could I just say that I don't think you have to 'harden up a bit' because this man has become distant, nor are you being too sensitive. You are reacting to how he is behaving towards you, you are picking up on something but rather than trust what you are feeling you are blaming yourself for feeling it. Don't just sit back and wait for him to do the dirty on you then come back to thread saying "I knew something wasn't right", deal with it now. Either take a step back and see how he responds or have a chat about becoming exclusive. Take control of the situation, the cards are in your hands as much as they are in his

I'm 5ft 9 and a half and am now a 12/14 but I am very fine boned so could afford to weigh at least another stone less than I do. I love my boobs though and don't want to lose them, it's a bugger when we have to choose between boobs and dress size.

Which online competitions are you entering Snape. I'm interested!

Looking forward to the update on your date.

Ohh hope your date goes well Snape

Good advice as always Time. I think its often easier to blame ourselves rather than to realise we are feeling a particular way because of how we are being treated.

I'm 5ft 9 and a half but to everyone else I say 5ft 10 - sounds so much taller

i feel like such a midget now :)

snape - have a fantastic date, i will attempt to check in at some point....

no luck- did you have a conversation that you were exclusive and ' dating' if not, then you cant assume anything. Until either party says other wise, you have to assume they are dating/ shagging/ whatever others. Harsh but true and just the way it is. I wouldnt say anything about his new msn addition, you have no idea who it is, and tbh and this is going to sound mean, but its not your business. I knw its difficult though.

The stockings? ive never come across a man that doesnt have a thing for them. I however shall be rocking them in my own style, stockings and heels below, old band t shirt, messed up hair and a smudge of too much eyeliner :)
Plus - and heres the genuis bit, i dont have to go hunting for clothes inbetween, and can just prance around in the t shirt. genius. tis genius.

I don't have a thing for them :-(